Only 4 out of 150 people are willing to help..Why?

Australia
April 8, 2012 10:30pm CST
Okay, so I created a fundraising blog to help a very special person. I have sent emails and messages to PEOPLE I know. There are more than 150 of them. After a couple of days, I have checked my blog stats and it showed that there are 100 views. The good thing is they at least viewed my page. However, Out of 100 views, there were just 4 who gave a donation, and I am thankful to them. I just thought, what happened to my so-called friends? It is okay if they won't give a donation but the sad thing is, I didn't even get a word of encouragement except from all 4. Is it really true that there are people who claim to be our friends but they are just friends for 'GOOD TIMES' and not in 'bad times'? Why is this happening? Do you have the same experience?
4 responses
@ifa225 (14364)
• Indonesia
14 Apr 12
Hi eden it is sad that only some friends who willing to help u i ever feel in your shoe too when i was looking for a job Only two of my friends out of 150 who wants to help me
• Australia
14 Apr 12
It is not about money or any material thing, right? I was really hoping that even a thoughtful words of encouragement is what my friends will say. But well, I guess they're just friends for good times... :-)
@ifa225 (14364)
• Indonesia
14 Apr 12
I think it is our nature that we love to tenda to closer to happiness than sadness. Tough they dont help me in my bad times..i still considere them as my friend
@slaney (18)
• Indonesia
14 Apr 12
indeed sometimes we think of as friends actually not our friend.they just said we were friends buttheir attitude indicates that they do not consider us friends,
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
9 Apr 12
well ,maybe your friend had a difficult too about money maybe they had no much money for giving donation
• Australia
9 Apr 12
I understand that. Well, I still hope they will give words of encouragement because I need that too.
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
9 Apr 12
eden, maybe your friends just can't afford to help you out financially for now. also, people have funny feelings about donating to charities. some people doubt that the money will go to charity anyway. not to say that your friends don't believe in you. they just probably don't believe in the system to deliver the money to the rightful hands. either way, i don't think it's personal that your friends are not supporting you financially on this. they may not have the funds. maybe you could think about having them help you in other ways. for example, by spreading the word out to others that may be able to donate. good luck on your charity and happy mylotting.
• Australia
9 Apr 12
MoonGypsy, I do understand that they can't help out financially. I really do. But I didn't even hear encouraging words from them. They seemed to be having fun and totally forgot about me. But I will really try to understand them. I just got a bit disappointed of not being able to at least hear from them.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
9 Apr 12
Yeah that is the way things like this normally go. People are friends through all of t he good times. There is all smiles, happy vibes, all good times, everyone linking right hand to hand, and everything is great, everyone is friends. When everything goes not so good, rather duck and hide, run for cover, something is ruining our happy days. Granted, I'm sure there are just a lot of times where people have their own concerns to deal with. But obviously a lot of times, people just tend to feel rather uncomfortable and don't feel the need to be supportive through the good times, right through the bad. There will be many circumstance and I have experienced the same things. I just shrug my shoulders and understand that's the way things are going to be.