I'll eat hers but not yours
By SomeCowgirl
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
United States
July 18, 2012 11:51am CST
Growing up I did go to both sides of my families functions, but around the 9th grade, if not before, I became estranged from my father for reasons that makes no nevermind to this discussion. In any case, on his side of the family my aunts and grandmother would cook. They would SLOP green beans on my plate, but I didn't ever eat them. They KNEW I liked them, and I vaguely remember one year having been so fed up with it being slopped on there and me forced to eat them or try to eat them, I said "I HATE THESE GREEN BEANS, MY GRANNY MAKES THEM MUCH BETTER!"
I mean they didn't even salt the things, it was just green beans slopped out of the can and heated up. My grandmother puts fat back in her green beans.
By "granny" I mean my mama's mama. So not the same side of the family. I think it offended the one who "makes" the green beans but I didn't care, I was tired of being forced to eat them because they knew I liked green beans. NO I liked the way granny made her green beans, not just any ol' green bean!
Of course I never did like going to their functions anyway. I didn't get along with my cousins.
So have you ever done anything like this?
I WAS JUST FED UP!
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7 responses
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
18 Jul 12
Canned great beans is not the same as cooking green beans lol Sounds like your grandmother made a read side dish out of her green beans for everyone to enjoy (the old fashioned way) vs just serving something to appease you.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
18 Jul 12
This was years ago. I do remember how my grandmother would make them. She'd get a can of green beans, sure enough, but she'd add things to it (I know what she added I'm just keeping it secret!) and it made it delicious.
Of course the other side of the family and I never did get along, I never did consider them family so it's no big loss on my part that I never talk to even my father.
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
18 Jul 12
Lol yeah, I have eaten a lot of canned green beans in my time. As an adult I avoid them though :)
Unfortunately a lot of people have bad relationships with their families. such a shame since sometimes family is all you have and that messes up your relationships with other people in the future.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
18 Jul 12
Canned green beans are fine, it's just knowing how to flavor them. Though I do like green beans you have to wash and boil etc yourself, still you have to flavor those.
@celticeagle (189820)
• Boise, Idaho
18 Jul 12
That is alittle strange. My father and I were astranged also. I dont put salt on anything. I don't care for it and I figure if people want some they will put it on. Now if I am making a soup or beans or something I will put some in it but that is all. I like pepper and garlic. It is good to be honest. Sometimes we need to use some tact but, you know, I don't have any. I never told an elder family member that I didn't like the way they fixed food. It was too good. I don't remember much about my dad's side of the family but my mom's was always delicious.
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
20 Jul 12
I was maybe 12 the last time I went to a family function of theirs.. well I did go to thanksgiving a few years ago at my dad's...
In any case I was young when I did say something, I was probably 8 or 9 give or take. I wasn't about to keep being forced food when I didn't like it, and I guess I was kind of a mean kid because I think I even TOLD them my granny's (mama's mama)'s food was much better.
erm.. now it isn't so much. I still love my granny but her cooking.. not always the best lol.
I live with my mama's side of the family and do a lot of the cooking that is done. My grandmother told she appreciates and loves that I cook and enjoy what I do cook.
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@celticeagle (189820)
• Boise, Idaho
20 Jul 12
Cooking is a art and you really have to have feel for it. My mom and grandmother were wonderful cooks.
@KrauseHome (36445)
• United States
21 Jul 12
Personally this has always been one thing that has bugged me about cooking. There are people out there that have always been insistent that you have to try something, or eat something they have made, and many times you almost have to hope they leave the room so you can pour it down the drain, in the garbage, etc. I do always remember people like this, and it makes you wonder. They might have thought it was good or did it this way and people liked it, but that does not mean everyone will.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
18 Jul 12
I kinda felt the same way about my Mom's cooking. Nearly every meal was some sort of meat slathered and baked in Onion Soup! I don't mind one thing she made that way but the rest. OMG did that ever get old! She could not understand why I liked homemade chicken noodle soup or pasta dishes (w/ mayo and ???)... cause it wasn't made with onion soup.
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
20 Jul 12
Onion soup can get old after awhile I can imagine. My dad couldn't cook much his self. He would use the dark meat in any chicken dish and that was nasty. My mom couldn't really cook but man could she bake. Her baking was so delicious!
I myself in cooking might use the same spice in everything but it doesn't have much of a taste to it, it just adds to it and so unless I heavily use it (for certain dishes) no one can taste it they just reap the health benefits from it..
@froggieslover (3069)
• United States
18 Jul 12
I can't say I have because fortunately I never had family that for Ed me to eat anything I didnt want to. It I am sure if I was forced to eat something back that I wouldn't of said anything probably just pretend to eat it and maybe spit it out somewhere else if I could. Not because I would of wanted to but because I was very shy and quiet when I was little. I guess I would of said something to my mom in hopes she wouldn't make me eat it.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
20 Jul 12
On my mom's side of the family the rule was try it, you might like it. Eat some of it anyway. If you don't finish it then offer it to someone else. If they don't want it then save it.. OR when my grandfather wasn't looking then put it down the disposal.
I'm 25 now and that is still the rule lol..
On my dad's side of the family I can remember throwing away the green beans and such because it just wasn't that good and I'd do it after awhile of it just sitting there and getting cold.
I don't remember exactly who it was that I had told one time that it was nasty, but I vaguely remember telling a family member it was and that my grandmother's food was much better. I don't think they liked me very much for saying it, and I remember them bringing it up at other functions as well.
See back then at my mom's side they would let me get my own food or I'd be right beside them to show them how much I wanted of what etc. On my dad's side the food would be dished out for me and I'd just have to take it however much of it there was.
@louievill (28846)
• Philippines
18 Jul 12
sorry for what you had been through
, guess families have issues and different experiences but no, have never experienced showing emotions simply because I do not like what is being served, I was taught to pray and thank what is on the table no matter what it is and be thankful coming from a poor country that at least we are still better off. Now is it really the food or your relation with the one serving or dishing it out, just asking cause sometimes we have to differntiate what is and what is not
, my apologies for being you know frank and straight in a way
, guess families have issues and different experiences but no, have never experienced showing emotions simply because I do not like what is being served, I was taught to pray and thank what is on the table no matter what it is and be thankful coming from a poor country that at least we are still better off. Now is it really the food or your relation with the one serving or dishing it out, just asking cause sometimes we have to differntiate what is and what is not , my apologies for being you know frank and straight in a way1 person likes this
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
18 Jul 12
This happened about 14 years ago give or take. It's been awhile since it's happened, and I didn't really want to BE at the person's house I was at. In fact, My dad hated it but usually after such a get together with his family he'd have to take me straight to my mom's parents! lol!
Though, yes it was the food. I was spoiled with how delicious my grandmother's cooking was.
@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
21 Jul 12
I've been accused of being a "picky eater," because I like good food. Not my fault if some people can't cook...
If it is something that is just slopped out of a can and heated up, that does not count as cooking.
When I cook green beans, I use fresh green beans. I season them however I feel like seasoning them and cook them lightly--not mushy like that canned stuff.
