Husband looking at other girls

@ajithlal (14705)
India
April 28, 2012 9:18pm CST
I was walking through a shopping place. I see a young couple walking and I notice that the boy was looking after other girls and looking the body shapes, etc. I saw the girl noticing it and also seeing a little sadness in her eyes. I wonder why people look at other girls when they are with they wives or lovers. What will you do if you were in such situation? I think it is always good to respect the feeling of the person you love.
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@celticeagle (134831)
• Boise, Idaho
29 Apr 12
I don't think it is wrong for a man to look at another woman. It is when he starts flirting and taking numbers that a woman needs to rethink her relationship. THis is another reason why people need to spend time together and get to know a person well before commiting to a relationship with this perosn. Saves alot of heartache in the future.
@ajithlal (14705)
• India
29 Apr 12
I have seen married guys making flirting with girls and even some girls enjoying these comments and sometimes responding them and showing interest in the married guys. Sometimes I feel uncomfortable watching this.
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@celticeagle (134831)
• Boise, Idaho
29 Apr 12
I think that if the married couple are both comfortable with the flirting and so forth then who are we to say differently? I personally would feel uncomfortable with the flirting too. Although I had a husband who liked to play this way and then I would come in and he would leave with me. So who knows what is going on in a situation. I think if a person is uncomfortable with their partner flirting and they communicate this and it still goes on perhaps there is something wrong in the relationship. Both parties need to be happy or the relationship doesn't work.
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@celticeagle (134831)
• Boise, Idaho
20 May 12
Thanks for the BR!
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@ckyera (17339)
• Philippines
29 Apr 12
Hi there! That's also what I am thinking before, why guys keeps on looking to other girls even if they are with their gf or wife. Its not a good feeling to see our bf/husband looking at other girls but what can we do? haha they have eyes. Before my bf and I often fight over it, but I have learned to ignore it and just let him look to whatever he wants to look at and since then our relationship become better, but I admit that there are still sometimes that I get irritated and let him feel that i don't like what he's doing... I think confidence will help and some reassurance.
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@ajithlal (14705)
• India
8 Sep 12
I also wonder why guys look at other girls when with their girlfriend and wives.
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@ajithlal (14705)
• India
13 Nov 12
I wonder whether the guys are not aware that their girlfriends or wives will be noticing it and they will be feeling bad about it.
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• India
29 Apr 12
Human beings are always attracted to the opposite genders. There are no such particular reason for the attraction. This is a concept of nature and no one could change it. Attractions are quite similar to a human being but being a married one he or she must be well controlled with it. He or she sacrifse or throw away such manners infront of the partner's love.
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@ajithlal (14705)
• India
30 Apr 12
I mean attraction is okay, but too much looking like not seen a girl in life is not good according to me.
@ShyBear88 (54259)
• United States
29 Apr 12
I don't get why other people make a big deal if there partner looks at someone else. So what, we are human everyone does it all of the time. When my husband looks at another women so what, I don't get sad or mad. He is human, its in human nature to check someone else out it doesn't mean he doesn't love me or want me. He is doing what is in all human nature to do. Even I look at guys and my husband knows it it doesn't upset him. I'm only human as well. It doesn't mean i don't love or want my husband because clearly I do since I have two children with him. If I didn't want him or love him I wouldn't be with him.
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@AD11RGUY (1265)
• United States
30 Apr 12
Awesomely put! Thank you!
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@ShyBear88 (54259)
• United States
30 Apr 12
Thanks.
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@ajithlal (14705)
• India
21 May 12
I think it is not a big deal as long as one does not hurt the feelings of others. I think it is okay to some extend if they love their partners and care for them and the partners are in the mind all the time.
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@woody5_16 (171)
• Egypt
29 Apr 12
he must treat her like a princess and make her feel that she is the most beautiful girl in the world and he is only for her so if he look or was in the middle of million girl she will not be afraid of any thing and she will trust him so much but little jealous should be in relation ships t make it more spicy :D
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@ajithlal (14705)
• India
28 Sep 12
I always think that it is good to treat girls as princess and to make her feel like the most beautiful girl in the world.
