do you like people that are always try to joke?

Russian Federation
August 4, 2012 10:02am CST
as for me i don't. i hate them. especially, when they try to joke aboutme. and i do not find it funny, but they joke. i hate it. :( how to get rid of them?
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• Valdosta, Georgia
4 Aug 12
If I hated people who joke all the time I would not be married to my husband. He doesn't say offensive jokes, just silly things. There has only been a handful of times in 8 years that he hurt me, but he also apologized once he realized I was upset though. If anyone else said jokes like that it would depend on what they said and who the person is...
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• Russian Federation
4 Aug 12
yeah, you love your husband that is why you are not so upset. as for me, if i was you i would not be upset too. but i am talking about other people, people that are not so close as husband, bestfriend and so on of course i can laugh at myself sometime and can make a joke about myself or laugh at the joke of my bestfriend. but people that don't even know me begins to angry me. :) i hate that jokes they don't even achieve anything and they discuss what i have said or done. :( that is really strange. :)
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@murkie (1103)
• Philippines
4 Aug 12
well, that depends on the joke, and on the mood i am in. it's good to hear a joke every once in a while. but it should be in a way tat does not degrade somebody or something too much. a good joke is also ok, if it is appropriate for the situation or the reason. like telling a joke in an extremely professional business meeting is kinda irritating and annoying.
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@murkie (1103)
• Philippines
5 Aug 12
well maybe she just wants to establish rapport.. umm.. just to break the ice that's why she jokes, however bland (or stupid) it maybe. i've seen people who tries hard enough to be comfortable. but in some cases, it turns out that this just keeps other people away.
• Russian Federation
6 Aug 12
may be. she wants. but why just sit with me and begin to talk? about something.. i do not know. she has friends to talk with. i have another people that i can talk with. i think we are too different. :) ]this is why i try to let her know that we can not be friends. i am not that evil that she is. i don't like her because she is self-confident (to much)and think that she is a everything but she is not.
• Russian Federation
4 Aug 12
yes. a good joke is always needing. but a bad... not really. i hate it. they try to joke but they don't even have sense of humor. i hate this people. sometimes when iam alone with one girl (that always joke stupidly) i think that she is normal. i can even talk to her. but when she tries to joke at me i want her to go out. :)
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@kalav56 (11464)
• India
6 Aug 12
Some people think they are very affectionate and joking about you is a mark of showing their affection.Frankly , I do not think so. Your problem has not started today[it is my guess] ; it has grown because you allowed it to.Now, that you say you do not like it, tell the person face to face"I don't like it; enough". You will face things like "Oh! Why are you making a mountain-hill out of a mole" or they will look at you as though you are being childish and silly.You don't be conscious of this at all. Stand your ground and be firm; tell them you do not appreciate their sense of humour and add that if you do it to them are they going to like it too.
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@vandana7 (98823)
• India
6 Aug 12
Wise words kala..:)
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• Russian Federation
6 Aug 12
I agree with vandana7. yeah, i wil do that. i hope that may be they have change during this summer but if not i will tell them. because i am sick and tired of them. they are nothing to me and they should not bring me dow and spoil my mood. :) happy mylotting. :)
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
4 Aug 12
Some people say that the self irony is the higher level of intelligence - to be able to laugh on your own mistakes or defects. I don't get annoyed and don't hate such people. My own sense of humor is not very good, I am more serious person, just the jokes doesn't come in my mind in the right moment, I take seriously nearly everything. But I love when friends make jokes on me. It all depends on the jokers, of course, if it's not so close friend I would probably not laugh and have fun, but it is a true and good friend, I don't mind. Some jokes doesn't stay on the right place when people who are not so close to us tell them.
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@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
4 Aug 12
Well you are not the one. Me and my boyfriend, we have a friend who jokes a lot about our puppy and it's getting insane. But we act like we haven't heard him. When the puppy was sick and my boyfriend shared with his friend, his friend said - throw it out, why paying vet services. He actually tried to be original with this joke, my boyfriend replied - has your mom did the same while you were sick as a kid? His friend said - she was thinking about it. (Which was extremely stupid and I guess this friend felt really idiotic to try and joke about it). Soon my boyfriend had to go out with this same friend, after we walked the puppy. His friend was waiting him in front of our building and the guy said "what happened, this walk took you so long that I thought you baked the pup on some grill". Nobody laughed, me and my boyfriend just looked each other and made this stupid faces which we make every time this friend make such idiotic joke. Don't react. Just leave it the way it is without saying anything. For some people jokes break the ice, but depends also on the jokes.
