My husband wants one more cat
By Porcospino
@Porcospino (31365)
Denmark
July 8, 2012 4:11pm CST
My husband read about a place where you can get a free kitten and he wants to get one of those kittens. I said no. I feel bad about saying no to him because I know that he loves cats, but we already have a cat, a dog, 5 rabbits and 2 guinea pigs, and we don't have the money or the time to take care of even more pets. We already spend a lot of time on our pets. I don't mean that in a bad way, I love to take care of every pet and I love to spend time with them, but I think that 9 pets are enough. As some of you know we lost a rabbit some time ago, and my husband thinks that we should get a kitten instead of that rabbit, but we are going to travel soon and I think that it would be a really bad time to get a new pet.
What would you have done in my situation? Would you let your partner get the kitten that he really wants or would you say no?
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@BabyCheetah (1911)
• Australia
9 Jul 12
Well after reading how many pets you have, that you are going on a trip and would have a hard time to afford another I think you did the right thing here. You have enough pets to love right now and you are going away and the kitten would need lots of attention. Also this will sound kind of sad but I'd say he can get a kitten once you have less pets because then you will be able to afford another one.
If you have let him know why then hopefully he should be OK with it. Have a nice holiday anyway 
@Porcospino (31365)
• Denmark
9 Jul 12
Thanks I have thought about that, too. I think that it would be better to get a kitten when we don't have all of the other pets anymore. I love all of them and I really hope that they aren't going to die in the near future, but one day we are going to lose them. At the moment we spend a lot time and a lot of money on the other pets and I don't regret that at all, but with the money that we already spend on dog food, dog treats, cat food, litter, hay, food for rabbits and guinea pigs, vet bills etc there isn't much money left for another pet. I think it is best to stick to the 9 pets that we already have.
I have thought about that, too. I think that it would be better to get a kitten when we don't have all of the other pets anymore. I love all of them and I really hope that they aren't going to die in the near future, but one day we are going to lose them. At the moment we spend a lot time and a lot of money on the other pets and I don't regret that at all, but with the money that we already spend on dog food, dog treats, cat food, litter, hay, food for rabbits and guinea pigs, vet bills etc there isn't much money left for another pet. I think it is best to stick to the 9 pets that we already have.@Porcospino (31365)
• Denmark
10 Jul 12
Our friends actually call our home "the zoo" because we have so many pets and when they visit us they ask if they have to pay an entrance fee 
@BabyCheetah (1911)
• Australia
10 Jul 12
Exactly what I was thinking. Although I would have thought 9 was a little much, you just about have a petting zoo 
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Jul 12
Now, our family doesn't have as many pets as your family has, but we do have more than our fair share of pets at having three dogs, two cats and one fish. If it was my husband that was asking for another pet, I would tell him that we really don't need another pet right now because we are already devoting a lot to our pets.
With that said, I also don't think that I would make a huge issue about it because it could cause serious issues in our relationship.
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@ravisivan (14082)
• India
9 Jul 12
dorannmwin:
nice. you have totally 3+2+1 = 6 pets. great. managing time for them also and that is to be appreciated. We do not have any pets. We spend time with children, watching TV, reading books, mylotting etc. good day.
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@Porcospino (31365)
• Denmark
11 Jul 12
You also have quite a lot of pets. My husband and I are big animal lovers, but I think that we have the amount of pets that we can handle at the moment. I want to make sure that we have enough time and money to take care of each pet. We already spend a lot of time on our pets. I don't think that is a negative thing at all, because I always enjoy the time that I spend with them, but we also busy with work and I think it will be hard to find time for one more pet. I know that my husband really wants one more cat, and he still talks about it, but I hope that he will understand what it is a bad idea at least at the moment.
@ElicBxn (64169)
• United States
9 Jul 12
If you are going on a trip soon, its better to wait. Kittens kind of imprint on the people that are around them right at first.
I do agree that you might also want to wait on getting a kitten until you don't have to worry about some of the other pets.
