Can one ever justify disowning a parent?

Hiya riempie9, You might feel like that now and I can understand it very well even though I have lived in another Country this was my kind of life before but I never disowned that person. I came to understand what made her like that and it came from a long way back and the problem was she was never understood and no one ever listened to her either. At that time like you I could not see it the way I do now but I was always puzzled as to what make her like nice minute and the next nasty. The other one she was married to was the main cause and then you did not get divorced just like that. Give her the time you would not give it yourself and love her even though she says those things try to be as nice as you can. It´s true it might take a long time for things to change but keep trying its worth it you know as I never understood my Mom till it was too late. The other one also passed on and the same thing happened too. Just do the best you can but love her the best over anyone as she is your Mom. A bitter heart will only make you ill in the long run I was going down that road without realizing it and I turned away and took a better road to peace for myself. Can´t say anymore than that friend a lot of us have suffered this kind of thing too so we know how it is.xxx

No, you cant do that despite all the suffering you may have endured due to them. Reason being, they still give birth to you and that is already something you can't pay them back ever in this lifetime. Thus, its your responsibility to give back to them whatever you can for all they have done to at least ensure your growth

Of course, where is justice if not then? I really hate those parents who are like this. My mom is one, he favours my junior brother more than me, although now he has working, he still bullies my mom for cooking, dressing, buying things for him, as for me, she did not even bother to smile with me every morning, we argue, she made me cried today and was embarrased I went to work.

Its up to the person that has this happening to them. I think that if a parent is treating a child this way OR if there are grandchildren involved that are seeing really bad behavior then a person certainly does have the right to disown a parent. We were taught as kids that we are to respect our parents but weren't they supposed to respect us as well? I think so.

We are all human being that have the right to be respected and right not to be abuse. Even if we are children has the obligation to respect and follow our parents order or teaching. We have the right to disobey if the things our parents is not right. Parents must not be that way in treating their children because it will affect the psychological well being of the children...and the result is worse case scenario

it's very sad that we can't choose our parents. they might be the ideal ones or the worst nightmare a child could ever have but no matter how strongly we disown them in front of everybody they remain and forever will be our parents.

Sure, you have that right. If that is how you really feel then all you need do is move away, live on your own and have nothing more to do with them if that is what you want. Kids have even been known to "divorce" parents. You do have choices.

Parenting does not come with directions. I believe parents are just like anyone else. If someone chooses to become a parent, he or she should automatically do so in the best way possible. Parents are not always perfect; but a parent is a parent just the same. If there is a relationship one should have high hopes for, it is the one he or she has with his or her parent(s). If you have to be the bigger person with your parent, try to do it. If you can positively influence your parent(s), find out a healthy way to do so. A person can learn a lot from his or her parent(s), and parents can learn a lot from their children. If one feels the need to disown a parent, they must have reasons. If forgiveness and understanding can't heal, then I guess there is the possibility of loss.

I don't think that anybody has the right to be respected just because they are a parent. If anything, I think that they should have to try harder to win the respect of their children. I don't think that any parent has the right to beat their child, and if yours does this then I would say that you should no longer have anything to do with them because they're obviously not good for you. I would never be friendly towards people who chose to do this, and if my parents were the ones who I was having to cut ties with then I would certainly do it.

I can not even imagine the thought of disowning one of my parents. It would certainly have to besomething tragic eand life consuming to bring that thought to light for me. there would have to be circumstances beyond all control to even consider disowning a parent.

Yes you have the right. I wonder why there are parents like this. They should know how to be fair in the first place. Most of the times, these kind of parents have some problems with past such as bad emotional experience. On the children's part, don't ever use this to rebel because it will just bounce to you. Try to look at it as a challenge. I know it is never easy but God has always a better plan so just keep on going.

hii, i have heard this kind of parents do exist in the world, but the problem is their children are the most unlucky one i must say. but when this kind of situation exists i feel that the victim child bears a psychological mark and he/she do not have proper mental status when he /she get to mixed with other people and had to work in a particular culture. personally i hate this kind of parents and i think that other relatives of the family should take notice of this kind of behavior and should take some initiative to stop this kind of discrimination and harsh attitude of the parents towards one child.such child happen to develop a feeling of hatred towards own family and the near ones and they happen to seek for support and true love all through their life. many a times they get trapped into wrong companies and even committed many crimes.

Of course you have a right. Children should obey their parents but only of course if they're treating you right and to the best of their ability. If your parent is treating you with discomfort and abuse then you have all right to talk to someone and see what you can do in forth to disowning your parent. good luck!