how many friends do you have?

@dream_ozn (1754)
Singapore
June 20, 2012 3:49am CST
Some people are social butterfly and have many many friends. Yet for me, i only have a few real friends. i think i can say 5. when i say real friends, i mean those that would wake up in the middle of the night to hear me complain and to meet me when i'm down. i feel really lucky to have them. of course, i do have some other friends (not bff). but those friends are really just social kind. how about you? How many friends do you have and how many do you think it's necessary in our life?
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@ajinleo (283)
• India
20 Jun 12
I have a lot of friends. But I do not share all the things with any friends. I have some best friends. Even I do not share everything with them.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
20 Jun 12
I think it is always great to have best friends in our lives. I think we can share everything with best friends whom we can trust.
@dream_ozn (1754)
• Singapore
20 Jun 12
@ajinleo, since you have many friends and have some best friends, why do you not share everything with them? @ajithlal, i think you are right, we need to have one or two true friends where we can trust and share everything with. only then they can be considered true friensd.
@sukumar794 (5040)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
20 Jun 12
It is really much better if you have lesser number of true friends..say countable from one to five. It is enough..after all how many do you need to have to prolong unnecessary musings over menial things and be unfaithful in most respects?
@dream_ozn (1754)
• Singapore
20 Jun 12
definitely sukumar, it's enough just to have a few good and true friends. frienship needs to be maintained and it's not easy to maintain. the lesser true friends we have, the more we can invest into each relationship. my professor once said that if we die and can count our friends with our fingers, we die a lucky man!
@nemrac12 (388)
• Philippines
6 Apr 13
hello mylotter, i do have a lot of friends, some are just acquaintance , and some are real friends. we need a friend because it serve as spice in our life. a friend to cry on if we are depress or facing a problem. a friend to laugh on to make us happy and make life light. without a friend, life is boring...
@dream_ozn (1754)
• Singapore
7 Apr 13
Hey nemrac, I totally agree with you. we all need friends to spice up our life. LIfe would be so so boring if one do not have anyfriends.
• India
20 Jun 12
Oh! I just can't count it. I have so many friends. And I love to spare time with them. I always keep in touch with my old friends too. Getting friends in our life is so easy. But getting good friends are really tough. I so proud to say that I have so many good friends who are ready to help me at any time and at any condition .
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@dream_ozn (1754)
• Singapore
20 Jun 12
Definitely, getting friends in our life is so easy but retaining and find good one are really like gems. Rare and hard to find. I'm really happy to hear that you have many friends whom you can count on!
@taura2p (349)
• Romania
20 Jun 12
I have a lot of friends. But there are those who I can rely upon every time, which are just 3, and those I hang out with, which are many. I always make the difference between people I can call in the middle of the night, as you said, and people I just have fun with, when I want to go out somewhere. But I am very thankful to have those 3 friends with whom I can speak about absolutely anything, and whose support I have all the time.
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@dream_ozn (1754)
• Singapore
20 Jun 12
Yes. i think most of us only have a handful of friends whom we can really call are real friends. there's really a difference between real friends and normal friends. real friends make us feel comfortable no matter what we went through. i'm also very grateful to my few real friends who stood by me for the past few years! rejoice friendship!
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@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
6 Apr 13
Hi, I am very talkative so I have many friends. Some are real friends. We all are ready to help each other. One of my friends offered me his flat on rent when I decided to shift in the city where my son is working. He is taking very nominal rent. He doesn't want rent but we don't want to use his house free. Friend in need is friend indeed.
@dream_ozn (1754)
• Singapore
6 Apr 13
Hey roshigo, it's nice to hear that you have a freind that offer you rent on his flat when you decided to shift. All of us need to rely on friends at one point or another. these are friends whom we know we can count on should somethign happen. Friend in need is a friend indeed. i cannot agree more ;)
@ajithlal (14716)
• India
20 Jun 12
I have lots of friends and likes to make good friends. I think it is good make good friends. I have couple of best friends. I have couple of childhood friends also. I think it is good to make friends in life. I think friends are needed in our lives.
@dream_ozn (1754)
• Singapore
6 Apr 13
Hey ajithalal, it's good to hear you have good friends and you like to make it too. For me, i like to have good friends too. But i think it's difficutt to met a good friend. You are right, friends are definitley needed in our life. It's makes it a much more meaningful one :)
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
21 Jun 12
I have many friends but among them only few are the the truest..
