A Complicated One
By jorshelle
@jorshelle (71)
Philippines
June 22, 2012 2:39am CST
This is about my story... In my teen years I was in love with a guy but I can't tell to anybody in my family for I have a conservative family and they are involve in religion groups. And they will scolded me for having a boyfriend in my teen years and to add I studied in the exclusive school for girls..And the guy whom I'm in love with is the opposite one that they are expecting.. I'm in love with a guy full of tattoos in his body.. But mere in fact, I'm in love with him.. It's not the tattoo but his attitude and behavior is opposite from his looks.. He is a guy with respect, love, to his family, friends and he showed so much love in me.. And this guy is unique for me.. And the end of it, I choose my feelings for him.. but my family doesn't want him.. The more they refused to this guy the more I'm intense to be with him.. Until my cousins have to let me have choices It's either him or my cousins.. I lived with my aunt and cousins for my mother died, and they were separated with my father and I'm the only child.. So the custody of me is with my cousins. And now I'm happily married with him but with no child.. I don't know why..that until now we don't have a child.. maybe It's a medical reason.. It's not important but how we love each other it matters..
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16 responses
@elguardian (353)
• Malaysia
22 Jun 12
Be proud that you've married a man that you love and he marries you because he loves you. Some people took forever to find true love. Some people lost their lives because of love. Some people made sacrifice because of love. Life is about choices and you've chosen love which is great.
About the children. Keep on having faith. You come from a conservative family and i assume that you come from a christian family. Have faith in GOD that one day you will be rewarded. Keep on "trying" if you know what i mean. If you think it is medical reason, go and consult specialist in conceiving baby ( i don't know what is the term you use for this kind of specialist ).
True love exist and you have shown it, so true love will reward you in return.
@jorshelle (71)
• Philippines
29 Jun 12
True love really exist.. others are meant but others are not meant for each other... But the thing is we are happy with the man or woman we chose to spend our lives with.. We also plan to go with the specialist but we are still preparing for it.
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
22 Jun 12
What a great love story, the most important is your happily married with the man you really love. Have you try to seek for medical attention regarding on having no child? I think both of you need to see a doctor to get some medical advice, so that you will know what the reason why your still dont have a child.
@jorshelle (71)
• Philippines
29 Jun 12
We are planning to consult an expert about it but we plan to save first for that thing because having a medication having a support of funds.. Thanks for your advice..
@igatiful_badass (1222)
• Philippines
22 Jun 12
Fight for love. Well i guess its a worth figthing for.
just be patient and always ask that to the Lord that hope one day HE will give you a beautiful baby. 
@jorshelle (71)
• Philippines
22 Jun 12
And it is my first love.. Yes it's a worth fighting for relationship. For now we are still praying that God will give us the most precious yet priceless gift. Thank you for your word of encouragement....
@fashionfever (2200)
• Indonesia
22 Jun 12
Congratulation that you finally married the guy you love, I wish you the best in your marriage. Yes, I agree with you not to judge the book by its cover, the guy has full of tattoos in his body but if he has a good heart then why not. About not having child yet, I think you are still young. you are still 30 years old, right? i know a woman who got married at age 32 and she got her first child when she was 34. so dont worry about it, probably God gives you more time to spend together with your husband after the complicated live you had. Im sad that your family told you to chose between them and the guy you love, its because they actually care for you and dont want you to be in trouble but they should get to know your husband better, they made fast judgement about your husband by his tatoo. I hope your family will see the good sides of your husband and how he makes you happy.
@jorshelle (71)
• Philippines
29 Jun 12
Thank you fashionfever for your nice words, Maybe my family just want to protect my future that's why they have done that by letting me to chose them over my husband. And now we live happily though we don't have a child.. But still we are praying to have.. We enjoy are company with each other..
@thewonderboy (7501)
• India
22 Jun 12
True love or true relations never breaks and this is a perfect example of it.
Children are the one of the valuable gift from god. I think you people are young and you can have them with a lot of prayers and medicines. Keep praying to god about all our worries he will surely bless you.
@jorshelle (71)
• Philippines
29 Jun 12
Yes you are right we have been praying that God will gave us that precious gift for us.. But I don't lose my hope..
