I am confused
@jahernandezrivas (11288)
United States
June 10, 2012 7:47pm CST
My friend called and asked me to watch her daughter while she was at work because I am not working at the moment well I do work on line but it hardly pays anything but I told her I would do it because she is one of my closest friends even though me and her have had our ups and downs but we are always there for each other and I watched her daughter last Friday and she called me today and asked me how much I wanted her to pay me Friday and I really don't know her daughter is 13 it is not like she is a baby he he he but I am confused and don't know the answer to that question at all I told her I would think about it and we have til Friday. What would you do? How much would you ask for?
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@celticeagle (159887)
• Boise, Idaho
11 Jun 12
I would definitely charge something. If not your friend is sure you are a push over and will be having you watch her all the time. I am certain you don't want that. You want her to respect you and not feel she can walk all over you. Sure be nice and not charge her an arm and a leg. Maybe just the arm. hehe
@jahernandezrivas (11288)
• United States
11 Jun 12
I just don't know how much to tell her?
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@jahernandezrivas (11288)
• United States
12 Jun 12
We reached a decision and even though I told her no we decided on 50 dollars and I really don't even want to take that from her but I already know her she won;t take no for an answer.
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@OYouness (87)
•
11 Jun 12
Hi jahernandezrivas
I think that friendship is beyond getting paid for services. To my mind, you shouldn't take any money from her since, as you said, she is your closest friend, and that you are always ready to stand up for each other. Maybe one day, you will need her help for something, that will be the day of your paiement: she will pay you by another service.
Have a nice day
@jahernandezrivas (11288)
• United States
11 Jun 12
Yeah I am not sure I am hoping she will have the answer. Thanks and have a great day. 
@jahernandezrivas (11288)
• United States
11 Jun 12
I hope so and I am sure we will reach and answer by Friday thanks and hve a great day
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
11 Jun 12
Well, I don't have a "bit of idea" to how you can ask money to a person, to keep her daughter. Perhaps you could inform better than money asks a babysitter for a day. However, being a friend, you should, in my view, take a little less. In essence, make her a little discount. Friends must hold dear!
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
11 Jun 12
That's what i said, Alberello. For my good friend, I'd just do it for free. It's my friend after all. That's what friends do. I just help my friends out...it's no work and who knows, someday it may be me in need of a favor? If it were a younger child and if I were in the business of babysitting as I once was then yes, I would charge according to ability to pay...that is what I did anyway back when I babysat. For a friend that just needs a place for a 13 yr old, that's not even work.
@jahernandezrivas (11288)
• United States
11 Jun 12
That is true but she will pay me something even if I told her I didn't want any money I know her too well so what can you do?
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
11 Jun 12
Oh, i really don't know what to say with her also if i were in your shoes. Better you don't get money for it because you did help her. However if she really need your help many times, then you can get money from it because you have to spend much time to help her to care her daughter, right?
@jahernandezrivas (11288)
• United States
11 Jun 12
I am at a loss here I really don't know what to say she is the type of person that won't let it go without paying me even if I said no but thanks for the response and have a great day1
@anusha2128 (886)
• India
11 Jun 12
i think you you cannot expect money from her as she is your friend and also that was only one day you took care of her daughter.Is it fare to ask money for that??? If i am in your position i will not expect any money from my friends to take care of their children...
@jahernandezrivas (11288)
• United States
11 Jun 12
It is kind of a difficult situation because even If I were to tell her no money she would still leave it here I already know how she is.
@anusha2128 (886)
• India
13 Jun 12
So how much you asked her for this help? Do you still thinking about it?
@Chikezie (385)
• Malaysia
11 Jun 12
This is a dilemma. I would rescind the offer for me. As long as it a close buddy. If the person insist to appreciate me, I would be left with no choice but to accept but will remind her that I would never accept such thing again. I would also advise you to see if you can work on that area and start babysitting as a little business to complement your online activity.
@jahernandezrivas (11288)
• United States
12 Jun 12
She knows that I work at home for now but I will be returning for work soon I am so glad!