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@Porcospino (31365)
• Denmark
9 Jul 12
Yes, I think that it would be best to wait. It is not the first time that my husband has talked about getting a kitten, and I know that he really wants it, but I think that it would be a little irresponsible at the moment because we are going away on a long vacation and because we already have many other pets to take care of. Today he talked about again and I am sad that I had to say no to him. I want to fullfill his wish about a kitten someday when we have more time to take care of it
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@Porcospino (31365)
• Denmark
8 Jul 12
I know that he really wants a kitten, and he has been talking about that for a long time, but I think that we already many pets. I love pets, but I want to make sure that we have enough time and money for all of the pets and I think it is better to stick to the pets that we already have. I know that my husband is sad that he can't get a kitten, but I hope that he will understand my thoughts. He said that he thought about getting the kitten without my permission (he knows that I wouldn't be able to send the kitten away if he got it, because I love pets too much ) but fortunately he decided to discuss it with me first.
) but fortunately he decided to discuss it with me first.1 person likes this
@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
8 Jul 12
You have a full house. I don't blame you for not wanting to take on another one--especially not a baby fuzzy.
Thankfully, my boyfriend wouldn't want a kitten. He and I moved in together while my youngest still suffered "kitten brain," and I think that has taken care of any desire he may have ever harbored of adopting a kitten.
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@Porcospino (31365)
• Denmark
9 Jul 12
Yes, we already have many pets and I don't think that we need to add any more pets. I am a big animal lover and I understand that my husband wants a kitten, but I just don't think that it would be a good idea at the moment. My husbands keeps on talking about it because he really wants to get that kitten, but hopefully I can convince him that it isn't a good idea. You mentioned that your youngest suffered from "kitten brain", what is that? I have never heard about that before.
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@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
9 Jul 12
My youngest wasn't actually a kitten at the time, but she still acted like a kitten. My friends and I call it "kitten brain"--that state of immaturity.
I have an interesting idiolect, but I sometimes forget that not everyone follows some of my more unusual phrases and made up words.
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@ForSouls1234 (720)
• United States
8 Jul 12
Depends how long you will be away. Kittens are really clingy and need a lot of attention. But if you are going away and someone is taking care of all the rest for a few days whats one more. We have six and when we move we'll ultimately get another. Always room for another, but that's just me, ha ha. I'm also going to add some small pets to our clan soon since my youngest is getting more responsible at nearly 5.
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@Porcospino (31365)
• Denmark
8 Jul 12
Always room for another, that sounds like something I would say and it is the reason why we already have 9 pets I don't regret getting a single one of them, but I think that we have to stop taking new pets into the house at least for a while. We are going away for 6 weeks so it is not a short trip. My husband's sister is going to take care of the cat that we already have, ánd my husband thinks that she can take care of the kitten as well, but I don't think that is good idea to get a new pet just before a long trip.
I don't regret getting a single one of them, but I think that we have to stop taking new pets into the house at least for a while. We are going away for 6 weeks so it is not a short trip. My husband's sister is going to take care of the cat that we already have, ánd my husband thinks that she can take care of the kitten as well, but I don't think that is good idea to get a new pet just before a long trip.1 person likes this
@ForSouls1234 (720)
• United States
8 Jul 12
Oh yeah I don't blame you. Like I said, a new kitten requires lots of attention. Mine would follow me around the house mewing, sometimes demanding to be picked up and then of course they like to sit on you. And then of course their kitten chow needs to be soaked in water. And they need to be watched so they don't get into any trouble. Adult cat's can handle a long absence but not a kitten.
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@ForSouls1234 (720)
• United States
8 Jul 12
Oh, and the kitten will most likely bond to HER. My relative left her new kitten with me for a week once and when she came to claim him he looked at me with such heartbroken and confused eyes when she was carrying him out the door.
As if he was saying WHY is she taking me? She never said he acted strange but I can imagine he was confused for a while. I felt terrible. I almost said you can't have him ha ha.
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
9 Jul 12
hi P orcospino just look at those little eyes, those sweet little
paws, those big eyes with tears, and you are saying no? oh come
on its just a little kitten, its free, and you do not want that
sweet hubbie to cry do you?I know I could not do it if I were in
your shoes and my hubby had that wounded puppy look plus he brought the kitten to show you how cute it is.look at those big eyes, that sweet little smile, those tiny kitten paws.and you were going to turn him down? shame lol lol loll
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@Porcospino (31365)
• Denmark
11 Jul 12
If my husband brought the kitten into our house I know that I wouldn't be able to say no I am a big animal lover and if he put the kitten in front of me I wouldn't be able to send it away 
I didn't even want to see the picture because that would have made it hard for me to stick to me decision. It is very hard for me say no to my husband, because I know how that he really wants that kitten and I want to make him happy, but I have to think about the other pets. We need to make sure that we have emough time and money for each pet, so I had to say no at least at the moment.
