working abroad

Philippines
April 7, 2012 9:10am CST
my husband is abroad and just last month..i lost my long time job....he doesnt want me to work and advised me just to stay home and look after our two kids.it's totally fine with me..especially that my kids will start schooling by june..i would love to see them and teach their assignments..however...it's also difficult not having my own money....i missed waiting for the payday....but aside from that..i am not able to save coz what he gives to us would be spent for our daily expenses.....i want to apply for a job so that i can help him save more....wish i could find one right away...
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14 responses
• India
8 Apr 12
If you husband is earning much then why you have to go for it ? I know that it will be very good when you are working to find your daily expenses but as considering your children part they need your care and love and you are the ones to give them such things. So keep this thing in your mind and go for the best. Best of luck!
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
8 Apr 12
We were also discussing this as options. Currently, I am working full time and hubby too. He mentioned of working in another place or even abroad but we both dismissed the idea as we do not want to be separated by distance and be away from the kids, since we could still fulfill the needs of our children. He is building up a business now instead of working overseas. I for one, wants to venture in a business too rather than work for someone, though the pay is good and it is nice to receive pay every payday but I want to be with my kids more often now, I want to be the one to fetch them in school, r be able to bake for them anytime I want to. So I might opt for that nytime soon. Cherish your time with them, you can earn at home too if u want to earn.
@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
8 Apr 12
hi there, i know exactly how you feel. just a suggestion, maybe yo can have some business like sell some stuffs and so you can also be home-based and also you can look after your kids. will you be the one to take them to school and pick them up? because if that's so, you can also sell some stuffs to some moms at school. when i was in college, i would sell Avon stuffs. and i can say i earn a lot just by doing it. i just stopped because i got so busy with everything during my last semester. but i would love to do it again. if you can get a nanny for your kids then you can apply for a job and you can also talk it out with your husband.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
8 Apr 12
Just stay at home and care your kids, you may feel so bored one day. Better you find a part-time job, so that you can care your kids also when your hubby work abroad. You are the only person who know how to distribute your time in a day for your own work and caring your kids. Write whole works that you have to do in a day in a paper, then you may know what kind of work is suitable for you and find it. Hope you can find a suitable work and still have much time to care your kids.
• China
8 Apr 12
working abroad may be a good choice for personal promotion while for a family is not.However, your husband must have a higher pay.so you need not find a job to support .
• China
8 Apr 12
I think your two kids are more important for you at present because they are very small and need your mother love. you can just take care of your kids firstly until they grow a little up and have the ability to live lodge school. at that time, you can still find a job to work, only need to spend your time on weekend with your kids. you don't need to worried about your living expenses at present if your husband can provide it easily. I hope you can be a happy mother! Taking care of 2 kids ia your biggest achievement.
@GemmaR (8517)
7 Apr 12
I always admire those people who find that they can work abroad, but I know that it is never something which I would be able to choose for myself. For one thing, I am far too close to my family at home to ever even think about moving away from them. I have problems even moving from the same town as my family home so I know that I would just never be able to be in a different country to them. However, I do know that sometimes decisions have to be made which are difficult, and I hope that everything works out for you in the long term.
@magtibaygom (4858)
• Philippines
7 Apr 12
Have you consulted a physician about your situation? There might be a problem, a health problem with you. If you consult a doctor, he/she would usually prescribe you some medication and give you some recommendation so you can deal properly with that problem. He/she will also explain to you what specific problem is causing that.
@laniekins (4579)
• Philippines
7 Apr 12
I feel for you, I am also thinking if I get married I also want to work too. Living is a struggle for ordinary family and even if your husband is working abroad, it's still hard to squeeze the budget. Good luck to you and hope you landed on the job that you need.
@dilrajj57 (1757)
• Pakistan
7 Apr 12
you husband right to say you, as that is also a work a job that you lookafter your two kids and you make them good for life that is a big job for you and very hard working to look after the kids to feed them and son on.
• Canada
7 Apr 12
I think you should tal to your husband about this and try to explain what you feel regarding this issue and that you want to work so that you can help with securing your family's future by having more savings. Although looking after your family is full time work as is, if you feel the need to get a paid job you should discuss it with your husband and make a decision based on what is best for you...
@pacobid (71)
• China
8 Apr 12
It seems that you are confused.I think this is very common for woman.They do not want to wait for the payday.They want to gog to work and earn some money on their own.At the same time,they have to take care of their kids.I think you can take some tiny job.Nowadays,people can work at home.You could choose to become a freelancer.Although you may not earn too much on this,you could get some.Some sites like slicethepie is excellent,I think.
@in2day (120)
• Netherlands
7 Apr 12
You should do what's best for all of you. You have my cheering! :) When my parents went abroad for work I was around 3/4 years. They left me and my brother (who was 6 at the time) behind. My mother's family took care of us. After 2 years we could be together again in another country. It ended up just fine... ;)
• Philippines
7 Apr 12
My husband and i were x-abroad.. But then when we went home he wants me to stay back not for the kids (we stil dnt have kids yet) but he wants me to stay for my mom to look after her 'cause of her illness, the same as you im missing waiting for payday lol.. Its hard for being a woman its just stay back home but its ok, as a woman its our obligation to take care of our fam :)