How honest is too honest?

I had never thought of honest being too honest before. i believe that honesty is honesty no matter how you look at it. i guess one way that you could be too honest is it if you were using the honesty to purposely hurt someone else's life. in thast respect, honestly would not be serving any kind of purpose , it would just be complicating life.

I would rather deal with someone who gives me sugar coated absolute truth. You can be absolutely honest but in a nice way, although sometimes it may be difficult.

I don't draw the line... Truth is called truth for a reason... If you haven't done anything wrong, there's no reason to find it insulting... Nothing wrong with calling a fat person fat... I have actually made friends because I've been known to be brutally honest... If you are sincere in your answer, even though it may sound cold & cruel, people will appreciate the honesty... I would take it as an insult if somebody tries to sugar coat their answer... They are in fact questioning my ability to handle the honesty... They think I need to be talked to like a child... We all are grown adults here... How about taking it like an adult, even if it's something you don't wanna hear...

I once took this "telling the whole truth" business to the extreme. Well, for me I think it was extreme. I got involved in a messy relationship before, the guy had already broken off things with the ex-girlfriend but the latter wants him back. I know a lot about her but she doesn't know about me. I got fed up and exposed the whole truth - I gave her a link of the screenshots of the text message exchange between me and the guy, especially those parts where he told me over and over that he gets stressed when he's with the ex. I did not regret telling the truth to the ex, but he got mad at me for how I broke the truth to her.

Well, honesty is important for my life. I don't like lips-service. Even though more and more people aren't honest, I still want to be part of a few. I would avoid those who aren't honest.

I grew up with it - my dad was very much like that. Brutally honest and often insulting. I'll tell you it does nothing for the self esteem of a child. He always felt it was better to be honest . . . but I think the way someone words their honesty makes all the difference in the world. If one can be honest but be constructive, I don't mind that. But if one is being too honest but also being so negative about it - it's not so helpful. I draw the line when the person takes cheap shots or get nasty (digging their nails in) about the situation. Who needs that?!

I once took this "telling the whole truth" business to the extreme. Well, for me I think it was extreme. I got involved in a messy relationship before, the guy had already broken off things with the ex-girlfriend but the latter wants him back. I know a lot about her but she doesn't know about me. I got fed up and exposed the whole truth - I gave her a link of the screenshots of the text message exchange between me and the guy, especially those parts where he told me over and over that he gets stressed when he's with the ex. I did not regret telling the truth to the ex, but he got mad at me for how I broke the truth.

If someone asks you on a date and you aren't interested, you are too honest if you say: "If I want to date you? Are you joking? I would never date a person who is as boring and unattractive as you" You don't have to sugarcoat the rejection or give the person false expectations if you know that you don't want to date him or her. You can simply say "No, I don't want to date you" and keep the rest of your thoughts to yourself. I think that is the difference between too honest and honest.

I think honesty is best. Some people could keep some things to themselves. I personally think if what you are saying is not going to help the person or situation that you should keep it to yourself. We are all allowed opinions, even if they are sometimes negative or not nice. But that doesn't mean that we have to share them. I think people like this are no fun to be around. That say everything that is on their mind without even thinking twice who it might offend or hurt. No sugar coating needed..just sometimes don't say anything at all. Sometimes it's best to let people learn from themselves. If it's something that will effect their whole life, and it's someone close, then you may need to say some thing. But the trick is learning when it's your place and when it's not.

Well it is good to be honest and truthful but it does not mean being blunt and straightforward all the time. there are certain things in life which needs to be kept hidden and some things that needs to be spoken. It is difficult to judge people whether they are wearing a mask on their faces on not. but it is good to speak the truth and judge the words while speaking. What say?

woah,first of all ur qn really requires some serious brain power..cos i guess many people have been asking themselves this all the time,but been unable to find a definite answer..of course keeping in mind that diff people tend to feel differently about what constitutes being honest or rather what they wanna hear,i used to love someone who sugar coated their words 100%..but as i grew older,i realised that that would not help me at all in terms of self reflection as a person..so now i would rather the other party be honest with some sugar coating..well they can be 100% honest and not be insulting and i could perhaps accept it.but if they were insulting then i think i would flip out..i think the ultimate qn is the threshold of others' remarks that i can tolerate,whether i would be offended/not by certain comments made by others..no?

I don't like extremists. I would like it to be honest but not honest that someone gets hurt. When people get hurt they react in a different manner depending on person to person and the situation. Honesty that insults, I am definitely not for it. And trust me not all people react same from insult. Sometimes people react in a very aggressive and violent way.

I often find in life that it isnt WHAT people say but rather the WAY they say it. You can be completely honest with someone without being aggressive or insulting, you just have to word it gently. I dont mean sugar coat it and lie, but say for example someone is wearing something you think they look awfull in, and they ask what you think, you could either say it's awfull, you look ridiculous, or you could say i am glad you asked, i dont think it really suits you to be honest. So being totally honest isnt always a bad thing. I would far rather have people around me who are honest than who lie. it just depends how they say things

I think if what you want to say won't hurt the others, you can say it. If it will hurt the others, you had better not say it.I don't like the one who sugar coated their words, but not give me the absolute truth. If it is good to me , I hope to hear the truth, even if it hurts.