What will I do?

Philippines
May 14, 2012 12:12am CST
I am a married man and my wife and family has taken a vacation for 6 months, I am left alone and working, as days goes by i met a lady whom had just taking a few days vacation in our city and we had a relationship, that lady also has a family of her own, we continue with our relationship upto now and now her husband has discovered about it and he's very angry. Please help me with what to do. I need opinions.
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12 responses
• United States
14 May 12
I can't believe you would do this while your family is on vacation. You should be shamed of yourself. I would tell the wife to file for divorce and find a man who will love and respect her like she deserves. How would you face her after doing such a terrible thing behind her back. she deserves better than this from her mate.
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• Philippines
14 May 12
that's why im asking what will i do what are my options, i want to keep my family.
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
14 May 12
First off what is a happily married man doing meeting women?The option you have is to drop that so called affair,never meation it again and stay homme with your wife and learn how to be a good husband..If your wife finds out she will never trust you again..If you truly love your wife you will do this.
• Philippines
15 May 12
slickcut - did you read the discussion i started? hmm.. that is my problem and thank you for the good advice you said, its simple i hope it works.
@mzz663 (2777)
• United States
14 May 12
I really think you should have thought about this before. You knew she had a husband and had the relationship anyways. I think you should call it quits before the husband gets angry and comes looking for you. What about your wife finding out? What will she do? Apparently it doesn't seem to bother you that you might lose your family or your family might lose you because of a relationship that really doesn't matter in the long run. I always had too much to lose, not worth having any extra risky relationships to mess up what was good in my life.
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@mzz663 (2777)
• United States
15 May 12
Jon, Just make sure that when your family returns from vacation that they are safe. I would be afraid that the husband might try to approach your wife for some sort of payback if he's channeling his anger at you and not his spouse.
• Philippines
15 May 12
mzz663 the husband is now looking for me, that is my problem now, i already stopped our relationship and i told my wife about this too. my only concern is that what will her husband do? capable of? i really didnt think all about this when i did this sheit. My family is very important to me, it just so happen that time that i was very lonely and needed someone to mingle with then i bumped into her.
@meapas (2436)
• India
14 May 12
Hi, What is done cannot be undone. You fell for the old human folly that was a legacy from Adam, God's First creation. If it was a one off thing like a one night stand, maybe even your wife could understand what her six month sabbatical had caused. However here you have been reckless enough to prolong it so long and throwing discretion to the wind to such an extent that now you have her husband breathing down your neck and you are actually in an unenviable position of jeopardizing TWO FAMILIES' peace and stability for good. That said , now be a MAN enough, walk up to your wife, explain the whole thing,and if possible have a man to man talk with her husband, apologize with all your heart, call it quits and wait for the best in terms that all concerned will forgive you. To be on the safer side, just in case of a worst case scenario, just keep your overnight bag packed and close at hand and as near to the front door as possible, For hell hath no fury equivalent to a woman scorned. All the best and God Bless.
• Philippines
14 May 12
This should be marked as the best response, what do you think JonGilbert? What you did may create trust issues for your wife and your lover's husband. You and your lover should solve this problem yourselves. The point is, you shouldn't create problems outside of your marriage that you cannot handle.
• Philippines
14 May 12
am i going to send a a man to talk to her husband about that matter as soon as possible?
• Philippines
14 May 12
by the way, i already try to say to my other woman to put a stop in our relationship but she said no. im so confused. im concern what will happen to their relationship, and to me.
@gaiza12 (4885)
• Philippines
14 May 12
Wow, men these days really are not contented with one relationship. That was only 6 months for goodness sake! I am not condemning you but I am just not happy with what you did. I am a woman and would really get hurt if my husband would do the same as you did. Your wife may forgive you but could the husband of the other girl forgive that girl? Didn't you realize that you are trying to ruin two families here? You should end the relationship with that other woman and prove to your wife that you are worth her love and forgiveness. Your wife should be weeping now for what you did, I feel sorry for her.
@gaiza12 (4885)
• Philippines
15 May 12
No need to say sorry though, it is your choice to do the deed. Aren't you in love with your wife? Why do you have to hurt her this way?
• Philippines
15 May 12
Im so sorry gaiza, i do realize that this would happen, but my other woman dont want us to be separated coz she's having some problems with her husband too. What i didnt expect that things would go worst and its out of my control. :'( Now i kept on guessing her husband's move.
