I find it weird...
By chicgale
@chicgale (2982)
Philippines
June 25, 2012 6:39pm CST
Good day to all!
I had lunch with my friend that I haven't seen for 2 years. She kept on asking to meet her but I didn't really like hanging out with her, but yesterday I gave her a chance. When we met, she talked a lot!!!! She is married with a foreigner also but her husband doesn't live here. So yesterday, she brought 2 men with her, and I think the other one was her boyfriend coz they were sharing the desserts and they were kinda sweet when they walked and they called each other "MINE". lol And what I don't like, this other man was flirting with me and I think this man is years younger than me. And I noticed that they were like dancers at the gay bar coz my friend likes hanging out there and that's the reason why I stopped hanging out with her 2 years ago coz she brought me there once. This friend of mine is 2 years younger than me.
So anyway, I find it weird when she brought this two men with her and I think the other man is hoping that I will want him coz you know he thinks that I am rich or I am willing to give him money like my friend does to the other guy. I wasn't comfortable with them. I feel like "ewww.. stay away from me!".. lol I am friendly person, but I just don't like people to flirt with me especially they knew that I am married. I didn't expect that my friend will bring men during our lunch because she told me that only me and her will have lunch since her daughter and my daughter are in school.
My friend wants to see me again next day and have lunch somewhere with those two men again. I told her I will just see. But, she said she will call me tomorrow. How am I gonna tell her that I don't want to hang out with those men? She might get offended and will think that I am too unfriendly.
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16 responses
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
26 Jun 12
Ohhh she is flirting with disaster, she is married yet she is flirting..i wonder if the husband knows about it.
Well, for one if you are not comfortable you could talk to her and be frank about how you feel it chicgale, rather than be sorry later on.
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@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
26 Jun 12
true and chic should not get involved with it, as early as now, she must stay away.
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@PageTurner (2825)
• United States
26 Jun 12
You are so right, jazel_juan!! She is flirting with disaster. This is a Molly Hatchet song ready to ignite!!
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@PageTurner (2825)
• United States
26 Jun 12
Yes, I agree. And I think she knows it. She is so worried about hurting her friends feelings, but her friend is making a big mistake and also trying to involve chic, which is very disrespectful of their friendship!
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• United States
25 Jun 12
You dont have to mean to be blunt. You are married and felt uncomfortable. You let her know your husband wouldnt be ok if you went and hung out with them again. That he doesnt go and hang out with younger women so you arent going to go hang out with men. You though that the dinner or hang out was going to be just yopu and her and if she was going to invite other people she should of told you and gave you the option to meet them or not. What she did was not ok and you felt push into meeting 2 men as if it was a double date and don't wanna go threw it again. You enjoyed seeing her after all this time but didnt really like that she would do that to you. You and your husband are happy and you do not want to do anything to ruin this marriage or his trust. She should say sorry and if she does your feel this weight lifted of your chest and if she gets upset... Well there ALOT of other women to be friends with. Im pretty sure she'll apologize. Ive been there and me and her are actually really close friends now so best of luck!
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
26 Jun 12
She thinks it is OK to hang out and go out with other men while your husband is away because that is what she is doing, and that is what she wants. I am like her. I was really surprised that she had two men with her when I saw her at the restaurant. I only expected her that's why I only chose a table good for two!!! lol
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• United States
26 Jun 12
She might be living in this party life but you are happy in your life. I would let her know you think its wrong and how she would feel if her man was doing this..
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@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
26 Jun 12
Well, it seems that everybody here sings to the same tune as I will. Maybe it is about time to let her know that you are not the person she thinks you are. If she can't accept that then she will be losing a valuable friend. It wouldn't be easy, but you managed not seeing her for 2 years so I guess it's not that hard anymore. The point is, you can only be a friend to some extent and if it goes beyond your limit, you can always say no. Oh, I just wish I could do that. I can never practice what I preach in this situation. I am a yes man when it comes to friends. Anyway, that's a different story.
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@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
26 Jun 12
Don't ever force yourself to do something that's uncomfortable. If you still like her you can tell her you'd like to go eat with her alone, but if you don't think she's worth it, just make up an excuse and go on with your life. I'm sure you have other things to worry about, like more meaningful people in your life. Good luck!
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@psychoartist (756)
• United States
26 Jun 12
hi chicgale! this is a very worrisome situation to me...if this lady was really your friend i don't think she would put you into such a difficult situation...i think if you feel uncomfortable it is not right for you....i know that if i went out with a friend and two men mr. psychoartist would not be happy at all, and i wouldn't if his friend took him to lunch with two ladies...your husband is more important that this person who has no respect for you or your husband...you should just tell her you would like to see her alone, but if that is not possible for her, you will not see her at all..
