Gratitude means a lot to me

@mikyung (2232)
Philippines
May 8, 2012 7:13pm CST
Gratitude is my word for today or shall I say for this week. Showing gratitude is a natural response to some people who receives anything from someone. I'm quite sad about some people who don't know how to even say a simple "Thank you". What makes it worse is that those people who forget to acknowledge this effort are my family. I may be selfish at this time but I can't help but feel disappointed. How do you feel about this? How can you show your gratitude to someone who has given something even how immaterial it is? Thank you in advance for your response
13 responses
@cloud31 (5809)
9 May 12
I agree with you, expressing your gratitude is important to show how we appreciates things from others.Some people neglect to extend their gratitude it could be intentional or otherwise its their characters. Anyway I never forget the words " THANK YOU" everytime I received something nor someone did something for me either big or small a favor or things. Thanks..Happy mylotting!
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@mikyung (2232)
• Philippines
9 May 12
Thank you cloud31. I think, those relatives of mine really forgot to say "thank you" because it may be inherent to them not to say those simple yet meaningful words.
9 May 12
Hello That was really disappointing, it is really nice to be acknowledge on something we have done but it is nicer to don't expect at all because you will be happier if they got to noticed it. Maybe it is helpful also if you let them know how important for you to know that you are appreciated by them. Sometimes family forget how to pay gratitude because they are used of you being there And may also that they appreciated but wasn't able to tell it to you. Just try to have a good conversation and open up to them...
• Philippines
9 May 12
Yes, I agree with sherlysinguran. Everyone wants to be thanked for the favors they have done...this is human nature. And it is really disappointing to see when your own family members fail to show gratitude. Anyway, try to follow sherlysinguran's advices and I would like to add that it would be good to keep on helping them even if they seem ungrateful for it. I believe you will be blessed for it in unexpected ways you never imagined :D
@mikyung (2232)
• Philippines
9 May 12
Thanks to the both of you- sherlysinguran and BetterDays4Me. Yes, I will continue to help them for it is "more" humane to help without expecting in return.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
9 May 12
mikyung its always right and good to say thank you when someone does something for you. It takes just seconds and makes both of you feel good inside.Thanks means a lot to most people family a d friends too. A second to sa a dqy to appreciate it.I always thank those who have done anything for me.thanks is a good word show we appreciate what has been done and care for the doer too.
@mikyung (2232)
• Philippines
8 Jun 12
Thanks Hatley. I appreciate your response
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
3 Jun 12
Sometimes being family, saying thank you to a family member for something he has done is being taken for granted. I think, they take it that being a family member, it is our obligation to help without having wait to be told " thank you. " In our family that is so. Seldom do i hear my father say thank you except when you give him a gift. I think it's because he is the head of the family , so he don't feel obligated to say it. And maybe because their father raised them up that way. So i try to correct that, by always saying thank you to my husband and daughter whenever they have dome something nice and good.
@mikyung (2232)
• Philippines
8 Jun 12
Definitely I should act that way too. Thanks SIMPLYD. I appreciate it.
@Bluedoll (16774)
• Canada
3 Jun 12
Yes gratitude serves its owner well. People with problems or bitterness are sadly missing out on it. I feel sorry for them and sad if I get like that. Thank you's are something I do appreciate and feel better that anything I might do is not wasted or for nothing.
@mikyung (2232)
• Philippines
8 Jun 12
You are right Bluedoll. Thanks for sharing.
• United States
9 May 12
I always try and show my gratitude to everyone around me especially my family cause i would be no where without them.
@mikyung (2232)
• Philippines
8 Jun 12
You are right. Thanks
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
9 May 12
Some people never show gratitude. My ex-boyfriend was one of those people. If I gave him a present he didn't say a word. When we still had a long distanse relationship we sometimes sent eachother parcels. I sent him parcels and he never reacted so I thought that he hadn't received my parcels, but when I asked him I discovered that he did receive them. He just didn't feel the need say thanks, and he never even mentioned that he had received the parcels. I found that very strange. I think it is a natural thing to thank people who do something for you or give you something. Personally I always thank people who do something for me and it makes me feel good when they acknowledge the things that I do for them.