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@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
29 Apr 12
that's what's annoying about some boys LOL but it is fine to be looking actually. just as long as they don't follow the girls LOL... if i were the girl and my boyfriend looks at the girl, follows the girl with his eyes (LOL), i'll be upset and tell him about it. but really it is okay to look, i would do the same if i see my ultimate crush who is an actor hahaha
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@ajithlal (14705)
• India
23 Sep 12
I also think that it is annoying for people to look on girls when with their girlfriend or wife.
@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
25 Sep 12
I would do the same if my boyfriend does that so he would know how it feels :)
@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
25 Sep 12
I would do the same if my boyfriend does that so he would know how it feels :)
• United States
29 Apr 12
i think it is ok to look but i am not sure that it is ok while you are standing nex to your special someone but if you do because it is human nature for some people then i agree with some other people ^^ they need to let them know they love them and that they are perfect the way they are :) that way they dont feel hurt by these actions. i see girls do this all the time with my husband and i have had many girls ask him "what are you doing with someone that looks like her when you can have me" and my feelings were destroyed until i saw/read the responce he gave them and that was "that he loved me and i was the one he wanted for that reason and we started a family because he felt this way and there was no one else that he wanted" this did bring my spirits up a lot lol so i think as long as the girl knows they are the only 1 for them then they will feel better about it but you have to learn to pick out the liars in that kind of situation. it is very important to respect the person you love but if you are anything like me and my husband we tell each other all about some guy/girl we saw but we have a lot of trust for 1 another so we make a joke out of it and we move on. that is the perfect way to have a relationship i think :)
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@ajithlal (14705)
• India
15 Sep 12
I think it is not good for guys to look at other girls when with their wives or girlfriend.
@ajithlal (14705)
• India
27 Dec 12
I think it is okay to look, but not too good to stare at other girls.
• United States
17 Nov 12
It is normal for people to check out others. I know that my boyfriend admires other women; I certainly admire other men. I believe that we are wired to admire beauty. However, the problem comes when you are doing it in such a way that makes your partner feel bad. It sounds like this guy was all but getting whiplash oogling other women when he was with his girlfriend/wife. Both members of the couple seem a tad too immature for a serious commitment. He is too rude in his behavior, and she is too sensitive.
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@ajithlal (14705)
• India
18 Nov 12
I also think it is not good to over do it.
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@kareng (49183)
• United States
29 Apr 12
I think they should show a little respect when out in public with their wife and/or girlfriend or lover. Looking at others like he was doing is not only disrespectful but also immature. If that happened to me, I would be delivering a lecture as soon as we were back home in privacy. If it ever happened again that would probably be it. How can a woman feel special and loved if the man acts like that?
@ajithlal (14705)
• India
27 May 12
I also think it is good to ask the wife or girlfriend how they feel and if it is okay then it is okay to look at other girls. I think if they feel uncomfortable better not to look at other girls.
@jazel_juan (15748)
• Philippines
30 Apr 12
there is nothing wrong with just looking ajithlal.. even my hubby looks at pretty ladies that pass by but i know he loves me and no one else
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• United States
30 Apr 12
Well I don't think there is too much wrong with just looking at others. Now I have heard of situations where the husband could look but if the wife did, she would get in trouble and I highly disagree with that. Also I will say I have seen where both the girl and guy in a relationship or marriage will talk to others and give them their number. I really don't agree with this because if you already have someone in your life, why should you be giving out your number? I can understand if you already had friends but if someone you don't know comes up to you, you should tell them you are taken. I know I have been with guys that have looked at other girls but at the end of the day I knew I was the only one he wanted. I will be honest myself and say I have looked at other men before but it was just looking, not like I was staring. Sure I may get a little jealous at times but I think everyone gets a little jealous because it's human nature just like I think it is to notice those who you may find attractive.
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• China
29 Apr 12
I think it normal,because anybody likes beautiful things,they are attracted by outward but not inward.i also like the people who are very handsome and pretty ,ha ha ,i just think their face and body very healthy and nice.that all.if my husband hang out with me,he look at beautiful girls,i will ask him:"hey~i think she is very pretty,what do you think?"
