Mom is giving me hard one this time

Malaysia
May 17, 2012 3:26pm CST
My mom is a hard one, she is hard on me, reluctant to accept my ideas, yesterday she just yell at me for peeing in her toilet, she has one in her room, I was not making dirty though, brother and dad doing their business there but get no scolding, I think she just hated me, I was sad for a whole day yesterday, why I has a mom like that who is giving me face to see everyday, is not that I am her employee, I am her daughter, that she never want to brought in to this world. Can you please advise me?
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11 responses
@factorial (977)
• Philippines
19 May 12
Oh! that is really very sad. May I ask you a question? Why is it you have said "I am her daughter, that she never want to bring in to this world"?
• Malaysia
20 May 12
I guess this is the words she always said to me.
• Philippines
21 May 12
too sad... she is still your mom... so love her.
@Bluedoll (16770)
• Canada
17 May 12
Oh, that is silly of her. Can you forgive her? I am not a betting person but I'll bet you one dollar that her anger has nothing to do with toilets. It is something else. You are her daughter, get into her bed, give her a big hug and ask her what you can do for her is my advice.
• Malaysia
18 May 12
Then, what else is her problem? Is it dad?
@Bluedoll (16770)
• Canada
18 May 12
I don't know you will need to find out from her if she wants to tell you. Maybe it is something else. I would put any reference to silly things behind you and focus on any important things. I was meaning get close to her like family should be. Very close and honest with each other is what I mean.
@celticeagle (189927)
• Boise, Idaho
17 May 12
I feel sorry for you that someone, especially your mother, has made you feel this way. I think you should pick a time and talk to her. Tell her how her acting the way she has had made you feel and ask her why. I would do this in the nicest manner possible. Maybe give it some thought before hand to be sure of what words you want to use. Tell her you love her and you feel bad. Hope it all works out for you. Happy Mylotting.
• Malaysia
17 May 12
I don't have a mother
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@celticeagle (189927)
• Boise, Idaho
18 May 12
I can see what you mean. She isn't being much of one. Does she have have some problem about you or what?
@CTHanum (8233)
• Malaysia
18 May 12
Hi sis! Oh,please don't hate your mom. She is your mom anyway~ No matter how much you feel bad to her, be patient with it and grateful for what we have. Nothing will get solved if both people put things in fire. Like if she scold you, you might say things back at her. Try to be patient since you still leave with her.. I know that you feel stress for things that happened at your workplace and now at home but you will missed the yelling when they are not with you.(^^)
• Malaysia
18 May 12
Yeah, I missed my mom voice when I am out, so I try my best to tolerate her and be with her, I never wanted to do this to her, I am regret, and I want to come back to home from work as soon as possible to be with her.
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
17 May 12
I feel for you. In some situations like you have, I have here as well. Or have had before in my younger years. I think the whole family needs counselling but I'm sure there is no way they will agree with it. There shouldn't be the fact that your mom scolds only you for anything and not anyone else. In some cases, one family member is always used as the "one who takes all the crap" from everyone else, just cause the other family members see something in themselves about you. Other times it's because of some other reason. I would put a sign up saying, please clean up after you pee. Maybe that will do some good. She should know that men have "bad aim" sometimes.
• Malaysia
17 May 12
She would clean after my bro and dad use the toilet, but not me and she requested me to help clean up their messes.
• United States
18 May 12
Once again, I understand exactly how you feel.. Recently my own mother snapped at me all because I had a tiny article of paper the floor of my room. And just a minute ago she was using my computer to check her facebook account and almost got mad at me again.. I feel like that too sometimes, and my mother get's highly upset when people ask, "How did an angel like you come from a devil like her?" and I honestly wonder that sometimes. I feel like you were brought into this world for a reason even if you don't know it yet. As for your mom..I'm still trying to figure out what to say.
• Malaysia
18 May 12
Hi pandasayori, I don't know why some mother get mad at their own child always, all we need to do is pray and try to tolerate, it is a hard life when nobody appreciate you, I hope we both can have a peaceful life and good fortune. Keep in touch
@hsofyan (3446)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
18 May 12
After all she is your mother, a woman who gave birth to and caring for you. You have to respect her. I do not know what causes it, until your mother doing that. Try to ask your mother, what makes him grumpy and disrespectful to you. Do it in a smart and wise. This is a war in your life. You have to win it, with any strategy. If you've known your words or your actions are not liked by your mother, you can immediately apologized and promised not to repeat it. Do expect your mother, if it is reasonable. The next days you have to fill with a sincere devotion of a child. I believe, that a child would lose his life, if not good at her mom.
@bird123 (10658)
• United States
19 May 12
OK,the next time she jumps your case, Give her a great big HUG. Tell her: I love you so much Mom. What can I do to make things better for you? Watch her closely and see.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
21 May 12
I tend to believe that there are times in our lives when our parents are hard on us because they see something in us that they wish that they could have changed about themselves when they were younger. For me, my mother used to give me a really hard time because I was happy to be living with her and my husband and children. It was only after we got a home of our own that she started to let up on me.
• United States
18 May 12
Hi. I too have those days where I seem to be doing everything wrong so I sympathize. Anyhow it does sound as though your mom has the problem and you want to do something about it. Is she adverse in talking with you or perhaps you both could talk with a mutual friend? It won't happen in one shot so you both have to be willing to try while you're both still able. If she is feeling guilty about the circumstances she shouldn't be taking them out on you. Let her know it is important to you, talk it over, and get to the bottom of it! Good luck!
• India
18 May 12
Start to create a close approach to your mother with love and care. Help her when she needs it. She will really turns to your side and supports. Every one loves loves their child equally. It doesn't matter whether it is a girl or boy. So first of all keep this ego away from you and start to love her. She will also do the same at you.