@mikyung (2232)
• Philippines
9 May 12
Thanks Porcospino. It is really strange where there are some people don't return what is due.We are human, therefore, we naturally expect something to them. But now, I learned my lesson - to continue on helping others particularly those relatives of mine and put it into my mind that I should not wait or expect any gesture of appreciation or even an acknowlegement. It's really nice to see some people (including you) who still finds a way to show that they are thankful.
• Philippines
9 May 12
There are many ways to show gratitude. A simple "Thank you" can do the job. Sometimes, if you're really very expressive, you can also give a present to the person. Sometimes friendship is enough for some people. We're all different individuals so you really can't say what people would prefer.
@mikyung (2232)
• Philippines
9 May 12
Thanks frontvisions101. I see your point. We are unique individuals and it follows that each and every one of us react differently when we are in this same situation.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
9 May 12
Gratitude is something that I know better than to expect from some people but it does not make it any less nice when it happens. It just really feels rather great to feel rather appreciated for what you did or at least the fact that you really did make a strong effort. There are times however where people just do not appreciate what is done. It can be tricky sometimes because you might not appreciate the results but you got to appreciate the effort that some people made. If those people really just made an honest attempt to really succeed right out there, some gratitude could be in order. Granted, we live in a world these days where gratitude is just something that is not felt and actions are not acknowledged. Still it is best to set a good example, hoping that it will rub off.
@mikyung (2232)
• Philippines
9 May 12
I see your point. Thanks megamatt. I would say that is a concrete example of "Love begets love" and "Practice what you preach". I'm hoping that everything will be fine.
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
9 May 12
It is a funny thing as i don't utter the words "thank you" usually to family members especially when receiving gifts or having favors done. A mere hug, a simple tap on the head or shoulder or shaking of hands or a simple smile are the gestures that i do to express my gratitude, and that for them is far more than saying "Thank you."
@mikyung (2232)
• Philippines
9 May 12
Thanks obe212003. I believe showing gratitude can be expressed in so many ways. Unluckily, I didn't received any gestures of such from them. That's way I'm feeling this way. I still hope that they will learn how to appreciate every blessing they will receive.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
9 May 12
I have felt similar to how you have. I feel really disappointed in my family who don't say thank you or show gratitude. I think that it's important to show our gratitude when others do things that are nice. I like to tell others thank you and get things for them as little gifts.
@mikyung (2232)
• Philippines
9 May 12
Thanks Dominique25. I should be more thankful to everyone especially to those people who helped me. As we need to practice what I preach, right?
• Philippines
9 May 12
We must have good attitude/gratitude our God,to others and every day living. We must have good day,not frown face because of God has been blessed all.
@mikyung (2232)
• Philippines
9 May 12
Thanks befrindwithme26. Thanking God for those blessing especially the people around me, the food I eat, and for keeping us safe every day. Showing gratitude to others can mean showing gratitude to God.
@samson1 (738)
• Jamaica
9 May 12
It is usually a nice thing to know that whenever a good deed is done, the recepient is appreciative of the gesture and this appreciation is expressed verbally, on a timely basis. However, not everyone may choose to verbally express their appreciation for a deed done for them.., especially on a timely basis. Despite that reality, you ought to continue doing good (for others and) for humanity- even if after doing the deed, the expression of gratitude is not forthcoming (even on a timely basis). Mikyung, continue to enjoy doing your goodwill gestures, ok? Do not be distracted from your mission. Why? Because sometimes, the most unwilling and difficult individuals may just have a change of behavior that could really surprise you!
@mikyung (2232)
• Philippines
9 May 12
Thanks samson1. We need to do good for humanity. This is our very purpose in life -to help each other. And I wish that this feeling of disappointment shall pass in time. I'm praying that they could change.