When people give their opinion,without being asked
By pandora22
@pandora22 (868)
Romania
May 7, 2012 9:24am CST
Today i was talking with a classmate at the university.
she is also working while studying,and we were talking about money and time management.
another girl simply cut into our discussion and started to give us advices about our lifes and work.
i ussualy try to take the best from each advice but what i found totally wrong is that this girl never worked.
in fact she sends her clothes to her mom to wash them(even if in the campus there are washing machines),her mom sends her food packages from home-already cooked meals,and even the breed.
she has no ideea what work means.she can't take care of herself(once her package from home was late and she was complaining about beeing very hungry.her roommate had to cook for her so she would shup up)
she has no iddea about the costs of the home expenses,or things in general.
it was really annoiyng to see that this person thinks she has the right to judge us because we work and to give us advice abut how we should live.
she was really agressive and she was judging our lifes.i was speachless.
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10 responses
@Dominique25 (9460)
• United States
8 May 12
Yeah that would be really frustrating. If I were in that situation I probably would have said something because that would have irritated me a great deal. And I'm finding that as I get older things that tend to bother me I tend to say things about. She will end up learning the hard way how to do things on her own. I'm surprised that her parents haven't let her start to do things by herself.
@Dominique25 (9460)
• United States
15 May 12
They really are causing her harm. They are stunting her growth and making her feel like she will always have them to care for her. If something happens to them anytime soon she will have a hard time adjusting and making things work. It is best not to get angry. Hopefully though she will keep her advice to herself. If she doesn't someone will say something to her about it.
@pandora22 (868)
• Romania
8 May 12
her parents are not realising,that,while they truly believe that they are protecting her,they actually harm her.i think she will find it hard to discover life.as i have said i don't care to much and i try do not get angry.it is better for me and the ones i love.
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@GardenGerty (169479)
• United States
8 May 12
Well, I see how you would pity her. I do not think there would be anything you could say that would make her not interrupt you. Except maybe "excuse me, did your mom not teach you any manners?" I guess she thinks that some man will come along and take care of her when she outgrows her mother's care. I think her mother has created this problem in her life.
@pandora22 (868)
• Romania
8 May 12
to be honest i almost wish for her that a man will come and take care of her in the future.
i might sound to stupid but i really hope she will have someone to tke care of her.
on the other hand i truly believe she deserves a lesson about life,but i think she would have the worse reaction possible,like quiting life or something
.that is why i hope she will find a stupid,wealthy man.
.that is why i hope she will find a stupid,wealthy man.1 person likes this
@GardenGerty (169479)
• United States
9 May 12
They would make a wonderful couple. You are very generous about this, really.
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
7 May 12
I would have been anything but speechless! Knowing all of that, I would have had to ask her how does she know anything about working, paying bills, and being responsible for herself. After that, I would have gone right on with the conversation with my friend and ignored anything she had to say, like she wasn't even there. She would have gotten the hint!
@pandora22 (868)
• Romania
8 May 12
i first thougth do to this also.but the think is that she is that kind of girl that thinks that she is perfect and anyone that says she is not is a bad person.i guess she was simply trying to get my attention.i have only two kind of persons in my life:the ones i love and the ones i ignore.she is in the last categorie and she tried more than once to get my attention.
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
8 May 12
good day to you pandora22,
with regard to your main topic, to tell you honestly, there are times that i feel annoy to those type of person who suddenly enter their selves into a discussion without any hesitation. wherein they tend to give unsolicited advices without any further a do. and with this, i also feel speechless but a bit annoyed.
@pandora22 (868)
• Romania
8 May 12
i am trying to manage my feelings a little bit more.when things like this happen i almost start to laugh but i stop myself so that the other persons won't feel bad.
i mean: why to consume my self with anger ,when i can laugh about people beeing stupid?
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
8 May 12
Unsolicited advice especially from a stranger is quite hard to take unless otherwise rather sensible enough for the issue at hand. If in fact she is what you have stated as above, then she seems to be suffering from some sort of attention deficit, lol!
