If you couldnt afford it would you get it?
By 911Ricki
@911Ricki (13588)
Canada
May 21, 2012 10:21am CST
I went to the dollar store the other day with my ex coworker / friend.
I was looking for a toy my cats love and I got in the past (it broke so I wanted to get them a new one).
I know my cats are spoiled but I give them the necessities, such as food, litter, water, and love plus the extra toys, and treats. But I make my budget around this and always will so they get these before anything (I mean my main bills are paid and I will do without).
I am getting a rabbit or two now, and just have to pick them out (hard hard decision). But again Ill fit this into my budget and make sure they have everything before I get what I want.
Sometimes it can be hard but I do without things for me and make sure they have everything (just like kids they need it). My friend just got a cat from another lady for free. She doesnt understand the concept of the cost of an animal but instead she was selfish and greedy got the cat. She owes thousands, filed for bankruptsy, on disability, cant even afford her food which she gets from the food bank, and owes to many companies on the verge of getting everything shut off.
We were walking around the store, and she goes can I borrow money. I said no because she already owes me money to begin with (well she owes everyone money). People keep handing her things, and paying for her she doesnt learn a single thing. I go what for she goes well I need a litter bocx, scoop, and food for my cat. I just laughted and walked away. I turned around and told her I prewarned her the costs and she cant afford it. Im not giving in as she just bought new clothes, and went out for lunch with a few other people. She has about half a bag of cat food her sister gave her yesterday. But she cant afford a $2.00 cat litter, $2.00 scoop, and she certain cant afford a minimum $10 bag of cat food how is she going to support this animal.
I just ignored her as she kept asking again, and I told her to start finding under the table work Im not screwing my budget up because she didnt consider the cost, and the overall situation.
She left the cat for 2 days this weekend as well. She came over and I asked her where the cat was. She goes at home I left a bowl of food and water out (its really really hot out) and I know she cant afford air conditioning, or even a fan I feel for this poor cat, and she doesnt see anything wrong with not being able to support the animal, and care for it. I personally believe this is neglect especially leaving the animal in this heat.
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6 responses
@innocents_lost (1026)
• Canada
21 May 12
I hate people who do that. My cats even when I lived at home if I was going away for the weekend I would pay the nabours kid to come take care ofthem now my mother will feed them and check on them but I know the nabours kid comes over and spent amino of an hour with them every day playing and cuddling them was well as feeding and checking the litter bow I feel much better going away knowing they are beingwell cared for and getting the attention they want
@911Ricki (13588)
• Canada
21 May 12
I know when I go away or even pet sitting my parents watch them. If I go away (or my Mom does) I know my Dad will spoil them. I dont mean she has to spoil the cat but she got the cat Thursday and left it for 2 nights, and then again for another 2 nights. I know when she is home she slightly gives it attention but she was jsut on the phone with me and the cat was scratching the furntiture and she was yelling at it. But the fact she was asking to borrow money to buy necessities worries me and I think in a few months Ill end up with the cat. She was saying she was going to declaw the cat (yet she cant afford to feed the cat as it is).
@innocents_lost (1026)
• Canada
22 May 12
Omg I have such a huge issue with declaring only in a country were people are so self absorbed and lazy would they think it exceptable to cut a huge part of an animals foot off for convenience and still claim to love the animal that's like saying urban kid keeps wondering off let's cut there toes off sobthey can't get away so quickly without being noticed people just wouldn't do it yet think it is okay to do to animals because they are way to lazy to spend time and train there cats and give them the proper tools and supplies to scratch on.......sorry the rant started there before I even realized it. I think this might be why I have very limited friends lol I would loose it on someone like this
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
21 May 12
She sounds like a freeloader and an idiot. She didn't have the sense to know it costs money to have a cat. I feel sorry for the cat too.
@911Ricki (13588)
• Canada
21 May 12
Someone is always there to bail her out. She's never had to deal with her consequences. Her siblings and others bail her out she owes hundreds even thousands to friends and family I highly doubt anyone will see it. She blames other for her misfortunate such as all her debt is because of her son.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
21 May 12
This is a tough one. I think we've all taken on pets because we so want them only to find out that we can't afford them, don't have the time etc. I have friends that have such poor budget skills and they do this even with their kids. I know that they SHOULD budget better but I have to stand back and look at the kid or animal that is going hungry and well, if I have the money...I always give in. I really don't know what would be the right way to treat this. You are right...she should not have gotten the cat considering her situation. Thing is...that is already a done deal. I kind of blame the lady that got rid of the cat for free for not making sure that it was a good home that she was giving the cat to. Seriously, if we want to compare pets to kids (and we do) then would we give our kid to someone who could not feed or carae for him/her? I would not harshly judge my friend for this but if I felt strongly that she needed to learn from the experience and if I were unwilling to help, I'd just simply say that I did not have the money to spare. That's reasonable because most of us don't.
One thing for sure is that poordom breeds creativity. When you NEED something, you will figure out a way. Like Gifts said...she could use dirt for kitty litter...not the best but you do what you gotta do.
@roberten (3128)
• United States
21 May 12
Sounds like a severe case of ignorance. She may be helped by taking a class at the local SPCA or other pet-friendly organization. Some are set up to educate, help supply needs, and rescue if necessary. Maybe if she gets educated by a neutral party the severity of the situation may set in. Without proper education, she probably will not be able to care for the cat adequately. Giving her handouts without proper education is not helping her or her cat.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
21 May 12
A cat or any other pet is a responsibility and I think it is important to look at your budget before you decide buy a pet in order to find out if it is realistic or not. I don't understand people who buy a pet when they can't afford it. You can't expect people to lend you the money for your pet. Your pet is your choice and your responsibility. In your situation I would also have said no when she asked to borrow money, it is not your fault she spent her money on clothes and meals with her friends. She should have thought about her cat first. My husband and I have many pets and we always make sure that we have enough money for their needs. If we can't buy both clothes and food for the pets we would ALWAYS choose food for the pets. We can live without new clothes, but our pets need their food and the other things.
@nonersays (3329)
• United States
22 May 12
Nope, a person who can not afford a pet should not have a pet. That doens't just mean food and water to me, that means vet visits, vaccinations, etc.
And one bowl of food and water for a cat for 2 days is not enough. Specially if it it has been hot and the cat has been locked in an uncooled home. The house itself might not get unbearably hot, depending on the house, but I doubt one bowl of water would go very far in those conditions.
