High School drop out

Hi there Feebeetee, Welcome to Mylot! Two of my daughters did this same sort of thing. The oldest one...well, I reacted a lot like you. I just didn't understand but she'd turned 18 while still in school and it was out of my hands. I was devastated and so worried about her future. I will say that I had a rule for all 4 of my girls...I will gladly support them 100% while they are getting an education but if they choose to drop out then they better be quick about getting a job because they will be charged rent. Well, my oldest decided to move out. It took her about a year, maybe a little less than that, to realize the error of her thinking. She re-enrolled in school and got her diploma and is now 35 and a loan officer for a bank. Sometimes they just have to learn the hard way. As a parent, the best thing you can do for him is not to make it easy for him to be a dropout.

I dropped out of school the beginning of my high school year. I'm not proud of that but I did. The best advice I can give you is to just let your son know that he will have to get a job immediately. I would not give him any money or pay any of his bills. This may sound harsh, but tough love can do wonders. My mom did it to me when I dropped out, and I ended up getting my GED and worked my butt off to pay my bills. Best of luck!

maybe 'school' was just not for him. is there any other way he can get his diploma? here in the city i live in, they have alternatives for those types of students that just don't do well in the school type of environment. as my daughter is doing the victory lap this year (she graduated last year from highschool and they let you stay on to get a few extra credits, upgrade, etc.) i know a few of my daughter's friends that have gone this route.

I dropped out of high school when I was seventeen because I just couldn't take people trying to tell me what to do anymore. A lot of my teachers I didn't really like and I didn't really see why I needed to listen to them when I felt that I knew a lot more about life than they did. After I dropped out though I went and got my G.E.D and had it way before I would have graduated. I got a decent job and worked for a year but I realized that even with a full time job or two jobs people are still struggling to really live a satisfactory life. So I would recommend telling your son that he won't be able to support himself very efficently without learning about some kind of field so he can get a better job. Don't lose hope though, it took me a year of time off from getting my G.E.D and I found great motivation to start going to college. I found out that I wanted to go into the field of natural medicine and now am pursuing that pretty hard. I'm about a semester away from getting my associates and than I will be moving on to a specialized school. So don't lose hope in your son even though someone is a high school dropout doesn't mean they can't go back to school or that they will fail in life.

have you already ask your son why he is doing this? he must have a valid reason for this? Don't give up on him. I know soon he'll understand the importance of education but for now I think what you need to do is listen to him and know his reasons for doing this.

I am sorry to hear about this. I don't have kids yet but I have encountered the same situation with my cousin. This cousin of mine is living with us because his parents could not afford to send him to school. Since I so not want my parents to work doubly hard, I took the responsibility in sending him to school. I worked hard as if I have my own child to raise because I really want my cousin to finished at least high school. This may sound odd, but that is the culture here in the Philippines. 4 months before his graduation, he decided never to go to school anymore without informing us. I would later on realized that he is no longer going to school because his teachers would send me letters. It was so devastating especially on my part but I did not let him get away with it. I explained to him how lucky he is because not everyone could afford to finished schooling. He told me that his classmates were bullying him because he dos not have a parents. It broke my heart but then I talked to him and told him that he should not care about what other people would say as long as he is not doing anything bad. Now, he is already graduating in college and he promised me that after he finished his school, he would send his younger brother to school as well in order for him to help with his family. I don't want anything in return. I just want him to pay it forward by helping others as well.