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
26 Jun 12
You are right, that's why I am not going to see her again because it is hard to trust her. I don't think she will not bring those men again if ever I will tell her that I only wanna hang out with her. I think she enjoyed being with those other men.
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@wolveren (1586)
• Cebu, Philippines
26 Jun 12
Don't fall for it. It is pretty weird. Just tell her the truth that you are not comfortable with it. You probably don't know her too well anyway. It could be a trap. Remember I told you before about anything can spring around from a corner? Keep a watchful eye. That incident about that weird call could be connected. It could be any of your so called friends. Yeah I know it sounds paranoid. But don't take any chances. They might set you up for a blackmail. Be safe.
@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
26 Jun 12
Yes, I remember.
I am not going to see her today or ever anymore. hehehehhee I stopped hanging out with her for two years because I don't really know her and comfortable with her. I just went out with her this time coz I thought she changed.. hehehhe Thanks wolveren. :-)
I am not going to see her today or ever anymore. hehehehhee I stopped hanging out with her for two years because I don't really know her and comfortable with her. I just went out with her this time coz I thought she changed.. hehehhe Thanks wolveren. :-)
@jobfindonline (1744)
•
26 Jun 12
You should tell your friend what you really feel about it t avoid any misunderstandings. what's the point of seeing the guys, you are both married and flirting isn't a nice thing. Your friend is not a good companion, sorry to tell you this, coz if she is a good friend she wouldn't do such a weird thing. Stay away from her if you don't want to be like her.
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@jvincent_129 (4994)
• Philippines
9 Jul 12
Just tell her straight up that you don't want to see her anymore. She is a flirt and a two-timer. She has a husband but still finds another.
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@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
26 Jun 12
Hi chicgale, I think you should tell her the truth that you dont want to hang out with her anymore if she still brings the two men with her again. She might get offended and little bit unfriendly but this is the best thing to do. Better to avoid this kind of friend of yours because she might cause problem to you and to your marriage life.
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@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
26 Jun 12
Good morning! You right better not see her anymore, I think she is not a good friend. After all I think you have lots of friends better than her.
@juhrina029 (158)
• Philippines
26 Jun 12
Hahaha..you're friend is crazy. Tell her that if she wants to have sin, she doesn't need to get you involved. Why would such a woman do things like that. If Iam her daughter, I really can't accept having a mom like that.
@aartisaini (50)
• India
27 Jun 12
i think you should tell your friend what exactally you feel...if you really dont feel like hanging out with them you should tell her that if se want to meet you then she should not accompany them as she can meet them someother time or else meet you some other time.....and according to your text you dont like hanging out with her so dont think you really need to worry on what she things...let her think whatever she want but i dont think you should do something that you are not comfortable with.....:)
@PageTurner (2825)
• United States
26 Jun 12
Hello chicgale
It was terribly disrespectful of your friend to bring along these two men to your luncheon, especially since you clearly thought it would just be you and her. Why would she bring these two men? Nothing good can come of such a thing and you are wise to be uncomfortable. I encourage you to have no part of this tomfoolery in future.
If your friend can't accept that you do not deal in such shenanigans, then she is not really your friend, and you are better off without her influence in your life.
Peace
I love the world!! 
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Jun 12
chicgale do listen to your gut instincts here. those two men make you uncomfortable and for me,her having those men while married
to someone else is just not kosher. yuck.I would be honest with
her and tell her those men make you uncomfortable, thats not
unfriendly just telling the truth. a real friend would understand so if she cannot take the truth maybe she not such a friend after
all.She should also realize a married woman will not be having a srange man pawing her or wanting to paw her.Just tell her you
would be comfortable if the dinner date were just her and you
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
26 Jun 12
I agree with you Hatley! Yeah, she should see it that I wasn't comfortable with them that day coz I hardly talk or laugh that time. I was really shocked that she brought those two men that's why I chose a table just for two coz she never mentioned to me that she will have company.
@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
26 Jun 12
It doesn't sound as though she is someone you want to hang out with. You've held her at a distance for two years; then, when you finally see her, she puts you in a situation in which you're uncomfortable. So, why should you worry if she gets offended at you're not wanting to hang out with her and her two guys? It sounds as though this friendship has long since fizzled out, and you need to move on. That doesn't mean that you have to be mean, but it also means that you don't have to walk on eggshells in dealing with her.
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