• Philippines
14 May 12
What you need to do is to end your affair. Keep in mind that you both have a family that will be affected and will be hurt if you will still continue your affair.
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
14 May 12
Im sure her husband will blame her and demand she not continue this relationship...Cut this other woman out of your life,answer NO calls,don;t talk to her,stay away as far as you can..You can stop her from bothering you IF you want too.
• Philippines
14 May 12
its too late now, her husband discovered about it and im going to stop it now. but my concern is that i am anticipating what will his husband will do about the issue.
• Philippines
15 May 12
You have a good idea slickcut. her husband keeps on calling me day and night and wanting my head for it. the problem is i have a job here. :(
@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
14 May 12
Sorry to say this.. You should have known the consequences of having an affair with a married person. First of all, you are a married man and you should have think of your family. It is a very hard situation that this woman's husband found out about your relationship. If your family will find out about it too, your wife will get angry at you also.
@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
15 May 12
Well I guess, I will ask forgiveness to my husband and will stop seeing you or communicate with you. That if your woman is willing to give her relationship with you.
• Philippines
16 May 12
It seems like it is so easy thing to do?
• Philippines
15 May 12
i agree to what you have said chicgale, may i ask you a question? if you were in my other woman's shoes? what would you do to avoid things getting worst after having discovered by your husband that you have an affair?
@palonghorn (5480)
• United States
14 May 12
You are worried about 'keeping your family' now?? Where was that concern when you decided to cheat on your wife??? You seem to be more concerned about what her husband will do....if he's smart, he'll leave his wife, and will come to the conclusion that you are not worth the trouble he would get in by causing any trouble. However, he might just decide to tell your wife. Have you thought about telling her yourself? And my question is, why stay with her, if you are obviously not happy. As for what your wife will do, guess that depends on her feelings for you, and whether or not she can live with a cheating husband.
• Philippines
15 May 12
oh man, now there's another view for me to undertake, thanks a lot palonghorn for your response, what im praying for right now is that the husband will come to a decision to stop the arguement and the trouble that i made. i already told my wife and tell her everthing, she was so mad at me and i hope that my wife will forgive me.
@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
14 May 12
You've made ??a mistake. If you really want to improve your relationship with your wife, you have to apologize, sincerely to your wife. And do not repeat again. I forgive my husband, who had an affair. Perhaps, your wife will also forgive you, if you really sincerely apologize.
@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
16 May 12
Why did you do it three times? You must have a reason.
• Philippines
14 May 12
i guess i made this thing 3 times, i can't help it but my wife still forgives me, i know that what i made is totally wrong and unpleasant to the eyes of my fellow mylotters but i guess i have no choice to open this thing up and look for opinions and suggestions to whatever options available for me to do.
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@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
14 May 12
Oh, you have a big mistake when you are in relationship with a married woman. You should know it soon and stop it. Currently, i think you should not go to meet or keep contact with that woman any more. You should be guilty with your wife and your kids. You have time to pay back for your mistake. Become a good husband, become a good father. Good luck!
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
16 May 12
Take it easy. It needs a time, care your own family more...is what you should do now.
• Philippines
14 May 12
that is what im trying to do but all these temptations just keep on coming at me. :(
• Philippines
14 May 12
First of all what you did is really wrong! Why did you do such thing?! Oh well, it's already done. What you need to do is to STOP IT if you really love your family and if they are still important to you. Start a new, undo all your mistakes. Just think about your famjhly and hers. What if your wife will do the same thing? Urgh! I am sorry i am really disappointed. Please correct everything while you can. You'll never know what will happen. Think about it.. think about your family.
• Philippines
15 May 12
Effinmuffin if only i could undo all the changes i made with my life last 30 days i would glad to change it and put myself on the right track, and Yes my family is very important to me, i never knew that this fling thing would become a serious and messy thing. thanks a lot for your reponse.
• Philippines
14 May 12
all you have to do is to face the consequences, because at first you have committed a sin against God and your family.
• Philippines
14 May 12
that's right im facing now the consequences of the things that i have done in the past.
@Janky23 (54)
14 May 12
Quit of having relationship with that woman. Think you have your own family. Your wife will get hurt and the children also if she will know what you've done. That is an immoral act so you should stop it.[b][/b][i][/i][u][/u]
• Philippines
14 May 12
That's what is happening right now but the thing is that im concern about what will her husband do this issue?