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
11 Jun 12
Hi friend, i think it depend on the situation on how good is your relationship as a friend. Me And my best friend when we needed each other normally were not paying each other services unless we have to pay for food. Like yours we have ups and down but were always there for each other. Since your friend is asking you how much maybe you can consider it free and only pay for her food and other stuff the kid needs. Well it depends on the situation too. If she insist to pay for your service, Just give her discount.
@jahernandezrivas (11288)
• United States
12 Jun 12
Thanks for the response and we talked last night and came up with a desicsion
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
11 Jun 12
Ok ...13 is a bit old for a sitter but having had 4 of my own...i swear they needed a sitter more in their teens than when they were 3!
I wouldn't charge her much. You are just basically providing a place for her to hang out for a while? knowing me, I'd probably do it for free. She is no work and it is your friend. I've always gone with the thought that one paw washes the other. I do my friend a favor and they also do me favors. The girl is 13...It'd be a feebie for me.
I wouldn't charge her much. You are just basically providing a place for her to hang out for a while? knowing me, I'd probably do it for free. She is no work and it is your friend. I've always gone with the thought that one paw washes the other. I do my friend a favor and they also do me favors. The girl is 13...It'd be a feebie for me. @jahernandezrivas (11288)
• United States
12 Jun 12
We made our decision and it wasn't much but I really don't care after all she is my friend and it isn't like she is a baby he he he L.O.L.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
13 Jun 12
I don't think that I could take money for watching a 13 year old, unless she is a disobedient troublemaker. Could the daughter do some chores for you and thus pay for her own care? If there must be money involved, I would suggest that your friend give it to her daughter. This is, considering that you don't need the money. What about her food? Does she bring her own, or do you provide? Most 13 year olds eat constantly.
@jahernandezrivas (11288)
• United States
13 Jun 12
I thought she was 13 but she is 11 but no big difference still not a baby here, And even if I told her no she would still insist on paying me.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
11 Jun 12
I am also confused- thought she's a baby (hehehe)
Anyway, I would prefer to teenage-sit a 13 years old (not appropriate the word babysit) than a small baby.
I don't know how much it costs in your area- but here in our country, babysit per day (8 hours) costs 400-500 pesos a day (US$12 more or less) excluding the foods.
Maybe for a teenager- that depends on the situation I guess :)
@jahernandezrivas (11288)
• United States
11 Jun 12
Yeah it is not like she is a baby he he he I already know my friend and If I were even tell her nothing she would still give me something.
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
11 Jun 12
I watch children all the time, I have a childcare service. I don't know where your located (haven't looked yet, sorry) but for one child I charge $6 per hour. If it is more than 6 hours I charge by the day. For one child I charge $35 for the day.
Of course it has to be up to you though...
For family or friends I usually do it for $20-$25 for the day to help them out. Plus since it was a teenager with no diaper changing or bottles and no chasing after her it would probably be on the cheaper side.
Hope I have helped at least a little bit! =)
@jahernandezrivas (11288)
• United States
12 Jun 12
We have figures it out but thanks for your response and help I know she is really quiet here most the time and you can not even really tell she is here l.o.l. Hve a great day.
ime and you can not even really tell she is here l.o.l. Hve a great day. @KOSTAS499 (1624)
• Greece
11 Jun 12
How much would you get in a normal job per hour? Ask for 2/3 or 1/2 of that....Would you get $10 per hour? Ask for 7-8 per hour
@jahernandezrivas (11288)
• United States
12 Jun 12
We came up with something and she said she would pay me Friday.
@piaous157 (8)
• Philippines
13 Jun 12
For me, i will not receive the money. But on second thought, maybe I'll just let her decide the amount that she will give. But if she really wanted you to charge her, then it is a good thing that she will pay you. It is really a good thing to be trusted. There are always blessings coming your way.
