I think I'm going to have to leave or opt out of some activities.
By writersedge
@writersedge (22563)
United States
May 3, 2012 2:13pm CST
I can't do smudging any more. Where the leader lights sage, sweetgrass, or cedar on fire, blows it out and the smoke is there to get rid of negative energy. Both healing circles light sage and sweetgrass. Sage to clear the negative energy out and sweetgrass to call in good, positive energy.
With cancer in one of my lungs that has spread from my bladder, I can't do that any more.
I prefer to do clearings with sound or water. Sound can be using a rattle or bells or other objects that make noise. Blessed or holy water can be used to clear a room.
So for now, I think I'll have to leave the healing circles. This saddens me.
Maybe I can find a circle where smoke is not involved. Or maybe they will do a circle with sound clearing.
Have you ever had to leave a group of people because it was for your best interests? Have you found some other group to hang out with or are you a lone wolf (so to speak) now? How do you start your ceremonies, healing circles, or altar practice (if that isn't too personal)?
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@celticeagle (190074)
• Boise, Idaho
6 May 12
Well, I have missed afew discussions since Mylot had the server problem the other day. I don't get my discussions in my inbox like I used to. I am scrambling to get something done trying to find discussions by my old group of favs. I hope they fix it.
As far as smudging and such. I do a candle ceremony in the evenings in the Summer which helps me to relax. I also like a Patchouli candle when I have sinus headaches too. And I both when feeling down and it seems to help me. I don't care for the smoke either. When we had a real close fire here afew Summers ago I had to stay in the house because I am prone to getting Bronchitis if I am around smoke very much. No fun.
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
6 May 12
There is a burning ban where I live and my neighbors still do burning barrels. Ticks me off.
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
6 May 12
Good luck with that. If you don't say who you are, they don't follow up on anything. You're a nusance call and just probably trying to harass someone. My state is really such a pain in the a.
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@syramoon (654)
• United States
3 May 12
I've never had that problem, but it is understandable. I usually begin my practices by lighting a candle and grounding and centering. I do like to burn sage for cleansing if I am living in a place where I can, such as I do currently. Although in the past when I was unable to do so, and used water for cleansing. I hope that you can talk to the leaders of the circles and work something out, or that they can refer you to a circle that meets you needs.
Best Wishes
~Syra~
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
4 May 12
Great suggestions!
I may talk to one of them. The other one seems pretty rigid. So we shall see.
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
9 May 12
I sent an email. No response about that but one of the people sent me an email about another group that may be more to my liking.
@KrauseHome (36445)
• United States
9 May 12
There are times in my past where I have had to leave a Group due to things not being the way I needed them to be. I used to be in a Domestic Violence support group for survivors of abuse, and had to leave it because some of the people in the group could not get past their abuse and were still living in it instead of wanting to move forward and it keep dragging me down.
But for me now the Best thing is to find people I can talk with and relate with and those that can Pray for me and know in time everything will be OK. Am Praying for you and know that sometimes we go thru things we may not always understand but it is these that also makes us stronger.
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@KrauseHome (36445)
• United States
9 May 12
Yes, that is for sure... If it is supposed to be a Group that is supposed to be supportive than they should focus on the positive and not the negative. Yes, there will be your Bad days like I experience many times, but there are the Good days and those are the ones I would Love to hear about. People sometimes never want to get past this, and it is Sad. Glad we have each other here to lean on.
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
9 May 12
I understand completely. I don't join groups because they do tend to stay in the past.
I emailed about the latest turn of events to one survivor and one who is currently fighting. Did they give me words of encouragement like you did? Heck no!
"I had 6 units of blood and two heart attacks before I was done." How about will pray for you that everything will work out fine?
"They gave me two chemos that don't work together where I am and now my liver is shot." How about best of luck to you and will ask God for your deliverance from this?
I keep telling people that telling me horror stories does not help me thank you very much. Say something positive like you did just now.
I would think that maybe two stage group for what you went thru would be better. The ones that need to move on could go to the next group. Just a thought. May be wrong.
People have asked me if I belong to cancer support groups, I tell them that we don't need to support cancer, it does fine on its own. They give me a deer in a headlight look because they don't get it. There is a feel better group that is supposed to tell each other how they've learned to feel better. It's all in the focus of the group. If the group is named and is focused on the positive, then positive should result and the negative people should leave. If it's focused the other way around, then the other way around happens. Thanks and take care.
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@allknowing (153529)
• India
4 May 12
After being the live wire everywhere be it in the office, family, friends I have now opted out of socialising. I have had enough of that and more. The only socialising I do is here in myLot. Here I don't have to spend time dressing up, travelling and spending time with people who I find boring!
And talking about healing, I am a Reiki Channel which does not require anyone to be around you save yourself.
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
4 May 12
I like hanging out in the woods more than being with people.
I've tried to save myself from cancer. It hasn't worked worth a dang.
@amy77824 (147)
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3 May 12
I haven't ever come out of a group because of my own interests because it has never been my decision to make. I've always been pushed around and told what to do but i am now slowly taking a stand and putting forward what i think. I think of myself as a lone wolf due to my lack of socialization skills. I don't like being in groups sometimes because groups always seem to break up when a couple of people have a fight because everyone takes sides. I'm new to paganism/wiccan i dont start with anything but am preparing for my first spell/ritual.
Blessed you be
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
3 May 12
Bleesed be to you,too.
I'm sorry people have been so mean. I hope that they grow up, but people who were mean to me when I was younger didn't seem to grow up.
When I was young, I did not find groups where there were people with common goals and interests like I have found. I like these healing circles or groups. Because we have a common goal to help each other be healthy. It's just ironic that they start off with smoking off which is contrary to my health.
I hope your first spell or ritual is a positive one.
May all your indeavors be positive and may you find people who are like you and who like you. Peace.
