Thinking about not having visitors in the hospital

jureathome I think it's your baby, your life, you can do whatever you choose. I can kind of relate to the appearance desire..when I went to have surgery I took all kinds of supplies to be sure I could fix my hair,etc to look presentable . It was all for nothing because at one point I just didn't care. Congrats on the baby..I hape you have an easy time delivering..if you change your mind don't worry about telling everyone you changed your mind..most will forgive yuou and chalk it up to hormones.. Perhaps after the baby arrives you will feel so happy you want to talk to everyone right away.

NO I wouldn't keep it a secrete I would just tell them this time I don't want anyone at the hospital after the baby is born if you all can wait till we get home to see and meet the baby that would be great. We will keep you up dated how things are going till we make it home. Me personally I would find it insulting if my family didn't tell them they had there baby and didn't tell me that the baby is here till after they got home. That would be just upsetting I know not just to me but to others in my family. We are every respectful about people wanting there space if they ask for it. For me It didn't bother me having all of our family come not all came because we live 9 hours a way but the ones that wanted to come and asked if it was okay to come down and come visit in the hospital we told them they could. They only came for a couple of minutes and then left. I don't care how I look it kind of sounds like my husband's 19 year old sister she is all about looking cute no matter what. I say when your a mom no is going to give a crape specially when its your second kid how you look its not like they haven't seen it before. I"m so glad I"m not that women because I would want to be shot. I say for me the more that comes the more that means that actually love me and my kids those that don't show to me are jerks and really don't give 2 cents about me or my kids. Unless they tell us they can't because of what ever but those that don't say anything tell me how they truly are and me keeping things from them show's how much I don't care or respect about them.

In our hospitals, at least when my kids were born, if the baby was in the room the visitors could not be, except for dad and he had to put on a mask and gown. So feeding the baby would not be a problem. There are also usually restrictions on how many people can be in a room visiting and what time of day they can come. Do not keep the baby a secret, but probably do ask if people will wait a day before coming to the hospital.

It depends in part on what is used in each country. In my country, people, specially familly and woman friends, go to see the baby, pronounce it beautiful (a complete lie) and bring presents and flowers. Usually they stay for a small while because the room is not to be crowded. Young mothers are always beautiful, even if they are not dressed up. They have a radiance and a happiness that noone will see in you later on. No need to fix anything. I am a believer that you should not shun the people you love from your happy moments if you want them to be with you in the sad moments.

You can put the 'Do not disturb' sign right in front of your gate or door!. I agree with you. Visitors are a nuisance at the time when all what you want is privacy and all those unwanted gifts is another pain in the neck! You can do neither of what you have in mind. Live and let live!

I was lucky to some degree that I went into labor in the middle of the night and had our daugther pretty early in the morning. Our first calls were to our parents to tell them. My parents lived 2 hours away, and my in-laws already had flights booked for a few weeks down the road. I was feeling pretty good about 6 hours later, and by dinner time I had had several visitors. My closest co-worker friends came by with food for my parents and my husband and a HUGE milkshake for me. Our closest friends came that night. I did not let anyone that was not my parents or my husband in the room until I was in my own clothes. I was adamant to get into my own (really my husbands) clothes and feel normal again. You are the mother, and you are the one that just gave birth. It is your decision. Most people will respect it and those that do not...I know that the nurses were great about kicking people out to "check up" on the baby.

It is up to you. After I gave birth, I didn't want friends or relatives visited me. As I did need a rest after that. I had the operation in the hospital and all I needed was the rest. Besides, I didn't look well when I was in the hospital. So I prefer my friends and relatives visited me after we went back to home. I love China

If you don't want to be visited in the hospital, your real friends will respect your wishes. Your relatives should also do the same. I would assume the hospital has rules about protecting your privacy and keeping unwanted visitors away. There will be other opportunities to see you and your child, just let them know that a little patience, as well as respect for your privacy will be greatly appreciated.

It's your choice to make and if you feel like not having visitors they should respect your decision and understand eventually.