@jahernandezrivas (11288)
• United States
14 Jun 12
We made our descion on what we were going to do but anyway thanks for your response and have a great
@Austina (92)
• Philippines
11 Jun 12
What was your intention of taking care of your friend's child? If it is because she is your friend, then never mind the money. No one would help each other but friends. But if you need money, let her give you any amount she can give which comes from her heart. But do not accept too much.
@jahernandezrivas (11288)
• United States
12 Jun 12
She asked me to watch her and she asked me what I wanted in the money area and I told her didn't know and I really didn't want anything but I know her too well and we came to our decision.
@marguicha (216333)
• Chile
11 Jun 12
I´d check how much to do charge to babysit where you live and then make a discount so that it works for her too. Still maybe I would talk it over with her. But whatever you decide, remember it´s a job and a responsability so it is worth something, even if it´s a friend.
@jahernandezrivas (11288)
• United States
11 Jun 12
That is true it is a job but I am hoping that she will come up with the answer. Well thanks and have a great day.
@atprudente6 (673)
• Philippines
11 Jun 12
If it was me, I would just tell her to give me any amount that she would like but. After all she is my friend. And I am just doing this as a favor for her. But if she keeps asking you to take care of her child for a long time, then it think it is the time that you should ask for payment. And I think that you should just ask the minimum amount for "babysitting".
@jahernandezrivas (11288)
• United States
11 Jun 12
I am hoping that she will just come up with the answer. Because I really don't know what to say. Thanks and have a great day.
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
11 Jun 12
Hi jahernandezrivas, here in the USA babysitters get anywhere
from $5.00 to $15,00 an hour, so if depends on how much you
think your friend can afford to pay you...She is after all
not a baby therefore you should not have a lot to so except
having her with you...Do you think this is becoming your every
Friday job.?? based you amount on knowing that as well does
it include anything else...
Good luck...you are a good friend!!!!
@jahernandezrivas (11288)
• United States
11 Jun 12
I will be watching her Monday through Friday. And I just really don't know what to say to her and I am hoping she will just come up with an answer and don't really care what it is. Thanks and have a good day.
@Ollanna11 (371)
• United States
11 Jun 12
If you guys are close friends and your only watching her daughter for one day I wouldn't charge much. Simly because 13 year old are of age no diaper changes, or feedings. Maybe 15 dollars, do what feels right in your heart. I'm not in your position financially, then again you won't get back on your feet from one day of sitting.
Sincerely Ollanna11
@jahernandezrivas (11288)
• United States
11 Jun 12
That is true but it is only for a short time because when my daughter leaves the next two weeks I will be returning to work somewhere not sure where but I was going to apply at the Wal Mart here. I have to wait because she is leaving to Wisconsin and next week my mother and father are coming up here and I have to help my mom take my dad to the doctor because he is in a wheel chair and she needs my help and I have to take my daughter to say good bye. 
@viji_v2 (727)
• India
11 Jun 12
If I am in there, in your shoes, I wont get money from the close friend for what work she asked for. If money comes in any relationship it is hard to maintain it as the same. I understand now you are in need of money, but getting it as salary from close friend for someone to care in her home would be something odd for me. I wont get a single penny in this situation. Of course, opinion and thoughts differs. You think and have a good decision.
@jahernandezrivas (11288)
• United States
11 Jun 12
Thanks I am just going to wait for her to answer. Thanks and have a great day.
@JenAC1984 (233)
• United States
11 Jun 12
Hello jahernandezrivas, I think it's wonderful that you take the time to help your friends out! I also think it is very responsible and kind of your friend to offer money for your good deeds, as it sounds like you truely need it to get by on. I would probably ask her for 25 dollars. That seems like a fair price since she is a good friend to you. If it had been someone looking for a babysitter that you had just met and was comfortable watching their child, I would estimate about 45 dollars plus the cost of food. I hope this helps and good luck!
@jahernandezrivas (11288)
• United States
11 Jun 12
That sounds reasonable but I just don't really know what to tell her? I kind of don't want to ask for too much. Thanks and have a great day.
