Sepration from Children, Missing good old days!!!
By apsara60
@apsara60 (6610)
Israel
July 9, 2012 7:16am CST
From last few days I am feeling very strange....I really don't understand what is the purpose of life. We come to this world alone, we make so many relations, and then slowly slowly we come back to same lonely life....We get married, we have children, we are nice happy family living together. But then time changes, children get married or get settled separately leaving your house.Suddenly you find every thing neat and tidy at its place....less work to do and silence that hurts...How do you face this situation. I am sure it must be very hard to accept such situation in the beginning.
It gives me feeling like "empty hands".......I would like to hear experiences of other parents so that i will get some strength to face the situation. May be I am just over-reacting.
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5 responses
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
10 Jul 12
I haven't been in that situation. But I know a few parents who have felt very different when there child/ren have left home. It is something that a lot of people say is a very hard thing to adjust and deal with. I hope that you will be able to do more of the things that you have always wanted to do. Perhaps pursue some hobbies that you didn't have the time for. I know that I will love to travel when I'm older and my child has started a family of her own.
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
10 Jul 12
Thanks for so much understanding Dominique25. I think as time will pass,this pain will heal slowly slowly and as you said, may be finally I will have time for myself and I will be able to do somethings that I always wanted to do......Also I am happy that you are already prepared for such kind of situation in future, that saves you from any kind of shock like me....
. Have a nice day.
. Have a nice day.1 person likes this
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
27 Jul 12
I think that when that time comes I will probably still be in shock about it even though I have thought about what I would like to do. As our children will always be our children and we will worry about them no matter how old they are. But with time I think I would be able to adjust.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
11 Jul 12
I honor your views Apsara
I have made similar discussions here, there are some basic truth, very difficult to digest
Are you still in Israel?
I have made similar discussions here, there are some basic truth, very difficult to digest
Are you still in Israel?1 person likes this
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
9 Jul 12
You are not at all over reacting Apsara! I would also be the same ; that is the way we are made.We have our lives centred around children and husband and it is very difficult if children choose to stay separately.Who likes the silence or tidiness/ we only want our homes to be noisy and happy and we would not mind that bit of extra work.You go and stay with children for some time.
I was desperate when my only child went to hostel for his higher studies.My students were a great solace to me but I still found it very very depressing.
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
10 Jul 12
Hello kalav56, thanks for you participation........yes you are right, we are made like this, so much emotionally attached to our children and husband that separation of this kind is pain that is unbearable, but what to do.......we have to accept the facts and move on.....the time which is gone will never return, so it is better to gather yourself and find new ways to keep yourself alive
. Kalva , don't get depressed , but as some people said, try to keep yourself occupied in other things , I am going to do the same........Have a nice day.
. Kalva , don't get depressed , but as some people said, try to keep yourself occupied in other things , I am going to do the same........Have a nice day.
@sunil_goel007in (62)
• India
10 Jul 12
no u r not at all over reacting
though im a younger male at35 i also think of such things to come in my or others life.
the answer though is difficult or may b i dont have at all
may b we should find other ways to keep ourselves busy and others happy by engaging in some social works related activity so that we can have sm inner satisfaction at least
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
10 Jul 12
Thank you for your reply Sunil, Yes you are right, we have no other choice but to find other ways to keep ourselves busy and my be later on we will like these changes, because change is motto of life. Nothing remains same.....every ting keeps changing .right
@Lorden (348)
• South Africa
9 Jul 12
Thank goodness for mylot, or how else would we have any contact at all with other people? :)
I'm the youngest child in our family, so there inevitably came a time when I'm the only one in the house, except for my parents. Then they retired and kind of moved to one side, so then I stayed behind completely alone.
It's a good thing though that I like to be alone for long times, otherwise the silence might have driven me mad if I was a social person.
Fortunately I go to town to buy everything I need one day a week, so I deliberately make it a time to see other people and arrange lunch with my mother or peek in at some familiar faces etc.
What is the purpose of life you say? I think it is whatever you make it. Sometimes it might be to make life better for other people, and doing that usually gives you fulfilment.
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
9 Jul 12
Dear Lorden, I am happy to receive reply from a young boy/girl before any parents.This makes it clear that nobody likes loneliness and we always miss our dear one's, though we know they separated for good. Another fact is also that when we are alone, we have to adjust our life with whatever we have as you are doing by deliberately making point to see people. The best thing that you are doing is arranging lunch with your mother. As long as you are there with her, she will be happy. Yes I think you are right.....purpose of life is just do your deeds and move further.Thanks for your reply.