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@allknowing (103684)
• India
29 Apr 12
What's wrong in looking at other girls or women. There is more to being unfaithful than just looking at them. It is a natural reaction when a good looking woman or girl passes by. In fact it would be a nice thing if the wife also joins in and appreciates it together with him.
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@savypat (20217)
• United States
29 Apr 12
Many men are like that, let's face it men are attracted to good looking women. I have never found this upsetting because the man I was with went home with me. So let them look, just don't touch.
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@applefreak (3130)
• Singapore
29 Apr 12
well i know my partner looks at other girls while we are out together.initally, i do feel kind of weird when he does it. however, i gave it a long and hard thought. it is only natural for a human being to look at and appreciate all things beautiful. of course this includes other human beings. i do check out good looking guys when they walk past me too. that doesn't mean anything and i believe it's the same to my partner. nowadays, i'd even ask my partner to look if i see a girl with great legs or butt. it's just like us looking at handsome men and pretty women in the magazine. it's just looking, pure and simple without any kind of lustful thoughts.
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@lynboobsy11 (11337)
• Philippines
29 Apr 12
I don't think there is a problem with that , he is my husband now and I trust him. It is natural in human to look for others body and it doesn't matter if they are impressed. Even woman too are the same because it is different from what they saw everyday. I know it is disrespectful but It is also understandable, we interact different person everyday and it's normal to us to be curious in others.
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@derek_a (10881)
29 Apr 12
As a man myself, I have to say that because I am in love with my wife, it doesn't mean that I am blind to women I see who are beautiful. I don't think it is whether you look or not, it is more to do with what you do. I am committed to my wife and have never betrayed her with another woman. I know that she too will find guys out here attractive, as it is a natural human response. In my mind as a therapist, it is better not to deny any feelings that we have. I would not want to go with any other woman because I feel that I am with the right person... _Derek
@Soniasony (1827)
• India
29 Apr 12
Just seeing is causing sadness?, no I guess you have only watched a little bit and jumped into a big conclusion,it may be like she doubts her husband or he is really a kind of person she thinks or believes so..
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• India
30 Mar 13
when I notice those thing, I try to be cool and control myself and then with seeing first handsome guy I will show my reaction and I will say to my husband look at him, he is such of cute na? hehehehe... then he understand that I am not that much fool.... and then later I say to him if somebody will look at your daughter with the feeling that you look after other ladies??? I know men do that as they really feel that they are less than their wife..
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@ajithlal (14705)
• India
30 Mar 13
Reminds me of the scene of HeyBabby where Akshay Kumar and other two flirts with other women and when they have a baby girl they realizes the value and how it hurts when someone does that to their daughter.
• India
31 Mar 13
I love heybaby movie... it has a deep meaning and accepting responsibility for men after becoming a father.... like how you have become a father ... lol... even if the one that I like, will look at another girl, sometimes I use options... I also will find any good girl out and I will be the first to show him and ask him if she is beautiful and interested so may I go to take her number and do arrangement for you babe??? and another option.... when I spend my time on net... I will sit with cool mind in front of him and look for handsome models and read about them and save their photos.. lol.... then I tell him... cheee.... look at your body with that big tummy.... can not do any exercise grandpa???? that is what I reaction...
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@ajithlal (14705)
• India
31 Mar 13
I also think that when becomes father then become matured matured. Seems like having fun doing these things.
@silverfox09 (4717)
• United States
3 Jan 13
I think its just sad , if anyone have to go through that and not feel worthy it must be sad . I wish people always respect each other a little more . I dont know how can someone do that to someone they claimed to care for .
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@ajithlal (14705)
• India
13 Mar 13
I also agree with you Silverfox that how can people do that when they say they care for their partners.
• India
30 Mar 13
some men they have mental problem.... even after having a beautiful wife and good one, who do everything for them, they do not care as they grow up maybe with that kind of family and background maybe some memories of what their mom has done is there in their deep mind and try to do revenge with some activities... some really are not clean with eyes and have mental problems ... my husband used to go through such ..... a lot and what I have found is his background has made him like that... some wrong done of mother and sisters, and some wrong friends so they have only one thing in their mind and that is drink , smoke and ladies.. I do not stand that kind of people
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