Will you attend if you are not interested?

Philippines
July 2, 2012 1:26am CST
There are instances when you are invited to events that you are not interested in. For example, a party that you are not excited about. Or a seminar where the topic is not something you are interested in. Would you attend? What if you are REQUIRED to attend a certain activity but you are not really interested in it? Would you attend? What would be the best excuse if you decided not to attend even if you were required?
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16 responses
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
If big people are the one who invited me, i should/must go even i'm not interested. It's because there could be consequences of not doing so. Hehe but if i think that no consequences await me, then i can fabricate some excuses like i'll be going somewhere important or i'm not physically available :D
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@wittynet (4421)
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
Are you pertaining to politicians or to those elite?
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
I'm referring to those elites, bosses, executives and professors.. hehe because i cannot say no to them unless they are nonsense :D
@bagumbayan (2705)
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
If I am not interested I dont attend either telling them that I already attended same topic or I have some other things to do. But sometimes even if I am not required but the topic is good and the events is enticing to go I also find ways to join the group.
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
How about in cases where the invitation is for events other than seminars?
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
Just the same I am telling them I have some important things to do. As simple as that.
@celticeagle (158726)
• Boise, Idaho
2 Jul 12
At first thought I would probably not attend. But after giving it some thought I might for networking or meeting interesting people. But for the most part if it is something I am really not interested in I would tell them the truth and thank them for their time. If I am required to attend then I would do so and take notes. I would wonder why I would be REQUIRED to go but if i was I would. No best excuses for a required event. Like for a job or something.
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
Well, meeting new and interesting people would be a great motivation!
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@celticeagle (158726)
• Boise, Idaho
4 Jul 12
Yes, I think so too.
@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
14 Jul 12
hi dear dolce_vita, I think in situations like this there simply is no way out and you need to attend even if you find the event useless or boring. Same with some meetings at work where I know before hand they are totally useless but I am required to attend so be it. Or birthday parties of the extended family I really dont care about. There simply is no excuse apart from being sick, but that only will work when you have a real cold one can hear and see so you dont make it up.....
@suni51 (3429)
• India
2 Jul 12
Some times- yes we have to even if we are not interested because that is obligatory in some cases. maybe the seminar is not that of much interest to me but as my clients are there for some other reasons therefore I must attend it. Some of the parties where I am invited may not have any thing for me but if I have to keep relations going- I must attend them.
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• Philippines
2 Jul 12
What about for events other than seminars?
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
If I am required to attend I would, it is a requirement and it is a must, but If Im really not into it, I would ask my parents to make me an excuse letter or something *evil* I would have a lots of reasons why I did not come.
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• Philippines
2 Jul 12
How I wish the situation is one where I was a student and I would just ask my parents to make an excuse letter for me...
@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
There have been instances wherein I got invited to some event that I wasn't really looking forward to. Like, I have this feeling that something in the event would probably have me participate in some way that I really wouldn't want to get involved with so I would immediately have ideas to further discourage me to attend. Then, when I was still studying, there would be events that we would be required to attend and to further urge us students to attend, we would be graded just by attending. Of course, what we would be attending to would be related to any subject that we were studying so it was alright in a way. So, for those invitations that I am really not interested in, I simply try to see if I have other things that I would be doing that would excuse me from attending the said event. If I there is, then I would just say that I have already made promises for another engagement which wouldn't let me able to attend to whatever it was that they were inviting me to. However, if I really have free time to attend something, even if it isn't really something that I would be interested in, I might just attend and I might see, hear, or learn something interesting after all. I just did that way back when my high school classmate invited me to attend something. It was a typical weekend and this classmate of mine suddenly sent me a message online and invited me to attend an event. I was reluctant at first, yet I was simply free on the time which he was inviting me to attend. I simply said that I would tell him if I would be able to attend if nothing came up, all the while trying to think of an excuse so that I wouldn't be able to attend. When the time came, I simply had no excuse so I went ahead and got to attend. And I was really happy that I got to attend in the end. (^_^ )
@GemmaR (8517)
2 Jul 12
I have to say that I have missed out on a lot of good things in the past because of the fact that there have been things going on that I'm not really interested in, so I've said that I'm not going and then regretted it because of the other people who have gone to the event. Now, I will do my best to go to things if there are people who I know going to be there, because it means that I am able to have a good catch up with them even if I know that I'm not going to be able to enjoy the actual events because it's something that I'm not interested in. Obviously if you have to go to something then you don't really have much of a choice but to attend, I know how annoying that can be when you really don't want to do something.
@yanzalong (18984)
• Indonesia
2 Jul 12
I would say frankly that i do not have what it takes for the event. It also depends on how i was invited, formally or just informally.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
Well, we have saying here that "if you are not interested, you will surely find a reason to say NO,and nothing can change your mind and if you are interested, nothing can hinder" So,if I don't want to attend and I am not interested...there is no why and no more question but a simple answer NO-:X
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
hi dolce, I also feel this way there are events I don't want to attend I just came up with a reasonable reasons because I don't want to be physically present but absent minded. happy mylotting
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
No i will not going to attend any party or events if I am not interested and no one can force me to be there. I will never do any thing that again my will. Usually my greatest excuse was my husband I always said to my friends that my husband is going home early I need to cook for his meal or he is alone at home and he needs me because he is tired. Good thing that my friends never argue if I said those things to them.
@PageTurner (2825)
• United States
2 Jul 12
Hello dolce_vita78 Whether I will attend an event in which I am not interested depends on the situation. I typically am not interested in attending sporting events, yet I've attended many because it was important to my friends or to my children. This is an example of attending an event because of my love for someone. There are other times when my disinterest in an event is such that I simply will not go. Most times I will simply state that I have other plans so as not to hurt feelings of others if that is warranted, but other times I will simply state that I am not interested. If I am required to attend and do not want to attend, I will take a book or some other reading material and read during the event (I do this anyway in all the event I attend.) There have been required meetings that I have not attended and I never gave a reason. I just didn't show up. Peace
@Jennib1 (62)
• South Africa
2 Jul 12
If I was required to attend an event that I had no interest in I would probably go. There are and will always be things in life that we don't like or want to do but have to. I think I would try and look for the positive points as to why I should go like, broadening my knowledge on a subject, meeting new people, and so forth. If it was a party I wasn't keen to go to and I had already confirmed that I would, I would go because often when you aren't looking forward to something you end up enjoying yourself.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
2 Jul 12
Uhmmm... i have to attend because it is my advisor's requirement...if i don't attend my advisor will be angry after that...but it is a story in korea, in here..if i am not interested, i won't attend...i have a bit freedom in here...
@wittynet (4421)
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
When I was younger, I had no other choice but to attend for my parents will not allow me not to attend. When I've come of age, I can already decide for myself. If I don't like to, then I'll not attend. I am not making up excuses. I am telling the truth that I don't want to attend because I don't want to. That's it!