How Do You Talk to Your 10 Year Old Son ...
By Muelitz
@Muelitz (1592)
Canada
April 25, 2012 2:40pm CST
Our 10 year old son is in grade 5. He has always been regarded as a quiet kid who does his best to study. This afternoon my wife received a call from his principal.
She was told that my son has been involved in 2 incidents. The first on was that my son was saying unpleasant things to his girl classmates. The second was about his participation in a video that was apparently recorded in the washroom using a Nintendo DS. The video is all about killings (I am hoping it is about a video game). I have not seen it as of this time.
Have you been in this situation? How did you handle the situation? Any advice will be appreciated. Thanks
She was told that my son has been involved in 2 incidents. The first on was that my son was saying unpleasant things to his girl classmates. The second was about his participation in a video that was apparently recorded in the washroom using a Nintendo DS. The video is all about killings (I am hoping it is about a video game). I have not seen it as of this time.
Have you been in this situation? How did you handle the situation? Any advice will be appreciated. Thanks7 responses
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
25 Apr 12
Hi Muelitz, peer pressure is a strong emotion...I think you should
appriach your son carefully and speak with him asap...He obviously
dosen't want you guys to ever think he is acting in school...so let
him know how disappointment you are, and find out why and let him
know where these actions will lead him..
If he is really not a bad kid, please check him before he gets away,,
Its time to check him.. if he actually listen to you while he is
home have that talk soon....
Good luck...
@Muelitz (1592)
• Canada
25 Apr 12
That is true, peer pressure is the worst. If you do not go along with them, you will become an outcast and worst be bullied. It really is nice to belong so I guess that is why he joins in activities such as these. I will surely talk to him about actions and consequences. I hope he will be in a receptive mood when I talk to him. Thanks.
@thechans (79)
• United States
25 Apr 12
I have an eight year old daughter, but have never encountered anything like this so far. I don't think I can give you any advice because haven't had to deal with this yet. But I do sympathize with you. I would say that after you see the video you will have to make a decision as to if he was just kidding or if he needs help. All we can do is love our children and do whats best for them. Good luck.
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
25 Apr 12
Your son might like the girl classmates but be shy. He might need help with appropriate things to say to them. A lot of boys play at killing because they perceive war is exciting. You should try to view the video so you can speak to your son. You could arrange to meet up for a chat with your son's principle. Good luck and I hope that the school won't be too hard on your son.
@1corner (744)
• Canada
26 Apr 12
It's important to not jump to conclusions right now. Find out everything about these incidents from BOTH him & the school, and put two & two together. (Yes, getting to see that video would be helpful). Furthermore, your approach with him has to be firm, yet fair. If he did something wrong, let him know that's unacceptable, but don't bear down hard on him. Try not to make him feel like he's a villain - others were involved in this too, and at his age, peer pressure could have played a role. If it's due to social awkwardness, take this as an opportunity to teach him how to interact with girls. Wish you & your son the best.
@Archaiwy (599)
• China
26 Apr 12
Above all, you shoud sound like that you like him, although he did something wrong.Parents should always keep an eye on him so as to know what he is doning . If he does something wrong you can point out in time.Secondly, parents should set an example to their children. Children often follow their parents.
@safety69 (592)
• Taiwan
26 Apr 12
Just comedown , talk with him normal as with a friend, start your conversations about girls , I think is time for it. Ask him what could be so bad that he said those words to that girl, about the video I think is a good hability the kids developed, just explain him that the can do it in another place , like , getting together in a park or in someones house , you can offer your house to do that in their spare time , thats a good thing to start with , win his trust.
@thelmadacullo112659 (642)
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
Ialk him in a right way way and teach hime gmrc.teach well discipline and above all preach the words of God...........
