Tired of Talking to Walls
By NailTech
@NailTech (6874)
United States
July 29, 2012 12:26pm CST
So today I tell my dad I could try to put up 1-2 items of his on eBay as I used to do before this surgery I had on the 17th cause I'm trying to be bak into the swing of things abit more and help him out again. I said not anything that I have to lay on the floor and get on my knees to take the pictures of, and such. So what does he do, he gives me three things to put up and then one thing is something I have to spead out on the floor like I said I couldn't do. Do I talk to walls or what?? So I told him this and now I don't know where the items are, he took one item and was going to just give me that one ( a knife) and now I can't find where he put it. I think he just took them all back now, ugh. I give up with people. I know he is pretty much deaf but it is just getting so hard to deal with, he said he couldn't hear me in the car saying this to him so why did he go ahead and get the three things anyways before asking me again all what I did say about it.
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@celticeagle (189833)
• Boise, Idaho
29 Jul 12
One thing is you don't need to do it all at one time. And maybe you need to talk to your dad about getting a hearing aid. That would eleviate alot of the problem. He may scoff and get cranky about it but it would inhance his life and make communicating with him alot easier.
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
31 Jul 12
Yea, I don't want to do it all at once yet that is for sure, he should realize that too. He just doesn't think, to me it's as if he doesn't even care sometimes. Same with my mom at times, she was saying once already recently that I shouldn't be blaming the tiredness I still feel now from the surgery. I'm like, well they told me it takes 4-6 weeks to fully recover, what is so hard to understand about that? I'm not even recovered fully and she thinks I'm using the surgery as an "excuse"? Geesh, with family like this who needs enemies, ya know. Then people wonder why I'm depressed and such. Live in my shoes and they will know.
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@celticeagle (189833)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Aug 12
Let her think what she wants. The professionals are the ones in the know and not her. I feel for ya with her being so opinionated. I'd be depressed too. I'm here for ya.
@mrswhitfield (2044)
• Indonesia
30 Jul 12
I think you should buy hearing helper for your dad to help him lsiten good. Or maybe you can write a simple memo for him where you write what you want or what you need. He can read and maybe he will remember.
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
31 Jul 12
He had one that cost $600. years ago and he dropped part of it in the yard one day not even knowing he did. My mom found it later on, and the hearing aide never worked for him either, just a waste of good money it was. Writing things down sounds like a good idea but it shouldn't have to be that complicated, I do know what you mean though. Maybe I'll give it a try for his reminders on how to do things.
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
30 Jul 12
Haven't been around myLot lately, and the last time I read your discussion it was about the operation you were going to take and something about a quarrel involving your mom and doctors. So, it is apparent that you had your surgery. I hope it went well.
Anyway, it's nice offering your dad to do things for him again, but don't you think it would be better to just fully recover first and then do all the rest? I mean it would really help you recover quicker if you stayed away from stress, wouldn't it?
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
30 Jul 12
Yes it would help but often I feel pressured by myself to help my parents no matter how much they get aggravated with me for who knows what. I was just asking for him to give me 1-2 things and it overwhelmed me a bit to have him give me 3-4, he had a few more things he wanted to give me and for him to think I just can go back to doing all of that right away anyways was beyond my comprehension. He is like his mother in that way now, she didn't care what I had wrong with me taking care of her, she just wanted me to help her with it all like I was fine all the time. Thanks for caring though and saying I need to put this aside til I fully recover, I appreciate it.
