single mom
By stacilyn8812
@stacilyn8812 (61)
United States
April 27, 2012 11:26am CST
I am a single mom of 3 they are 5 3 and 3 months old. I love my kids and I love there father but he is married to someone else he got married after I told him I was prego with our last child. I knew he was engaged when I got prego with my 3 month old and you can say I am bad person or whatever you want but he was telling me he was leaving her and he wanted to be with. But then he got married a month after I told him I was prego and now he is telling his wife that it is not his kid. You can say I need to move on and I am trying but it is hard when we talk about our kids all the time cuz he can't or wont come and see them. I do not have job so I am at my house with my kids all the time my two older kids are in preschool together witch is great then I get some time to my self cuz that's usually when my little one takes his nap. My ex thinks he can control what I do and thinks I should bring our kids to see him. My kids hardly ever see him and when they do its for a few hours then he leaves, they dont seem to care when he is not around and when he is they want him to stay and I know there is a reason we are not together, that is he cheated on me.. But I know if he did leave his wife or she left him he would come here and I dont think I would be strong enough to tell him to go away but I know for my kids that is what I would need to do or they will learn its OK to be walked all over and disrespected and just take it I want my kid to have better then what me and there father did have. One day they were telling me they wanted a new daddy one who reads them stories before bed, stay with them, plays with them, and loves them and there mommy and does not leave and get married to some other women.. I love my kids! They are the best.
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7 responses
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
28 Apr 12
I'm not here to judge you. I am in no position to say that to anybody. If you think you have made a mistake in your life by getting pregnant with a guy who doesn't want to do anything with your kids and the truth is with you too, because if he does he would have married you instead of her, then it's time for you to learn from that mistake and move on.
You really deserve someone better than him. Please be strong enough to resist him. There are other guys who will love you for all that you are and would give everything to you including a good life with your children.
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
28 Apr 12
I know it's too late to say "you should've known better". But heck, you're already in that position.
One thing I know is that you shouldn't talk to your kids about your problems. Let them be kids we only get to be a kid once in our lives and we shouldn't worry about what mommy and daddy are fighting over or doing.
Anyhow, if you're staying home, who's supporting you and the kids? You know that he's never going to leave her right? Stop thinking that he will. I think you should learn to get your mind off the clouds or fairytales and do something about your situation. The kids are getting older and they're going to be needing a lot of stuff, how are you going to afford that?
Yes, MyLot could be one of the ways you could earn, but we all know it wouldn't be enough. For you to earn $10.00 you need to post descriptive and quality posts of about 5 posts a day for a month - that sure is a lot of effort for a small amount of money, don't you think?
So there you go. Stop thinking about the guy, stop thinking of your past and how things 'could have been', wake up your kids need you to be stronger and do something about your life and theirs. The answer is not another daddy. The answer is what you're going to do about it.
Have a great MyLot experience ahead.
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@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
28 Apr 12
You aren't a bad. You were and (judging from your unwillingness to take any part of the blame for your situation) still are very naive. The mistakes have already been made though. Hopefully in time you'll learn from them. I hope also that you and your children will find the husband and father you are looking for. You won't find him though while your eyes are open only to that man who did you wrong.
@stacilyn8812 (61)
• United States
29 Apr 12
None of my kids are mistakes and I have never and will never say any of them are.
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
29 Apr 12
No one is saying your kids are mistakes. Where does it say that? I'm talking about you getting with that man and becoming pregnant by him not once but three times and you weren't even married. Some men will say any kind of lie to get you to bed with them. Obviously he is such a man.
@factorial (977)
• Philippines
28 Apr 12
I am touched with your situation... I don't know what to say... God bless you in your search of a good partner...
@burhan2husain (43)
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28 Apr 12
Nice Discussion Friend. Its very hard to heard, that your husband has leave you and get married with another women. You are one of the women who dont have husband. I cant do anything for you, but god will help you.
@ayisi1999 (11)
• China
28 Apr 12
you are a poor woman,i don't know how can i say to help you. god bless you.
