My husband's illness taught me something.

I was like you when I lost my Mom. I could handle all of the problems, the cleaning of wounds, cleaning her up after accidents, and doing whatever it took to take care of her. The hardest part of all the the care for her was letting her go. I wanted my Mom to live with me forever...and I knew during the last 19 hours that she was fighting to stay alive to take care of me. The hardest thing for me to do was to tell her it was alright for her to leave me, that I would be okay without her. I lied through my teeth to her, but I wanted her passing to be as easy and stress free as possible. My Mom left me in total peace. I never want to go through that kind of thing again!

I worked at a nurseing home and i could deal with the cleaning up there messes and the blood didnt bother me but, spit idk why but spit and drool grossed me out so much.

I cannot remember the hardest thing. . . perhaps it was his lack of sleep. He was afraid for awhile, mostly because no one could understand what he needed except me. At seventeen, when we met, it seemed we had a great connection mentally/spiritually and that was one thing that many people talked about when they saw us together at forty two. I think I was afraid of not doing enough.I learned to do tube feedings, etc. I did not do his nails, but the home did. I understand about the diabetes. In our state a licensed practical nurse or an RN can trim nails for a diabetic.

I guess, when we are in a situation where our partner doesn't have anybody but us to take care of him, we have no choice but to be courageous and patient in doing the things needed, for him to be well. Besides, it's the time to show our side of "for better or for worse".

You are such a whole-hearted wife who care a husband devotedly. for sure, you have more experience to care a sickness person but my husband also know more about you after it. He would know that he is so lucky when have a good wife like you.

I am not really a domesticated person nor motherly in anyway so I always feel that I suck at taking care of any person. But if it is my parents who are in need of taking care especially when they are sick, it is almost always a hundred and eighty degree turn on my capabilities to do things. What I find really hard though when it comes to doing things for my loved ones whenever they are sick is having to do certain task which they should be doing had they not been ill. Like for example, going to the grocery. My mother is the one who do all the shopping for food, but when she is not feeling well, I have to do it myself. My mom is so good at getting products which are value for money while I,on the other hand always ends up going over budget. But it's a learning experience, and I am sure that through these experiences, I am making myself more knowledgeable in terms of doing things I don't usually do.

You husband may have learn more about you during his illness and after his recovery period. He should be glad he has a wife that care and love him so much who is not tired of cleaning him up and deal with the needle every day while he is forced to stay in bed the whole day. Cool!

It's complicated when he's got diabetes. But I admire you, such a great wifey you are... It's not that easy to care for the ill loved one. But again it's a "LOVED ONE" so I guess that's what keeps you pushing and giving more of yourself (money, effort and time)...He's lucky to have you. Risky for the fingernails eh? yeah, it's true a single littlest cut may end up into an infection, which these nurses or aides avoid to happen or cause. And I guess that's what you're thinking too and make you have butterflies in your stomach when you clip his nails. Then again, that's just a season of your life. it may be a short season or a long one, but if you endure, and don't give up, you'd always get a harvest of blessing in the end. And the fact that you've dealt with all those you've already dealt with, that's already a blessing, coz you've learned A LOT!

When a loved one is ill people are always surprised at how far they can go to even just try to ease their pain for a few split seconds. The bigger things once they do it they find it no problem but its always the tiny little things you'd have never thought about that will throw you off somewhat. Sorry about your husband though my well wishes to you and him