They are all grown but sure dont act like it!
By bonnie
@bunnybon7 (50970)
Holiday, Florida
April 28, 2012 7:55pm CST
All my kids are grown, over 30 yrs but last night they were acting 7yrs again if not younger. 
all except my oldest that made me so happy yesterday. my youngest had to move in with us the begining of April. W. we will call him, had no place else to go but homeless shelter or here. I even gave up my extra room for him. as you know there are rules to go by when living with 6 adults in the house. one is, no drinking or coming back home drunk. 
it seems after oldest son went to bed, they all went out and got beer. i was in my room but soon heard loud noises in the garage (of course) my room being right next to it. W. was wanting to fight C. daughters bf, and she was coming between them fussing at her brother, even though it all started over C. cussing my daughter and being abusive. Well, they kept up the trouble till son woke up and made them all go to bed and straighten out. this morn he had a talk with everyone including me that has been trying to keep things peaceful but accomplishing the opposite. 
A lot came out about everyone and now im just so tired from only a couple hours sleep. So yes, i didnt do such a good job with 4 out of 5 kids after all. Do some of your adult kids just act like they are 7yrs or younger at times? i believe it was the drinking. dont you? my oldest laid down the law. i just hope it works this time.
all except my oldest that made me so happy yesterday. my youngest had to move in with us the begining of April. W. we will call him, had no place else to go but homeless shelter or here. I even gave up my extra room for him. as you know there are rules to go by when living with 6 adults in the house. one is, no drinking or coming back home drunk. it seems after oldest son went to bed, they all went out and got beer. i was in my room but soon heard loud noises in the garage (of course) my room being right next to it. W. was wanting to fight C. daughters bf, and she was coming between them fussing at her brother, even though it all started over C. cussing my daughter and being abusive. Well, they kept up the trouble till son woke up and made them all go to bed and straighten out. this morn he had a talk with everyone including me that has been trying to keep things peaceful but accomplishing the opposite. A lot came out about everyone and now im just so tired from only a couple hours sleep. So yes, i didnt do such a good job with 4 out of 5 kids after all. Do some of your adult kids just act like they are 7yrs or younger at times? i believe it was the drinking. dont you? my oldest laid down the law. i just hope it works this time.4 people like this
13 responses
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
29 Apr 12
Hi Bun,
It probably was the drinking. Hope they won't be doing that again. I cannot deal with drunks. We don't drink here. Oh if they did I wouldn't live with them.
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
29 Apr 12
i wouldnt if i could figure a way to get rid of the biggest drunk here, id be fine. 
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@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
29 Apr 12
Put up a sign that says no drinking and no drunks allowed. All bookstore will be prosecuted to the fullest extent if the law! I hate dealing with drunks and made it my goal in life to get rid of them. I refuse to have any drinkers in my life. I dealt with it for years. Divorce was the best way to get rid of them. Thank god my daughter doesn't drink and neither does her hubby. His family and none of his family drinks.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
29 Apr 12
This stupid iPhone said bookstore when u CLEARLY wrote DRUNKARD. if you see any other mistakes it's the intuitive program on my iPhone. It gets crazy at times.
@GardenGerty (169489)
• United States
29 Apr 12
It seems a lot of the trouble begins and ends with C. It is not fair that you have to give up so much for everyone and then they act like fools. Okay, I am losing track here. There is you, the oldest, and W, and one daughter and C. That is five, who else is there? Just curious.
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
29 Apr 12
ong, you are right. i didnt realise id said 6 adults
theres obviously only 5 that should be acting like adults
i must have been counting coco, my little dog. lol! yes im quite silly myself some times. btw, i also found ALL these replies in my spam folder today! mylot is some how miss sending? you was the one reminded me of this and when i saw no posts in my email, i checked. sure enough they were all there.1 person likes this
@GardenGerty (169489)
• United States
4 Aug 12
HI, bunny, how is coco doing? How about the childish adults there, are things any better?
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
13 May 12
Actually Bon, it sounds worse than that. I think I could tolerate and control 7 year olds because you can give them the benefit of the doubt about not knowing better. These grown up children are acting like 17 year olds and that's dangerous.
I hope No 1 son has things sorted...we worry about you , you know.
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
13 May 12
thanks dear friend. i worry about myself and them actually, i still lock my door against my own kids at night even though they have never given me cause while sober. i just dont trust drinkers and dont know when or if they will drink. 
plus i have coco and she barks even if she knows the person entering my room (our room, mine and hers that is)
so dont worry i will survive.
actually, i still lock my door against my own kids at night even though they have never given me cause while sober. i just dont trust drinkers and dont know when or if they will drink. plus i have coco and she barks even if she knows the person entering my room (our room, mine and hers that is) so dont worry i will survive.
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
29 Apr 12
oh b unnybon thats awful as if you did not have enough on your
plate.So all your kids were being juvenile except your oldest
son.oh its the booze for sure. I am glad your oldest son laid down the law and I sure hope it sticks. grown ups acting like little kids is not fun at all. Not the way you describe it., now my son and his friend will be talking about cars and suddenly one of them will be making an imitation car noise but other than that they are really great and well behaved too, my son just left after visiting me, He did not stay as long as I would have liked but
he told me he had had a bad night without much sleep ,.so he wanted to go get something to eat then ,make an early night of it., he
is so good to me. like my hubby used to be.
