A friend suddenly becomes cold to me...without clues at all of the reason

I was in this very same situation back when I was 30 years old. It drove me crazy that she just stopped talking to me and would not give me a reason as to why. The situation escalated and the next thing I know, she presses charges against me for writing her letters asking her why she was not speaking to me. Given my experience, I would say to stay away from her and just let it go. People who do this sort of thing have something seriously wrong with them.

yeah the same to me. i am used to communicate with one person. he always made me laugh and smile. but now he is afriend of another classmate which is very evil. he didnot talk to m anymore. and when itried to change and spoke to him again then he ansered me rudely.

i can understand how that feels. i know it scary to find out if you did something wrong that she misunderstood. this is why you should ask her what's up. just like that. tell her you sense that she is off put by you all of a sudden and you was wondering what was up. see if she tells you. if she doesn't value your friendship enough to tell you and she still puts you off. don't kiss her behind. just leave her alone. it's not worth it.

Argh, sorry to be so blunt, but I personally hate those kind of people. They remind me of my best friend in grade school. You know what that means right? She's behaving like a grade schooler for heaven's sake! You have to confront her and ask her straight out what happened. You deserve to know. If she's really your best friend, she would at least grant you that right. If not, she's not entirely a good friend either. Things like that usually happen again, especially if you tolerate them behaving that way or you chase them. Frankly, i think she's the kind of friend who wants attention, the type who sulks in a corner waiting for someone to make things better for her instead of confronting people about her problem. If you think you have done something really wrong, talk it out and ask for her forgiveness. If you think you haven't done any, ask her if she thinks you have. Don't let her control you or manipulate you.

In situation like that, I always believe that the best thing to do is to talk to the person involved. Open communication is very important to any form of relationship. Try to exert an effort to show her that you want the issue to be resolved. In the event that she agrees, then ask her what happened. But if she just keeps on ignoring you, just give it some time because if she is a true friend who is worthy of your friendship, then she will also exert an effort to revive the friendship.

I shifted from an abandoned and lonely place to where there were neighbours. well this loneliness was the only reason that i shifted. i immediately made friends with my neighbour, an egyptian girl who offered to also take care of my naughty girl. for few days it became my daily routine to go to her place and sit. i enjoyed. then suddenly she became cold towards me out of no reason. she stopped coming at my place and when i went at her place she was always talking on the phone with her friend or so. then i stopped going at her place to see if she comes but she never did. i went to her place after a few days i knocked and knocked at her door but she never opened though i could hear voices inside. then after that i went each and every day but she never opened the door to me :/

Maybe you unconsciously did something that she doesn't like and she thought you intend to do it. Talking to her is the best possible way to solve this.

I have had something like this happen before, and it turned out in the end that somebody had told them that I had said something about them when this just was not the case at all. I couldn't believe that they had taken the gossip's word without even asking me about it, so I had to confront them and say that I would appreciate it if they spoke to me if ever anything should be said about me to them in the future. Maybe you should talk to them and see if there is anything like this, and force her to listen to what you have to say.

Try to find out if she has a problem. Usually, true friends can just go up to each other and ask one another if there really is something wrong. After all, if you really value you friendship, you try hard to figure out what's going on. If you did something that might have offended her, you might also want to consider that. Just ask her gently if everything's okay, and if there's anything you could do. Remember, your goal is to figure out if something went wrong and to help her fix it. Good luck. Everything is always fixable with a good talking.

Approach her in a supportive way. Tell her you noticed she hasnt been being herself and is she ok. Remind her that you will be there for her whenever she needs you to and invite her out to get a drink or coffee so you can talk. Maybe that will give her the opportunity to open up if she really does have a problem.

I also experienced that before..I had a bestfriend and then one day she became acting cold and then we became not that close just like before..I don't know why she started to act like that to me..but I just let her and I didn't bother her anymore for like 1 or 2 years..and then she started to befriended me again but I set a gap between the two of us..because what she did to me is so hurtful..and we're like casual friends now..

Yes, you should approach her, even you have to force her if she's insisting not to talk to you. Because if she's a real friend then she has to talk to you if theirs a problem. But, before you have to try to remember the last time you hang around with her, try to remember if you did something wrong or if you said that might hurt her because every person have sensitive heart, even on a joke someone might get hurt. Then if you really can't remember then try to confirm the problem to her.