just heard this.

That's really sad Jazel. We live with our old parents in-law too in their big house. Me, my daughter (who is always in her dorm during school days ) and my husband. Fortunately, they are very kind. But there are times, my mother in-law gets mataray, so i would also explain my side, but i do it gently, because after all they are already old. They are dependent on our presence, because they fear living by themselves only. They said that at least we always help them in how they are doing in life. At least, we are important to them, specially now that my father-in-law is bed ridden.

Hi! If this is the real picture, then the guy is clearly at fault. His parents brought him up and helped him stand on his feet. It is utterly shameful on the guy's part not to respect his old parents and take the side of his (rich) wife. He needs to maintain a balance, else his parents may curse him.

I think it's common that the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law would collide, but I don't think I've heard of a daughter-in-law shouting back to the mom and the son siding the wife. We're still very much traditional in these parts that daughter-in-laws tend to be silent unless otherwise it's really a bad comment or something. Anyhow, we're not in the scenario and I doubt that the story is reliable unless the guy told the story to his officemates (which is relatively 'off' for a guy to do). I think they should try to settle these things without taking sides after all people just burst when they're provoked or stressed. Still regardless, respect should always be remembered. I could remember a friend of mine who she says she has 'monster in laws'. The fights are all about financials because her husband used to give them his full allotment (He is a seafarer) and now that they're married he only gives them a very little portion and they were against it. They saw her as the supporting-actress in this scenario. But soon, she learnt how to deal with them, one thing she did was to make sure that they lived far from them. Have a great MyLot experience ahead!

Well, I don't think it's fair for the mom since she's been taking care of the child. I mean, the wife owes her a lot, and should have at least listened patiently on what she has to say, even though she might not have agreed with it. I am not against the son siding with the wife, but he should have done it nicely instead of shouting as well. I do believe that once a couple has been married, they are now considered a team, and would always have each other's back. But... I don't think they should disrespect anyone who is against them.

its not proper but its a normal similar issue with so many women and their in-laws, especially the mother in law. i am just thankful that my in-laws are understanding and they give us the opportunity to be independent and live in our own. i heard over a sermon by a pastor at my friends wedding, that once you get married, the husband should take her wife away and live on their own. they should not stay in either in their house or the in-laws house. you need to be independent so you can make your own ways of living. i could not imagine myself fighting with my in-laws because i respect and love them as they are the reason why my husband is with me. someday when my son will love a girl, i wish she will also respect and love us.

well, In my opinion, it is very common every where in the world. You know when I am pregnant,my inlaw came to look after me in form,but one day when I called my mother said something about the vegetables are very expensive those days and my hubby sometimes didn't want to buy the one I like. My inlaw began to shout at me and force me to divorce with my hubby and even worse wanted me to hand down my baby. From that time on, I really don't want to live with her under the same roof, if she lives far away and can visit sometime, it will be fine. Now my hubby is in her mother side, I feel very sad and desparated sometimes.But for baby, I have to be happy, I know if my inlaw insist on doing for small things which I did. My hubby and I will get divorced some day.

Oh my...ok, I don't want to comment or judge the situation as I don't know the whole story and I am not in any position to judge either. But I want to share my views regarding in-laws relationship. I can say that I am lucky when it comes to in-laws. I never had any fight with them-and they're supportive in many ways. I remember my father in law who personally drive and pick my daughter from home to school during her elementary days. When any of my kids got sick- I do not have to ask for financial support, they will come and give what they can afford. Honestly- they're giving us more than we what ask for. And if compared to what I had given to them (financially) they've given 10x more than I do. They are not rich, but I can say above average so- I do not hesitate to accept monetary help from them (ahemmm) Well, my parents also do the same thing and also given twice more than my in-laws had given to us (me and my kids) Opss...do I sound like a pensioner (ahahaha) Regarding your topic, I know there are in-laws especially MIL who still act like a queen and daughter in-laws should stay as princess. So, in that case, problem really occur because- there is no kingdom that has two queen right? It's a case to case basis. Sometimes MIL are too demanding and act like daughter in-laws are not doing anything right. Sometimes- there are daughter in-laws who wants to dominate their in-laws. So, it's really hard to judge each situation. Hope the mother in law is fine now.... :(

I'm lucky in that I have GREAT in-laws. They are awesome people and we get along perfectly. I've heard LOTS of horror stories about in laws though, so I guess its pretty common. However, I don't think that the wife should be treating the elterly MIL like a nanny/maid. Specially if SHE(the wife) was living in her(the moms) house.

That's sad, a son shouting back to his mother is not good no matter what the issue may be with his wife and his mother. He should know how to respect his mother. If that happens to me, I would understand if my husband will take the side of his mother, she is after all the girl whom my husband has first love before me. I am lucky that my boyfriends parents are so good to me and that we are very close with each other. I may not have been the legal wife of their son but they already treated me as one already. My bf is not close to my parents yet but they however, don't have any negative issues with each other.

I'm sure that is a common case anywhere in the world. I'm lucky my in-laws are living oceans away from us. I can't imagine living in the same house with them, for a long time. Visits, once in awhile, would be good, but never to permanently stay with us. I'm glad that my husband shares the same views for this matter.

This is very common from what I know and in my area. The best thing to do was for the husband to take the wife's side since he does have to live with her for their lifetime. The unfortunate part of course is that this fight led to the mild heart attack, and both the wife and husband should make visits to the hospital and talk about ways to help their fights in the future.