How important is the first date?

Canada
June 11, 2012 10:07am CST
I recently met a very handsome guy, has all a girl would look for in a man. you know Tall, dark and handsome. we talked on the phone a few time ( keeps me smiling the whole time). ofcourse I asked and he was successful and ambitious and to be going places. He also claims to be ready for a relationship (which is a plus for me). Ok, so we made plans to go out on a date. Naturally I thought he was going to take me out to a dine in restaurant where we can have a good time enjoying each other's company or something like that. much to my disgust he took me to the drive through of McDonald's and then ordered for me "two Big Mac meals". Just when I thought 'ok you know what I am just gonna see where this goes and think positive'. He pulled into an empty parking lot and handed me his idea of dinner. After being there for about five minutes I said to him "I think I should be heading home now, I have an assignment I really have to get done by tonight. ok so I need your opinion on this matter, should I completely cut this guy off because of is failed attempt. Or should I give him another chance to woo me??????
8 responses
@freymind (1351)
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
Maybe he thinks this is a better time for him to know you more. Maybe he was testing the waters as what they say. He might be just a simple guy no pretensions or whatsoever. There's nothing wrong with eating out from McDonald's and spending the time on somewhere you can really talk to. But its also creepy since its an empty parking lot.. If you really like the guy you can give him another chance. You can also ask him why he opted for a McDo meal instead.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
13 Jun 12
I would give him one more chance. McDonald's is not the most romantic place for a date but I think that the fact that you spend some time together an get know to know eachother is more important than the place where you spend the time. Some places are more romantic than others, but there is right or wrong place to have a date. There is probably a reason why he chose McDonald's. Maybe he couldn't afford a dinner in an expensive restaurant. If that is the case I think that dinner at McDonald's is better than no date at all, because you still have the chance to talk and get to know eachother. Maybe he doesn't like the kind of restaurants that you had in mind and thought that it would be more relaxing to have dinner at McDonald's. Maybe his idea of the perfect date are just different from yours.
@ShepherdSpy (8544)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
12 Jun 12
Looks aren't everything..but it sounds like He was making a good impression with you and doing well right up until he dropped the ball with his choice of what he considered a suitable first date dining experience.. If He was going for romantic,that is.. You don't have to spend a load of money to make things special on a date..As you said,you were looking forward to his company..so perhaps a walk together someplace thoughtful you might have enjoyed seeing,and a picnic for you both maybe would have suited you better...? Some people would let it go after the first impressions went belly up like that..I think you'd like to find out if he could turn it around with a second chance..You got to feel the chemistry,so did it feel he was into You? Do you think it would be worth it? good luck with your decision!
• Philippines
12 Jun 12
Well, I do see something on his side. I think that a bit of a formal dining place or something to grand or very extravagant can signal some awkwardness in trying to know each other. I think he just wants a natural environment wherein both of you can be natural and common like a McDonald's dinner. Having this dinner instead of going to high end restaurants eases the pressure to both of you. To him, the pressure of things should go out well with the planned dinner, and you on trying your best to well return his grand treat for the first date. Such situations are good get to know situations where in there are no pressure to be somebody else and being conscious of the other people around unlike when you are in a fine restaurant seeing and being seen by other people. The grand restaurant dates will follow when you get to open up with each other naturally. I think that the guy doesn't also is being on the safe side of things. If he failed to get a good conversation with you within the course of the activity and you dump him right away, good thing he didn't spent much. If ever he got something going with just such kind of approach, he will gain confidence in putting up an upgrade date next time and see that you are interested with him. A somewhat win-win for him and is a little fishy for you.
• United States
12 Jun 12
Hey, no one's perfect. o-o Give him another chance and at the same time, get to know the guy better.
@lifejoy (41)
• India
12 Jun 12
even if sachin play no one can give guarntee of success in one attempt...one more chance bnta he boss..
• Philippines
11 Jun 12
Maybe he is just trying you out, or maybe he does not have money at that time. Why don't you give him another chance. If he takes you to Jollibee this time, maybe he is just frugal.Maybe those are the places where he feels comfortable. So why don't you just enjoy his company and look more into the inner beauty of that person and know him better. You might find gold inside.
@narfnarf (28)
• Philippines
11 Jun 12
I think give him a second chance. Everyone deserves it. Every man has our own plan and decisions about dating a girl. Maybe it's his plan to you on your date and unfortunately, he failed to make you smile. But tell it to him before you cut this guy for him to think twice again when you plan to go out on the second time around. :) I have my girlfriend And I had also first failed attepmt on our first date but now, we're on 3 years relationship :)