@dream_ozn (1754)
• Singapore
6 Apr 13
Hey jazel_juan, i totally understand what you mean. we all can have a lot of friends, alot of acquitances. But only a few are true to use and are really good friends to us. Real friendship should be able to withstand the test of time :)
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
20 Jun 12
good day dream_ozn, when i was still in my college days, i can really say that i have plenty of friends. that i have real friends wherever i go. thus, they always tell me during those days, that i can be a candidate having a sure vote because i have a lot of real friend. however, we cannot hold that time, hence, time change and people change. and part of this changes are the real friends that i have during those times. that due to some change of lifestyle and status, they all gone. as they are now living with their own family. and nobody left. so i was left all alone. good thing, when one door closes, a window will open. that when all of those friends were gone, i have met one friend that became my bestfriend. that even i don't have many friends now, what really matter is, i have a one true friend with me.
@dream_ozn (1754)
• Singapore
20 Jun 12
good day airasheila. i'm currently in college but i can say i don't have much friends because i'm quite an introvert and therefore am very selective when making friends. as long as i don't feel comfortable or don't like that person, i won't really bother about being friensd wtih them. but i think that this is not the correct way to behave. it's good to have many friends and no matter what, having one mroe friend is much better than having one more enemy. you are right that when one door close, another window will open, we should always stay optimistic in life and never give up! very inspirational!
@tedifa (1232)
• Indonesia
21 Jun 12
To have many friends i think depends on our attitude,sometimes peoples can so easy to get new friends and sometimes they don't.But we have to select from new friends who has a good attitude and habit.It will make good effect for us too.Don't too close with new friends with bad attitude.He will make a trouble for you someday,just say hello and know him is enough.And for a good friends you have to make relationships with them.
• Bulgaria
21 Jun 12
i agree whit you and i woulld say to have meny aquaintance is a positive thing because you have a lot of people who can spend their free time whit you and the opposite but there for building a relationship whit the people this is the hard part because relationships require trust in each other and trust is earned rely hard.
@hestylim (1210)
• Indonesia
20 Jun 12
I have few close friends, friends who I can tell anything to. And some only social type like you. They are not really there when I need them. Some of them even misjudged me, I don't know whether I can call them friends (those who misjudged me). I think one or two is enough. Those who really be there for you in your good and bad times. That kind of friend is really so hard to find.
@dream_ozn (1754)
• Singapore
20 Jun 12
yea. you are right, some friends misgudge me too and like you say, i have too no idea whether to call them my friend or not. i think maybe we can just take them as normal friends. friends whom we can hang out with but not friends whom we can and should pour our hearts out to! that's right, one or two friends is enough. A good friendship needs time to maintain and grow too!
• United States
21 Jun 12
Due to past problems, I limit myself to friends I can trust and call "true friends". I have around 35 friends, but only 2 of them are true friends. (:
@meumeu25 (917)
• United Arab Emirates
20 Jun 12
I have lots of social friends but there are only a few that I can call real ones, some are not just real friends to me, they're my relatives as well. I can say my sister and one of my cousins are two of the real friends I've got. But the not blood related ones I think there are only 2 or 3 of them.
• Bulgaria
21 Jun 12
its a good thing to have someone in the family you can share your visions,dreams and thoughts its a lot more stress free to tell your family what bothers you they will always try to understand you and be whit you.
• Bulgaria
21 Jun 12
hello dream I can say that i have 1-3 true friend who i can count on when i have any sort of a problem or just have something to share good or bad and thats not all the time because they have problems too but in life everything is mutual. there are a lot of people in my life probably in yours and everybody else too but very few i can call friends. i rather call them people that i know.
@dream_ozn (1754)
• Singapore
6 Apr 13
Hey danny, It's nice to hear that you have at leat 1-3 true friends. These are tehose people that we can count on. It's true that our friends have their problem in their life too. Exactly, i do get what you mean when you say calling them people that i know. indeed, i do know alot of people, but whether they can be condsidered friends is another matter. My mum on the other hand, like to laugh at me and make a joke about hwo little friends i have. I have tried explainig to her many tiems that i only have a few true friends and thse are the people who i can count on in times of need. I build and try to maintain these good relationship. however, she does not understand and only keep saying that i should make more friends. My dad on the other hand have loads of friends. however they are not true friends. They are thsoe people that would just come and go. it's just part of life. ANd my mum would complain that my dad have too many friends and that he consideres everyone to be his friend when they are not really a freind. SOme are suppliers, some are business partners.
• India
13 Apr 13
Thanks for sharing, i am 67 now, a retired Professor of Physics, have taught for over 3 decades, i have tons of friends in india and abroad, plus many in tagged, facebook, sonico etc.
@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
20 Jun 12
I am very choosy when it comes to being friend with someone. I am open to make friend with anybody but I really choose to whom to give my trust. I have a lot of acquaintances but very few real friends. I have a lot of not so good experiences that is why I am choosing my friends well.
@dream_ozn (1754)
• Singapore
20 Jun 12
yea, i also have my fair share of experiences with'bad' friends, those people whom you though are your friends actually back stab you or say things behind your back. you are right, it's good to be choosy with friends and to choose really carefully whom to trust for them might turn against us and that will not be a good thing!