@pandora22 (868)
• Romania
8 May 12
she is suffring from alot of things.and she will keep having issues in the future also.
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
7 May 12
Well, from my point of view, this girl was meant to interfere in your discussion, without even being questioned. This I believe is still wrong. Then from what you wrote, you seem all that much self-sufficient. You at least your stuff there to make you own. However, from your story, you have not described aggression towards you.
@pandora22 (868)
• Romania
7 May 12
i didn't put in here the details of the conversation but she is agressive through her atitude and the way she is speaking.
she doesn't admite any disagreement and you must say in the end that she is always right.
she invaded my private life even if she doesn't know me very well.she talked in a bad way about my mom, like she is useless and she can't grow her child...many things like that.
as i have said she lives in her world and she believes her parents will grow her till the old age.
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@WakeUpKitty (8691)
• Netherlands
7 May 12
It sounds odd to me too that someone like that is giving you practical advise how to manage your time and money.. unless she advices you to take it over to her mom (or yours) as well.
Did you help her to remember her own life style or? I think I surely would do that.. if it comes to that I can't keep my mouth shut and just ignore. I don't know if she was judging, perhaps just found the subject(s) interesting enough to share her opinion (even she doesn't work it doesn't mean she is not able to see how others strubble/manage).
@pandora22 (868)
• Romania
7 May 12
you know what is funny?
she actually mentioned to me once that my mom is not a good mom since i have to work.
i tried to make her understand that working makes me happy because i feel better to know that i am the owner of my life.but she is a hopeless case.
as i said in an upper comment,i pity her and the life will open her eyes in a harsh way for sure.i just shuted up to give her some more time in her own,ireal world.
@vertu007 (683)
• Romania
7 May 12
Eh, people like that are all around the world. I never even pay attention to them anymore.
For me they start talking and I'm listening and telling myself in my mind at the same time: Should I tell him to mind his business or not ? Should I let him finish what he has to say ? Should I tell him that his wrong ?.
But I do listen to what they have to say because some might have an useful advice.
People like the one you talked about just need attention. They want to fit in and think that if they start talking they're on the right path. Once you think of it like that it might get easier.
Don't worry she'll bump into life sooner or later and she'll have to work hard. She will get taste of life. Everyone does.
@pandora22 (868)
• Romania
7 May 12
that is why i didn't told her anything.i just looked at her and let her talk.
i actually feel sorry for her because one day she will realize what life is actually.
she is the kind that wants to be loved by everyone and the true is that i ignore her since i have nothing to talk about with her(except shopping maybe
).
i guess she wanted my attention.
).
i guess she wanted my attention.
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
7 May 12
I hate it. I sometimes get that with my weight (I'm not that overly obese all fat kind of girl, I might mention here, just a bit plumper). There was one stranger coming up to me to say how I shouldn't eat any more chips because I'm so fat... and then started to be like oh-so-helpful, that she's doing it for me... I was speechless, too. She doesn't even know why I have that weight (I mean, I could lose some kilos, but I'm genetically rounder, too, and I can't be skinny even if I worked out every single day for hours) and... well, if I wanna live that way, it's not their problem, especially when I don't even know them. Gahhhh...
@pandora22 (868)
• Romania
7 May 12
i also have some weight problems.i know how you fel cause it happened to me once.
i am lucky that i am tall and the weigth is distributed all over so it is not so obvious.
i had a freind that was bugging me about diets and i had a hard time to make her understand that i eat diet already and that i actually have tyroid gland issues.
@jhustinian (612)
• Philippines
7 May 12
If I were in your situation, I probably wouldn't be speechless, 'coz I'm kinda spitfire in the 'real' world (outside the internet) and I could've already hurt her feelings before she could finish her nonsense speech. That might lead to a verbal fight, I think or maybe a physical one too, but that's what I am.^^
I'm surprise you didn't said anything back at her to knock her into senses. But I think, that it's pretty okay since she sounds delusional and egotistical to me it would be useless to talk to her. But when tries to do it again, maybe you should stop her before she could say anything else that kinda annoying to you.
