Signs your relationship is not what you think it is!
By EvanHunter
@EvanHunter (4026)
United States
April 28, 2012 7:52am CST
Was going to post an article I read about signs in your relationship from eHarmony but figured I could do one better and just give examples myself.
Signs a relationship isn't going to work or is about over:
1.) If after dating several months your SO (significant other) is still introducing you as their "friend" than things are probably not going to last.
2.) If your SO tells you that you should of married your ex-girlfriend/boyfriend than it probably means they are trying to encourage you in another direction than themselves.
3.) If you come home from work early one day to find a message on the home phone saying "I hope you get this before he/she does", than things probably aren't heading in the right direction.
4.) If your SO is out with friends and doesn't come home until after closing time and doesn't answer their cell phone. Than its a pretty good indication things are about over.
5.) If your SO likes to throw things, punch, slap or even put cigarettes out on your arm than its a pretty good indication that things aren't going to work out.
6.) If your SO cheats on you more than likely they will do it again. Once the line has been crossed they don't stop crossing it they just get better at not getting caught.
7.) If your SO boss calls you an hour after they left for work to ask if they are going to be in and why they are always late, its a pretty good sign things are not going to work out.
8.) Getting back together with someone you once dated/lived with during holidays, their birthday or during a hard time in their life does not mean they value you and have regrets, it means they are lonely and hard up.
9.) If you find naked pictures of your SO on their phone or computer older than a few days than it probably was meant for someone other than you.
10.) If you have a friend that always comes over for coffee when you are not at home but at work than they aren't coming over for coffee.
Anything you care to add to the discussion so other people can be forewarned they are about to get messed over please do so.
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
29 Apr 12
Those are good suggestions. It's important for people to know these things. This will help them to be able to recognize things that at times we may not want to admit. It can be hard to admit that we see the signs but when others give us a list it puts things in perspective. Thanks for sharing.
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@EvanHunter (4026)
• United States
29 Apr 12
No problem! But I doubt it will help cause when you are involved with someone you always make excuses until you have finally had your fill.
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
20 May 12
You make a good point. We do tend to make a lot of excuses for the person that we are with. Because we feel we have such strong feelings for them and that we will be able to deal with whatever problems they may have. Which later we will more than likely learn we can't.
@coldnpale (555)
• Greece
29 Apr 12
Lol. Those signs are pretty obvious actually. Most of them aren't really signs that help you understand that your relationship isn't going as good as you thought. they mostly indicate you that your SO is an idiot, doesnt care about you and on the top of all that he/she is cheating on you. Anyway, it's good to beware of things as the above. For sure they mean something really bad is going on. :P
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@EvanHunter (4026)
• United States
29 Apr 12
lol, hey I still say mine were better than the ones that eHarmony listed.
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@coldnpale (555)
• Greece
29 Apr 12
Hehe, i didn't say they were bad.. just a little too obvious. I respect the fact you took your time and created a list and wrote them down though.:) I imagine that the list on eHarmony was quite bad though. Maybe i should check them out. :P
@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
29 Apr 12
mine has been over long time back already. but it is still good to read those lists and see which one was like my experience.
@EvanHunter (4026)
• United States
29 Apr 12
Anything you care to add to it? It seems that a lot of people go through the same things in relationships. I guess we are just too blind to what is going on to see that it's not going to work out at the time. I guess its a can't see the forest for the trees kind of thing.
@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
29 Apr 12
yeah i think we are blinded that time or maybe can't just let go and not ready to face the truth. i have not much to add as i didn't go through many relationships. i had only few relationships. and too far in between actually.
@EvanHunter (4026)
• United States
6 May 12
I guess that is the problem if you go through all of them than even if you find something better but still not right you think its great and are willing to put up with it.
@apoljuice1 (730)
• Philippines
30 Apr 12
Based on my experience, :
* if your SO gets angry every time you ask about a certain someone that's one sign;
* If you SO keeps their phone out of reach (I think this was mentioned)
* If your SO gets very pissed off because you don't agree that they go somewhere else.
* if your SO starts making plans without telling you
* If your SO suddenly doesn't come home after a few days
*If you catch your SO hiding chats or flipping browsers fom his social networking site when you come withing visual distance of him, then those are signs.
@apoljuice1 (730)
• Philippines
30 Apr 12
Oh, here's another tell tale sign:
* If your SO becomes suspicious of YOUR friends all of a sudden.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
28 Apr 12
I'm not able to relate much on the list you gave. I could add the following points, though.
* If your partner has never introduced you to his family, and even if you initiate the thought, they would give you reasons why not to.
* If your partner often changes plans or cancels a previously arranged date or meet up.
* If your partner denies you of the freedom to use their phone, or answer calls for them, or read their messages.
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@EvanHunter (4026)
• United States
28 Apr 12
Oh, the not introducing you to their family is a great one. Obviously they are not serious about you if they don't want their family to know about you.
The changing plans thing I could understand if it was to do with their work but if its just because they want to hang out with their friends or they are unwilling to put you first over anything else than I see your point.
I would say if you were in a long term relationship and they start hiding their phone like you said than they got something going on they don't want you to know about. They are either cheating on you or bad mouthing you behind your back.
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@Soniasony (1827)
• India
29 Apr 12
Good points which can only come through experiences!, but it also looks like you are so very doubtful about SO, that is the major factor which impulses one to lose relationship..remember 'thought becomes things'- THE SECRET , when you see the world that everything is trying to cheat on you , then i bet all things happening support your thoughts!
@ladyhemingway (965)
• Philippines
29 Apr 12
This is a very comprehensive list and I can relate to it. I was thinking of my past relationships while I was reading your lists and I found myself nodding in realization and approval to some of the stated facts particularly no. 1,2,4, and 8.
And if I may add to your list, If your SO refuses to have you meet his friends, family, relatives, and even office mates, it is a sure sign that he is not sure about you, therefore, he is not sure about the relationship.
@EvanHunter (4026)
• United States
29 Apr 12
I am not so sure about the introducing you to his co-workers part. I myself try to keep my family life separate from work but I can definitely agree with the friends and family portion.