I am a big animal lover and if he put the kitten in front of me I wouldn't be able to send it away I didn't even want to see the picture because that would have made it hard for me to stick to me decision. It is very hard for me say no to my husband, because I know how that he really wants that kitten and I want to make him happy, but I have to think about the other pets. We need to make sure that we have emough time and money for each pet, so I had to say no at least at the moment.
@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
11 Jul 12
Hi Porco, since you don't have much fund and the time to taking care another new pet, i think you should discuss this with your husband. Since you mentioned that you are going to travel soon, i suggest that you tell your husband to postpone his decision. Maybe after back from travel, who knows you have the extra fund to have another new pet. By the way, who is helping you to take care those pets when you both go traveling? Have a nice holiday, friend...
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
9 Jul 12
Hi Porcospino: I agree with you. You just have to talk to your husband to make him understand your point. He has to understand that if he loves pets he has to be 100% that he has enough time and money to be a good owner. The pets won't have everything they need in that situation.
ALVARO
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@Porcospino (31365)
• Denmark
11 Jul 12
That is a good point. I think that you need both time and money to be a good pet owner, and I think it is important that we don't get more pets that we can handle. We want to the pet to get a good life so we have to make sure that we will be able to take of it is a good way. I know that my husband is sad that I said no to one more cat and he really wants the cat that he read about, but I hope that we will understand that isn't great idea at the moment. I am not saying that we can never get a kitten, but I think that it would be better to wait and get a kitten one day when we don't have all of the other pets anymore.
@ravisivan (14082)
• India
8 Jul 12
It all depends on mental attachment to pets. I saw in a pet shop a "giant size parrot' was being sold at $2500. They were also selling rabbits, guinea pigs, rats etc. I do not keep pets and for me all that looked 'not relevant'. but for people who are accustomed to pets as they are attached to their children-- they mean a lot. if you do not have time it is better not to take one. It is difficult to manage time for office, children and house with pets. take care. good day.
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@Porcospino (31365)
• Denmark
9 Jul 12
$2500 that is really expensive 
I have never had a parrot and I don't know what the normal price is, but $2500 sounds like a lot of money. I am one of the people who get very attached to my pets. I grew up in a family with pets and when I became a adult and got my own home I knew that I also wanted many pets. My husband and I already have 9 pets. I don't regret getting any of them and they all mean a lot to me, but I think that we have to stop taking new pets into the house, because it is important that we have enough time to take care of every pet.
I have never had a parrot and I don't know what the normal price is, but $2500 sounds like a lot of money. I am one of the people who get very attached to my pets. I grew up in a family with pets and when I became a adult and got my own home I knew that I also wanted many pets. My husband and I already have 9 pets. I don't regret getting any of them and they all mean a lot to me, but I think that we have to stop taking new pets into the house, because it is important that we have enough time to take care of every pet.1 person likes this
@ryanong (9664)
• Vietnam
10 Jul 12
Wow, you guys care 9 pets..a lot..I was very tired when i did care 4 cats in previous time...i can't imagine how i can care 9 pets...
however, if your husband wants to care one more kitten, just let him do..and make sure he can care them all..cats are small so that they don't take much place in your house.
I love to care a dog, but dog are big and i have no time to let them go a walk every day, so that i care cats only...
@musicloverfriend (1465)
• India
9 Jul 12
In my case, you know, mm, I don't know how to take care of 9 pets!!!! Maybe you should let your husband know that you guys are busy right now and you'll get a new kitten after you return from traveling or when you are not so busy.
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@Porcospino (31365)
• Denmark
9 Jul 12
I have thought about that, too. If we are going to get a kitten in the future, I think that it would be best wait and pick a time when we have enough time to take care of the kitten. My husband's sister is going to take care of the cat that we already have while are are away and my husband's thinks that his sister could take care of the kitten as well, but I don't think that it is a good idea. If we get a kitten I want to to pick a time when we aren't going away and where we have plenty of time to take care of the new member of the family
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@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
11 Jul 12
Hi friend, i agree with you, as you mentioned already you have a lot of pets as well as spend a lot with it. It is hard to take care of all pets if we increase the counts, as you already have cats, so there is no need for a new kitten, just tell this to your hubby in a kind way, hope he will understand it
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