@kenshin2143 (1880)
• Philippines
22 Jun 12
Well, I am happy for you that you had married the person you truly love but I am also sad for the family hardships and rejection they felt for your husband. It will be a good option to settle family related problems you had in the past for it will truly make you happy more than engaging with your husband.
With regards to not bearing a child, I also know some couples who do not have any child but they are living the best of both worlds. Eventually, that particular couple adopted a child that they now consider as their own!
@jorshelle (71)
• Philippines
23 Jun 12
I believe that there is true love existing, despite of chaotic world we live in... And until now, we are still hoping to be given a precious gift... But now my family are okay with my husband. As they know the attitude of my husband and they have a wrong first impression of him..
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
4 Jul 12
Some people will just close their mind when their expectations are not met. This is not your problem. It is your life and you are the only one who can decide how you will live it. I feel you and your husband are blessed to have found each other.
As for there being npo baby, just accept this and be happy and grateful for whjat you do have. If it is written for you to have a child it will happen when the time is right. Just let go your fears and be content.
@derek_a (10874)
•
23 Jun 12
I can fully understand your concerns, because I was very embarrassed to reveal that I fell in love with a girl of my age when we were both 12 years old. My family weren't particularly religious but they expected me at that age to be just a kid who would be hanging around with the boys and doing boyish things. They would have considered me to be far too young to get into serious relationships, not that we did anything else than kiss with each other.. Even as an adult I have never revealed that first relationship to any of my family. My wife knows about it, and thinks although it was very young, can't see any harm in it as we can't stop how we feel and at best, we can only deny it, but that rarely works. _Derek
_Derek
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
5 Feb 13
Thanks for sharing the story, love is ahead of religion, caste and creed, good that you married him, i am sure you are happy, this post is 7 months old, hope you are blessed with kids now
be happy dear.
@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
23 Jun 12
Do whatever makes you happy because you cannot live life to its full extent. I also hope that you and your family are in good terms now. Don't lose hope about having a child though, good things comes for those who wait.
@smurfysmurf (651)
• Philippines
28 Jun 12
Hi there Jorshelle,
You indeed fought for your love. And now you are happily married.
Don't ask for a child...just wait for it.
And have faith in HIM. For sure, he will give you one soon. I think it's not yet the right time.
Happy Mylotting.
@else22 (4317)
• India
23 Jun 12
Yes,what matters in married life is love and not having children.Being a mother is certainly important,but love is more important.You have acquired your love despite all odds.I would like to suggest you both to call on your family doctor and get yourselves properly tested.I hope you will soon acquire motherhood as well.I am sure you will be a good and loving mother.
@musicluv4life (1867)
• United States
22 Jun 12
I think its great you are with the guy you truly love. And its so great too that he is a respectful person, Maybe when your family really gets to know who he is not just what he looks like maybe they will like him too.
@PageTurner (2825)
• United States
22 Jun 12
It is so good to hear that you are happy with the man you love, jorshelle. As I am sure that he is happy with you.
Do not worry about what others say about your relationship. That is for you to decide. Your husband sounds like a very good man and I imagine that you are both blessed to have each other. Celebrate your marriage and enjoy each other.
Peace.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
22 Jun 12
You can make a problem out of your life, you can make it complicated or be happy you married the person you love and who loves you. Personally I would be happy if I could and I think with me many people can. Past is past let it be that way. It's not important anymore since you found your own way. You can blame others if things don't work the way you want it or be responsible for your own deeds. I think you are which means you are grown up.
Kids are not holy, are not the ones who make a life or relationship complete (look around you). If kids are mend to be for both of you you will have them sooner or later. If not there might be some other goals for you to reach (first), things you have to learn or do first. Remember that a child can be a big burden too, esp. with the world economics at this moment (and for the next years). I wish you all the luck, lots of love. You are a great example to many people.
@dilrajj57 (1757)
• Pakistan
22 Jun 12
without parents agreements its not good for anyone daughter to love and like to merry with some others, with that who is known by parents that his attitude is right then its possible that their parents like that too,
