you love or loves you?

@kyuheart (157)
Philippines
June 6, 2012 11:22am CST
The one in your heart or the one who is holding you in his/her heart? Each one of us will encounter or have encountered this type of dilemma in our lives. And I want to know what you guys will choose and what is the reason. As for me, the answer for now is I don't know. I haven't really thought about this kind of stuff and I don't want to write half-heartedly on this. Instead, I will wait for your answers and thoughts regarding this matter and decide from there on.
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@sender621 (14898)
• United States
6 Jun 12
I am a true romantic and probably always will be. I Believe the one we love with all our heart and hold in our hearts will always have a special bond to us. We can't do much about the feelings of someone else who loves but but the feelings we have deep in our hearts for someone make a connection like no other.
@kyuheart (157)
• Philippines
7 Jun 12
I am a hopeless romantic as well and I totally agree with what you said. I haven't really experience it yet but I think I will still choose the one I love even though he doesn't love me back! I can't really help it.
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• India
7 Jun 12
I'm a hopeless romantic too.... though my comment was different, it was for others. But when it comes to me, it is different. I will wait for my love to come for me...
@kyuheart (157)
• Philippines
7 Jun 12
the problem is what if that person never comes? its hard for hopeless romantics like us.
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• United States
7 Jun 12
Well I have made the mistake of jumping too fast. I loved her and still do but now she barely talks to me. Which is horrid since we are in an exchange together so we will practically be living together for 20 days. Just my opinion is don't take assumptions about what the other person's actions mean, they can often be misleading.
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• India
8 Jun 12
That's true, wazn.... Never assume anything in love. Also, never use mediators, even if they are your close friends. Their misinterpretation would lead to disaster. Whatever be the situation, talk to him/her directly. Never use any mediator for your communication. It's disastrous!! Also, don't assume that you are face reading expert and start interpreting their expressions. TRUST ONLY THEIR WORDS!!
@kyuheart (157)
• Philippines
7 Jun 12
I will keep this in mind! Thanks for sharing your experience heatedwazn=)
• India
7 Jun 12
buddy even i had this experience....but in ma case the girl approached me and i couldnt say no to her...she was sweet....blah blah blah...she had everythng that i wanted.....butb that girl ditched me and i was like just_________________________ like this blank space for a while and now i am out of her,she was like filling and nasty needs.....y do a girl need to play with the heart of boy...are every girl like that!!!
• India
6 Jun 12
That's in fact a very difficult choice. It depends on the practicality of the choices. As it is all about your life, your decision has to be very practical. Though you love a girl/guy very much, it is not 100% sure that you get it back. Her/his expectations, likes and dislikes may be different. You can't be sure of how she/he would move about once you start a life with her/him. But on the other hand, the one who loves you, loves you knowing all your pros and cons. She/he would make a perfect life with you, provided your character is compatible with her/his. So it is definitely a very difficult thing to decide on!! Involves of hell a lot of thinking!!
@kyuheart (157)
• Philippines
6 Jun 12
Practicality! I'll keep this in mind cause I really thought that if I don't like the person then I will definitely not choose him. I guess I'm just a newbie to this and I have never really thought of the outcome. You're somewhat an expert to this huh!?
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• India
6 Jun 12
Both your characters must be compatible and your marriage must be feasible - that's what I mean by practicality. And nope! I'm not a pro in this... In fact, I've never been in love! It's just my character to analyze things deeply. Especially, when it comes to relationships, I can do in depth analysis. You can say I'm good at characters and related stuff .
@kyuheart (157)
• Philippines
6 Jun 12
i know you meant that. and i'm sorry if i somewhat offended you. its just that you also misunderstood me. i really do admire you for having all these thoughts. with regards to being an expert to this, i meant it in a good way. i guess my choice of words are wrong. thank you for sharing what's on your mind and i hope the both of us will find love soon.
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• Malaysia
7 Jun 12
Hi kyuheart, i think both must have mutual feelings. If the one in your heart you might be a slave to him/her especially if the one knows that you are desperate for his/her love. You might change yourself just to be loved and when he/she's gone your world would be empty and you would feel like not yourself again. And if he/she holding your heart then you will have a hard time trying to please him/her so he/her would not get hurt for you not returning the love. But if the feelings are mutual everything would be easy and smooth, no extra work or feelings.If theres a breakup both will still be good friends and move can move on without hurt feelings. But then again it is easy said than done. To me if theres doubt its a no go.
@kyuheart (157)
• Philippines
7 Jun 12
hello acrossnation=) i agree with what you said but the sad part is in reality not everyone will have mutual feelings with the one they love.
• India
6 Jun 12
uuuuummmm.....naughty minded......acha accrding to me yes heart holds love for sme 1 special....but to me it should be a slow process.....there shoudnt be any hurry in love....ya but had many of the crushes and it alwys remaind crush....so....take the relation and drive it very slowly on a 10 speed.....if ua serus for a gal...nai th sme boys are there who be in relation fr tomepass......but thts nt right.....so falll in love but at slow rate....:) now what do you say kyuheart
@kyuheart (157)
• Philippines
6 Jun 12
i agree that we shouldn't hurry when it comes to love because there's the right time for everything. thanks for the comment.
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• India
7 Jun 12
you are welcome ..:)
• United States
8 Jun 12
I think ideally you need both to make things work. You need to love your person, and they need to love you as well. If that doesn't work out, the second-best thing would be to go for somebody who loves you... because if you two have enough in common and they love you, you will more than likely fall in love with them too.
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• United States
7 Jun 12
Both... My hubby is the one in my heart and he is holding me in his heart. I was very lucky to find a great guy like him!!! He is so loving and caring and is truly my best friend. 7 years married 12 years together in all and we are still going strong!! Sure we have our disagreements, everyone does but we make it out of them still loving each other :)
@kyuheart (157)
• Philippines
7 Jun 12
i kind of envy you. how wonderful it is that you both felt the same way. i hope i'll find someone who i will love and loves me back too.
@sajujohn (1005)
• India
7 Jun 12
If this question was asked to me some 4 years before my answer will be that I will choose the one who loves me. But if you ask the question now then my answer would be the other one. Because now I love a girl more than myself and I am in a condition that I can't loose her and infact I don't want to. Therefore to all those who loves me my answer will be a definite sorry....
@kyuheart (157)
• Philippines
7 Jun 12
really? i guess its a different story when you find the one.
@mammots (3209)
• Philippines
12 Jun 12
to be honest i would rather have the one who's holding me in his heart. i have tried being in a relationship where in i was the only one who was seriously in love and it was really a very frustrating situation to be in. i have also tried having a boyfriend who not only loved me deeply but adored me with all his heart. i was pampered.
• Malaysia
7 Jun 12
Hi kyuheart, i think both must have mutual feelings. If the one in your heart you might be a slave to him/her especially if the one knows that you are desperate for his/her love. You might change yourself just to be loved and when he/she's gone your world would be empty and you would feel like not yourself again. And if he/she holding your heart then you will have a hard time trying to please him/her so he/her would not get hurt for you not returning the love. But if the feelings are mutual everything would be easy and smooth, no extra work or feelings.If theres a breakup both will still be good friends and can move on without hurt feelings. But then again it is easy said than done. To me if theres doubt its a no go.