I can relate because- I have been there once (talking from own experience)

Hi,jaiho~ Yeah,right there with ya. It is easier for us to give others advice when we can actually relate. Like I got my heart broken once in an online relationship, I can put myself in other people's shoes when they had the same situation. I got stronger from that experience. I'm not saying what I have gone through and what I have done to break away apply to everyone,'cause everyone's situation is a little bit different. But yeah,the experience definitely helps. So...big yes to what you said. Have a nice day,my friend~

often times it is easier to advise.. or just say an experience especially when it is something you can relate to... you are strong ms.jai and i admire you for it.

Like what everybody said it is really easy to give advice but when you apply it to our selves it is hard to do so. I know I'm a strong person but still there is a time that I need friends to advice me and my mind are always open for that. I can't be strong without my friends too, I know even there are only few that I can rely on or sometimes there is no one but I just think of their advice I become stronger person.

It's really easier to give advise, if you yourself have experienced the same problem, jaiho. Your advise becomes believable because of our experience. Though, we should give a caution, that you are not insisting that they follow it, but try to discern for their selves if it's also applicable to their lives. That way, you cannot be blamed if it didn't turn out right with them.

Being able to relate is always easier for the person giving advice. But you do not always need to relate to the situation. You could give advice as what you would [possibly do in a situation like theirs. Sometimes people need to hear what other would or might do in certain situations.

hi jai, It is really easy to give advice if you were been there with the situation They said person who can make someone laugh is the person who cried the most. Miss yah happy mylotting

it is easier to give advice if you are not in the situation because your mind is clear from any obstacles,unlike when you are in the situation where in you have to solve the problem on your own.you have to think a lot of things before you can come up with a solution that you think is the best thing to do...

Listening is the beginning of understanding as what my elementary teacher say. I just tried to imagine if I were in your shoes, it's not that easy. But the most important there is you were able to listen at that persons cry at least he was able to express her/his feelings. Have a nice day amiga!

I agree that it is sometimes easier to give a person advice if you have been through the same or similar experience yourself. I think it is also good to seek advice from someone on the other side of the situation, because then it might be easier to look at the situation from different angles and get a different perspective ... it might also help you to understand (especially in a conflict) how the other person is thinking and feeling, so perhaps you can find some "common ground" on which to relate.

I think that it is in fact easier to relate if it is something that you have been there and done that when you really think about it. There are just many times where people are talking about something that have happened, but they might as well be speaking a different language. I don't think that I have dealt with some things that people have talked about. And judging by their frustrating, I don't know if I ever will. Of course, I'm kind of reluctant to give the same advice that got me through a situation. For one simple reason as problems can be rather similar, but not the same, as what works well in one instance, can really blow up right in the face of another person. However, it does feel like more at ease if I can give some insight on a situation.

Jane beti People seek advise of others only when they are unable to solve it alone, many persons seek my advise in person, over phone, via email or even sms; i am proud to say, i always help.. As one grows older, his knowledge gets enriched from real life experiences, and this is an endless process.. Well what do you mean by-I have been there once? Blessings from Dada

Jane beti Many women and girls come to me for advise, i try to help me in all possible ways, kind words does not cost any thing but it can heal deep wounds.. hubby is sick, in bed since 2 days now, advised full bed rest, as i said in my discussion.. he is the man who helps many too. Hugs from Maa

jai, True! Sometimes we can also see ourselves in whatever situation the person is and is definitely much easier to give advice if we went through the same situation. I've got advices here from friends in myLot which had greatly help me in moving on. There were always different views but still it is always good to know people's experiences especially when we can really relate with them... I don't know why I am not seeing you weak... I really feel like you are a strong lady.

I also trying to relate with the situation. Thank you.

Yes, it is often a lot easier when talking with someone if they are wanting your thoughts and opinions if you can relate with them, and share some of your experiences and thoughts as well. Life now a days is not always easy, and whether it is Health issues, Divorce, kids, etc. people are always out there seeking advice and when you can relate with them and been thru it, it helps make it easier to talk with them all for sure.

Hi Jai! Yes, you are very right that if we have faced the similar problem, it gets easier for us to give advice to the grieving person. However, we need to be cautious while giving advice, we should only tell him/her about positive aspects which we learnt while facing the problem and not the negative ones. I've observed some people unknowingly narrating their unpleasant experiences to the person without realizing that this could be counter-productive and the already troubled person may feel more depressed. In general also when someone is trouble and comes to us for advice, we should always tell him/her that - "Look! God is great and everything will be all right soon". Our positive assurances make a person feel at easy and s/he feels that there is someone in this world who is caring and listening to him/her. Good Post. Have a great day!

that's one thing with me too, sister, people could say i am strong but inside i am really not. and because we had been on the same track though physically far from each other, we understand and can relate with our discussions.

dear sis,if you are honest with yourself and not making up something to give advice to someone then whatever you say will carry the ring of truth and will be effective to them.If you have experienced something similar to that person and you let them know what you did and how you solved the problem then that person will get inspiration from you.Maybe he/she may use a different method to solve the problem but your advice will give him/her hope and courage to go ahead.hugs galore.