I Kind Of Want To Tell Her...

Tell her your story. If she is a first time mother Or this is the first time she has had a baby do this I assume it would help to hear she isn't the Only one to go through this!

Yeah I am going to tell her about the development place I took my son when I thought something was wrong with him. With my son he was just lazy and that is why he was not walking when he should have been. I think it will be easier coming from them than me.

Yeah I think it will help her to know my son went through there too. It's sometimes hard for a mother to have someone else tell you whats wrong when you could not figure it out yourself when your their mother. That is why I would rather the doctor tell her...

Well, especially since you have first hand experience with this route. It should help her feel comfortable.

Great idea Gerty, it will eliminate my method of directly asking the woman if she would like my advice. LOL

Yeah I thought about going that route and that might be my best bet. There is one here too that is great! They are free, they tested my son because at 19 months old he still was not walking, turns out he was just LAZY! Lol. But they were excellent with him. =)I think I will tell her about that place, hopefully she will be okay with that.

I remember reading a book by Jenny McCarthy. One of the tests the doctor did was put a whole lot of blocks in front of her son. Her son put them side by side, not on top of each other. And the doctor said that was one she could tell he was autistic.

I agree and if she does ask me I am going to refer her to the place I took my son. It is a development place. My son was not walking at 19 months old so they thought something was wrong with him. I took him there and they told me he is super smart, nothing wrong except that he is lazy! Lol. He finally walked a month later. Lol. It was a great place and a great experience all around so I think that place will be the best bet. This way they can tell her and it will probably be easier for her to hear from them...

Even if she did get mad, she will eventually see that you meant no disrespect and that your intention was true and good, so she would probably apologize and thank you later.

Yeah I am going to refer her to the development place where I took my son. I think it will be a lot easier to hear that from a doctor instead of me. All I did was refer her there so I don't think she will get mad at me...

Good for you. I hope she takes it well.

Yeah I am going to refer her to the development place where I took my son when he was younger. They were great with him and free which is great! Turns out my son was just lazy but I think it will be a lot easier for her to hear it from them instead of me.

Some people are more intelligent than others I guess... It is business, not a friendship. Yes I have known her for that long but I don't mix the two. We talk for a few minutes while she is here to drop him off and to pick him up, that's it. So even though it has been a long time we don't talk on a personal level which is why I am worried about telling her what I know. Most parents will get angry because they think your putting their children down or something. They get defensive which is the LAST thing I need or want right now. Yes I would have spoken to my doctor if it was my child, but I guess not everyone does. Maybe she is too embarrassed or something. Who knows. I think I am going to refer her to the developmental place so they can tell her what is exactly wrong with him since they are doctors, it might be easier for her to hear from them, not me.

sounds like a grand idea....

I am just going to refer her to the development place where I took my son when he refused to walk at 19 months old. The doctor thought something was wrong with him so she referred me to them. Turns out my son was just lazy! Lol. But they were great with him and I think it will be easier coming from a doctor than me...

Yeah I think I will mention the development place here so this way I can just say oh they might be able to tell you why he will not speak or get trained. Then they can tell her. Some days she thinks there is nothing wrong with him and yells at him for being lazy so I have no clue how she would react any other way.

Yeah, I just don't want her to be like that is none of your business to tell me kind of thing. I always worry about that kind of thing. And she is the type of person like, not my child. So I worry that she will be angry I don't know. So you don't think that is overstepping my bounds??

Well, you seem to know her and that it would offend her, but after watching her son for 2 years, you'd think she'd appreciate anything you can tell her. For example, I was helping a neighbor, only a few months. it started with gardening, then dog sitting followed by helping her clean her house, including her teenage daughter "very" messy room. Her daughter's room was so messy, that I finally looked at her and said, "You want the truth?" She said yes. So I told her, she need to find someone to come in about once a week and make her daughter pay for it, or her daughter must keep her room clean. I also gave her suggestions on an allowance and how she must help out around the house in order to get an allowance. Now I said this, not even considering myself, but next thing I know, she offers for me to come to her house once a week. I don't mind, I can use the money, but somehow I seriously doubt the daughter is paying my wage. But one thing I have noticed, when the daughter can, she has improved in not leaving as bad of a mess, either that or because I go in once a week is keeping the clutter down..lol Anyway, my point is, yes some people do have the "my child is perfect" attitude, but you already said she complains about her son. So maybe wait until the next time and look her in the eye and say, "Do you want to know what I think?" This leaves the door open, she can foolishly deny to listen to you, or she will be open. If she doesn't accept what you say, all you can say is something like, "That is my experience in dealing with children like this." Besides another point is, you are part caregiver, how would discussing this child's care be over stepping your bounds? You can offer it, but if she turns you down, then I'd say nothing. (though it would irritate me to hear her complain)

I think she is in denial. I think she does know there is something wrong with him she just doesn't know what. I am going to suggest her taking him to the same development place that I took my son to when he refused to walk. Turns out he was just lazy! Lol. But I think it will be easier for her to hear that from a doctor instead of just me.

Yeah I am going to tell her about the place I took my son to see what was going on with him. This way they can tell her and it can come from a doctor, not me. I don't think she would take it well from me.

Yeah I am going to refer her to the development place where I took my son when he was younger because my son would not walk at 19 months old. Turns out my son was just lazy! Lol. I think it will be easier for her to hear it from the doctor instead of hearing it from me. The whole thing about it is some people feel like this other person is telling me this about my son who is not a doctor but I couldn't figure it out and I am his own mother. That is hard to take. So, a doctor telling her would be much better than it coming from me!

I am going to tell her with the concerns she has maybe she should take him to the development place I took my son so they could find out if anything is wrong. This way they can tell her and it will be easier to take from them. That place was great with my son and they will be her best bet with her son too.