I hate being.. no I don't

@SomeCowgirl (32189)
United States
July 29, 2012 12:45am CST
Back before I was ever married, before I ever met him I wanted to be married, I wanted to be in love. After being married, after finding out what it's like, I don't crave it anymore. I'm not saying I never will be married again, but I don't crave for it and don't need it. I don't even seek it. Heck, I don't even seek a boyfriend.. but I want one.. No I don't.. See I'm not ready for any kind of relationship. I know I'm not. Will I ever be again? Time can only tell I suppose. I'm Happy being me but there are some things I miss.... I guess we all feel like this from time to time. What about you?
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13 responses
@ryanong (9664)
• Vietnam
29 Jul 12
Well, i am single but i want to live in marriage life one day, i want to become a mother...i am enjoying my single time, but i don't want to live alone entire of my life, i want to fall in love again, get married, have babies,
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
29 Jul 12
I guess we all dream that at one point, but the way I look at it is much different then it once was.
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@ryanong (9664)
• Vietnam
30 Jul 12
ya, i know...just take time to find out a soul-mate...i want to get in marriage life, but i don't like to be hurry up with it..i truly hope i will meet my soul-mate soon..
@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
29 Jul 12
I want to be with someone. I want to be independent. I want to be in love. I don't want the compromises. I don't want to be alone when I'm old. I want to do what I want to do. I don't want to have to do everything myself. Up down up down... lol
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
29 Jul 12
An annoying roller coaster with no end to it! That's basically what it is lol.
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• United States
29 Jul 12
If the relationship with my husband ended I would probably stay single and mingle for a while. Doubtful I would stay single for long as I do enjoy male companionship.
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
29 Jul 12
It's been a little over two years now and I've had maybe one relationship. I'm not one to go out and mingle to be honest.
@GardenGerty (169479)
• United States
29 Jul 12
Yes, I want things different from time to time, but it is better to be content and to like where I am and what I am doing. The right time may come for you, or it may not. You are a wonderful person as you are. I have liked best the honest friendship I have had with my partners. I have been married two times. Not a lot of boyfriends though. I guess I was too picky.
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
29 Jul 12
I am a really shy person around guys, and I have more "hopeless" romantic in me then I'd like to admit... Honesty is REALLY important in a relationship and the willingness to tell them things you really don't want to talk about, or listen to things you don't want to hear... I've learned that the hard way...
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
30 Jul 12
daughter says it will hit when ya least expect it maybe next time you will find your soul mate I did 2nd time around just have to pick carefully when you are ready.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
2 Aug 12
Yeah, it's like that saying... Stop looking and you'll find it. That's not exactly it but what you said reminded me of it. I guess that's why they are the best relationships.. those your not looking for...
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
30 Jul 12
Well, I am still married and after some of the things that I've been through in the eight years that my my husband and I have been married, I don't think that there will be anything that could happen that would be able to tear the two of us apart. With that said, if I was to ever find myself as a single woman, I think that I would want to be married again. However, that would only be if I was able to find another man that will allow me to have the freedoms that Tom has allowed me to be able to have in the years that we have spent together.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
30 Jul 12
I know I am a handful, so it will take someone special to love me to the point of wanting to marry me.. It's so hard to develop a relationship and get through the rocky times.. Looking back we never did have rocky times, just petty stupid arguments that neither mine nor his pride would let us swallow and give up.. With as strong a marriage as yours, I doubt you'll ever need to remarry...
@ElicBxn (64169)
• United States
31 Jul 12
Never been married, never been in a serious relationship - just the way I like it...
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
29 Jul 12
Yes I missed being taking care of by someone but I'm not looking I'm contented being alone. I still believe there is always a right time for everything if the right guy came it is my time to love again. I missed having a whole family father to my daughters, but so far It is the way it must be, to be a single.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
30 Jul 12
Being a single mom is a lot of hard work, and it takes a special kind of woman to do it!... Soemtimes it seems (from situations I've heard about) it's better to be a single mother then to try to find someone, especially when the children are young...
@neildc (17238)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
29 Jul 12
i was married for almost 6 years then i got separated for few months. i never thought i will get married again but i feel there is something lacking. fortunately, i met my present wife and feel that i am already complete. and it even made this marriage better than the other one.
• United States
29 Jul 12
I love my boyfriend. I love snuggling up next to him at night. I love that he will stop and pick up a requested treat for me even though he's exhausted. I love how he always thinks I look good--even when I know I look like an utter mess. Being single wasn't as nice as it is being in a relationship. It is nice to have someone who balances you out, who works beside you to accomplish things. Now, to go wake him and get him to resume working beside me to get the rest of this stuff cleared out of here so we finish moving today...
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
1 Aug 12
Yes...I wanted to be married and have that white picket fence..lol. I guess it wasn't meant for me though, at least not up until now. I am happy with the relationship I have now and I'm not rushing to change that status. I think that having time to get used to who you are is a definite plus. Sometimes we try to love someone else before we even know who we are. There are things about relationships that are easy to miss. Being happy being you is sometimes a better place though..at least for a while.
@Raine38 (12387)
• United States
29 Jul 12
I am married. I love the feeling of having my man with me and carrying his name; but I hate that whatever I want to do has to be consulted to him first. I love that I can say with truth the words "I love you" and hear the same with sincerity; but I hate the absolute commitment that comes with it (I also have to love his flaws and all). I love that I go to bed every night with the man that I love; but I hate waking up with someone else's morning breath. I know we're still at the stage where we adjust and learn more about each other. Don't get me wrong, I do want to be married but sometimes, I think that marriage contracts should be subject to renewal after a couple of years or so. I know, so silly, but there really are times that I can't help just wondering that.
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@Axai2012 (371)
29 Jul 12
I love the feeling of being IN love. It definitely feels good. But if it goes sour I guess that's the part you want to forget. That's the thing with marriage, how do you keep being In love? to stay in the marriage and not get out of it. Anyways, Good luck to you in your search for true love.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
29 Jul 12
I'm divorced, so if that question was for me.. I wasn't sure if it was rhetorical or actually for me. I'm not searching right now, I'm just being me.