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
29 Apr 12
he obviously came from 2 very good people. and is a chip off the block, huh. you did a very good job. and your hubby also@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
29 Apr 12
btw, would you believe all these were in my spam in email? first time that happened in a long long time. 
@inertia4 (27978)
• United States
30 Apr 12
Well, I do not have grown kids yet. They are still young. But me myself, well I am still a kid at heart. But if I had a sister and her boy friend was a moron, I would start a major war. Thats just how I am. So maybe your son had good reason to want to fight him. I understand the stress that comes with all this drama. But as long as your oldest was able to control the situation is a big plus.
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
30 Apr 12
problem is i was dealing with it till he got woke up and also, i figured he would jump on his brother since my daughter was trying to protect her bf, even though my youngest was wanting to fight him for mistreating her! does that make any sense? why do women take up for the abusive boyfriend if someone is trying to save her? its just a wonder to me. i dont understand women and i am one1 person likes this
@inertia4 (27978)
• United States
2 May 12
I understand. It does seem to be one of those things that there is no explanation for. Girls do some strange things. But remember, right now she might not be aware that he has control of her. Some people are easily turned. One day she will see him for what he is. Hopefully she will be okay.
@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
29 Apr 12
oh my poor friend with this messed up night. We have neighbours who like to get drunk so I know what you are talking about.
They also started getting noisy around 1 am last night. grrrrr. I still was online but hated it nevertheless.
Hope you will be able to catch up on much needed sleep this following night.
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
29 Apr 12
i dont know if you can there, but here we call the cops if the neighbors get to crazy. guess its a good thing our neighbors didnt do that cause son would have really cleaned house if the cops coming had woke him. its bad enough when they woke him. actually C was the person that woke him but of course daughter claimed it was something /or someone else. its a shame when my daughter will throw her own brother under the bus like that as we call it, over her bf.
@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
1 May 12
poor bunnybon hope by now you could catch up on zzzzzz.
Here the Police is lazy as could be, first they would insist on us talking to these weirdos first and then they would say nothing has happened yet no harm done so we wont come to your rescue.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
29 Apr 12
Hi bunny,
It seems it is more comfortable living with small kids like living with the adults that acts like a kid hehehe. I hope that also that your oldest can handle them that don't make so much trouble on you. They are all grown ups but still it's hard when nobody will stands for them and watch.
. I hope that also that your oldest can handle them that don't make so much trouble on you. They are all grown ups but still it's hard when nobody will stands for them and watch.@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
29 Apr 12
yes and grown ups should not act like a bunch of fighting kids
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
29 Apr 12
Hey bun~ Sorry to hear that you are having to still deal with all of
the "drama" with the kids. Like you said, thankfully you have your
one son who can step up and take charge! It is very difficult for
so many adults to all be living in the same house especially under
some of the circumstances. I think that your daughter needs to get
her bf "under control". It is one thing to put up with your own
kids acting out. But when it seems to always be her bf starting the
trouble I don't know why you continue to allow them to stay! I
would have kicked his azz out a long time ago! I give you alot of
credit for being such a great and understanding mom!
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
29 Apr 12
thanks but if i could figure a way to get rid of him without my daughter stepping in i would. i think my son has even tried to figure how to do it without her hate @JenInTN (27514)
• United States
6 May 12
My oldest child certainly doesn't act the way I want him to or taught him. There is just an age and a time when they make their own choices. We can't be to blame to for every mistake they make. I used to feel guilty and take blame for a long time but what I realized was the things he decided to do were not things he had been around or been influenced by on my side.
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
6 May 12
i know what you mean. i often wonder if its their dads or what.
@laken02 (3065)
• United States
1 May 12
yeah i know how that can be, i have 2 kids and they are so different, it is unreal my oldest is out on her own and she acts really imature all the time and is not even trying in life . she is 21 and my yougest is 13 but she acts alot older and is very mature for her age and will grow up to be a fine young women not takng after her oldest sister at all and that is a good thing.. i wish she would rub off on her sister instead. i would ,love to see her do bettter..
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
1 May 12
the bad part about it is that no amount of negotiation seems to be working. i think my youngest is going to have to find a place to go in order to keep peace in the house
because he will not be quiet about things and just keeps bringing it up.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
2 May 12
Well, my children are far from being grown, but it really wasn't all that long ago that we were living with six adults and four children in my mother's house (that was before my husband and I bought our house four years ago). There were times that we would all get into it and we would act like children.
Fast forward to now and I've allowed some friends of mine to live with us because they don't have anywhere to go and no money and I can't stand to see someone on the street if it is something that I can help. They will fight like children from time to time and it is something that drives me absolutely insane. However, when things are good, they are really good. Not to mention their children (there are a total of five of them but they aren't here all the time) and our two children get along wonderfully. It is kind of like having the big family that I always wanted to have.
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
2 May 12
the sad thing is, i always thought it would be great to have my kids all in the same place with me but i guess in some dysfunctional families that doesnt work so well
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
1 May 12
you are so right. i thought they would never grow up. and guess what, they are grown but still not adults and still driving me crazy
@dazzledlady (1618)
• Philippines
29 Apr 12
Sounds fun reminiscing those memories when they were young. But I do hope it does not end to punching each other because it is different when you are young and when your are old. It causes more damage :D.I admire you for raising 5 kids like I admire my mom for raising the 6 of us. I know for a fact that it is not easy especially when you have boys too.
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
29 Apr 12
but its so much easier when they are small. much more traumatic to me when its grown men
