Hard Headed little Brother!!!

Sounds like you are doing your best - but he's not listening. I would say to just back off. I wouldn't offer one piece of advice unless he asks. I'd just stop trying so hard to tell him the things you feel he should do. Maybe the age difference is a problem since you are not that much older than he is. I would maybe just try to build relationship with him without being preachy - (not saying you are being preachy at all!!) He will need you - he just does not know it yet! So - relax - he has to grow up and make his own decisions even if they are the wrong ones. There are many mistakes we could have all avoided if we had listened to others more experienced too.. he will have to learn his own way...

Sorry you have a hard time with your lil bro, it happens this way sometimes. We all wish we can be a better role model, and for me I just don't think you should take the blame if he takes the wrong direction on things. Sometimes lil brother's don't follow in the footsteps of their bigger siblings no matter how much they want to think so. You can just do so much. I hope he straightens out and makes everyone proud of him one day. My little brother has his own mind too, his own ways of thinking, etc. He is almost a carbon copy of my mother in ways. In other ways I see my dad in him at his age. It really fluctuates but just pray for him, that is all you can do sometimes.

yes, the younger siblings (me) are always hard headed! and we do give head aches to our older siblings. it took me a while to realize this but I really do appreciate all that my older sibling has done for me.. I'm sure your brother's head will soften eventually too.. but we just like to be free sometimes. Maybe doing too much for him will add the the hardening of his head... let him makes some of his mistakes and he may learn better from his own pain. good luck!

thesilentsufferer I am sorry you have this situation. I am sure it must be very very hard on you but don't give up. Your parents need you to do the best you can and if that is not enough you will at least know you tried. Also your parents will appreciate your tryong to help and thet might give them some comfort to balance the disappointment they feel in your brother. Best wishes to you. And welcome to myLot...