he's so goofy!!

United States
May 16, 2012 9:52pm CST
my ex told me that he wants me to leave my husband and marry him again! but here's the goofy thing....he's planning to marry another girl!! as a matter of fact, the one he's planning to marry, is his very FIRST fiance. it's so funny!!!! here he was last night, telling me how much he cared for me and wanted us to be together again and now this girl is asking me when he and i got married so she wouldn't pick the same date. HAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA 8D all i've got to say is GOOD LUCK!!!!!!! seeing as that she's not officially divorced from her own husband, they deserve each other.
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@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
17 May 12
you are so lucky that you escape that. it could have been you. it seems like he is like my brother...a straight up player.
@GardenGerty (157552)
• United States
17 May 12
From your other comments I can see you are going to have a wonderful life. When the nest is empty and they move away it gives you someone to go visit. . . lol. It also gives you tons of time to appreciate the one you've got. He is a hard worker who has helped you have a good future.
• United States
18 May 12
yes he has. when my youngest one graduates next year, the other roommates have to leave. or, they can stay and hubby and i will find us a one room house. :)
• United States
17 May 12
not really a player....she babies him too much. that's what he's looking for. someone to do all the work so he can be a couch potato. since our kids are graduating, i'm looking at an empty nest next year. he still has a son and has 10 more years before he can have an empty nest. i'm not looking at starting over. i'm ready for the next phase of my life.
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@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
18 May 12
I think that man promise you something that is impossible for him to fulfill. He want only some attention when he is lonely and need some flesh beside him...Don't believe about that promise he made because in the end your the victim and suffer the consequences...
• United States
23 May 12
over 20 yrs ago, we made promises to each other. neither one of us kept those promises. we divorced. we get along now because of the kids. here lately, he's been trying to make promises to me, but i don't hold him to any promise of any kind. i've even laughed at him. the freedom of not having to care about promises being kept. :)
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
23 May 12
With my experience to my partner that promise not to do anything wrong again when she come back to me and I forgive her. But when she go back to her work abroad. She is betraying me again and those promise she said to me is nothing...she even more evil than the first because she makes words towards me... I think you are right that never consider his promise to you. He always doing things that he done in the past
@GardenGerty (157552)
• United States
17 May 12
Goofy is too mild a word for this. He is seriously messed up and is not a good catch for anyone. I see you are not considrering his proposal.
• United States
17 May 12
oh no! i've already been married to the fool, am not doing that again. since he's been able to get military disability, all he does is play video games with the boys and sleep. i can't get him to do any simple chores around the house. he won't even cook dinner! whereas, my husband, just got back from a business trip where he worked 12 hour days for 11 days out of the 13 days he was gone. came back home and is working his regular shift, without missing a day. when he does get his days off, he's taking care of errands for me so i can enjoy part of my day with my daughter, getting her ready for her prom. so no, i wouldn't trade this man in for a million dollars. (hhhmmmm....) :)
@jbrooks0127 (2324)
• United States
17 May 12
I think that if I were you I would have told her. She has her own set of problems but she clearly is marrying a man that really doesn't want her. Of course he could be paying you but you know him well enough to know that. You have no responsibility her except that you could save that woman the same pain you went through.
• United States
18 May 12
until she finalizes her divorce from her husband and he finalizes his divorce from his third wife, they'll never officially get married. as for me divorcing my husband for him, not a chance! i look forward to the day he moves out of the house, taking his other son with him. he's got 12 months to find them a place.
• Canada
17 May 12
I would call Jerry Springer for this one.... I would totally drop this guy, unless you're into the concubine marriage thing. Its not right for a guy to play the hearts of women like harps and expect a golden turn out. Ditch the dude! You have a hubby, be with him; as long as you're happy. ;-)
• United States
18 May 12
i'm not with him. him and his son have been living with us to spend what little time we have left with our kids. when our son graduates, him and his other son will have to move out. we all get along to provide better for the kids. i have no romantic interest of any kind with him.
• Philippines
18 May 12
Hahaha that was such a funny scenario, anyway the good thing is you know the game and what was happening. I think that is some kind of advantage as well, its better to know what was happening than blinded.
• United States
18 May 12
it also feels good not to have any expectations of any kind. all that man ever does is play video games with the boys and sleep. he don't do much of anything else. he'll say he's going to do something, but it never comes about. this girl, she hears him say he's going to do something, she expects him to do it. she hasn't learned how to pick the battles with him. me, hahahahahaha.....i look at him and shrug my shoulders and say whatever and go on my merry way. if it's something i know that i need to be done, i get it done.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
17 May 12
i am so not understanding this messed up situation your ex was in... hehe was he drunk when he went over to you and asked you about these? i wonder!!!
• United States
17 May 12
no he wasn't drunk. he was just waking up from sleeping all day. if he's not playing video games with the boys, he sleeps all day.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
17 May 12
? I don't know if he is goofy, or stupid, or trying to fool you .. I wonder if he can remember why you are divorced. I hope this girl is reading here too. What a mess you all make out of your life.
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
17 May 12
OMG, some people just have the nerve... and don't have any ethical boundaries. I despise guys who have proposed to a girl/woman, and still, they are chasing after other women without breaking off the engagement (and vica versa, when girls do the same).