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• Russian Federation
4 Aug 12
omg, what a stupid guy. there are lots of stupid people like this. i do not know how he dared to say that... even twice... omg.. yeah, i behave the same way. i do not pay attention to them. because all they do is trying to have more attention then they really deserve. :) thank you for the good response. :)
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• Russian Federation
4 Aug 12
yeah. with bestfriends i have fun even if i feel awkward with some jokes but i can laugh at myself. but when they are people that i only see for some hours they begin to annoy. :) that's why i begin a new discussion. to know if i am the one who feel this. :)
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@freqspaz (220)
• United States
4 Aug 12
I really can't stand some one who can't be serious at least once in a while, however I can't stand either some one who is serous all the time and can't take a joke. That being said I ignore people like that, because the madder you get or the more you try to get them to stop the more fuel you are giving them and the worst it's gonna get. Yes it sucks that they talk about you, and it hurts a bit, but words are words not sticks or stones. Like others have said they do it because they are jealous of you, because they feel bad about themselves or their lives and don't know how to deal with it so they pick on you. Truly you can take it as a complement because they are jealous of you. It's something to think about.
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• Russian Federation
4 Aug 12
yes, me too. bu8t i hate them not for only this but for what they are doing all the time. for example, i have said something of the subject. then they begin to discuss and commment in their stupid way. i do not pay any attention. then the next day she comes to me and asks something. if she is doing this things why does she comes to me like i am her friend. i hate two-faced people. yeah, i hope it is so. because who is better than we are would not pay any attention to us. it is the well-known quote. lol
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• Russian Federation
5 Aug 12
yeah, i will trry. :) thank you , have a good day too. :)
@freqspaz (220)
• United States
4 Aug 12
I do too, but sadly there are a lot of them in the world and I have no idea why. Just be careful and think about your anger, doing something outta anger that you will regret later is always the worst thing. Try to smile and have a good day!
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@Axai2012 (371)
4 Aug 12
Just be honest. Tell them that you do not appreciate them telling jokes in expense of others and that means you. There are people who are naturally funny but there are also some who tries hard and use another person to laugh about. That is annoying and I don't find that funny as well. Maybe it is time for you to speak up, they might be doing it because they think it is fine for you. Nevertheless, it's still not funny. Shame on them.
@Axai2012 (371)
4 Aug 12
That's true. They put the attention away from themselves in expense of others.
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• Russian Federation
4 Aug 12
i fully agree with you, Axai2012. but the problem is that they do that when the teacher in the class. the teacher does not know about it. they whisper. they are so bad that i do not even want to talk to them at all. :) i do not know what they think and don't want to know :) stowyk, yeah, may be they are envy about sth that i have and they don't. but it is not good to show your feelings that way. :)
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@murkie (1103)
• Philippines
5 Aug 12
i agree with stowyk. these people regard themselves as very low. or should i say, they have a very low self esteem. subliminally they see themselves so little. and they think the only way they could lift themselves up is to pull other people down. if they make fun of you, that's because they are intimidated, so they just want to bring you down. which goes that if people try to pull you down, it is because you are higher than them.
@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
6 Aug 12
Hi Victoria222, I don't find there it's anything funny to create joke about colleagues or friends in front of others. It's not courteous to act like this. This would hurt the person being joked foolishly in front of others I really enjoy authentic joke that created by people who are full of humorous on many aspects happen in our daily life instead of those disgusting ridicules and mockeries. Happy posting
@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
7 Aug 12
Yeah, it would be great if there is such strict regulation to punish those culprits that don't have even the basic common sense to respect others. At present I could do nothing and the best way is to ignore them. Or to stay distant away from them if I could
@vandana7 (98823)
• India
7 Aug 12
Wouldnt I like that..:) We have a law about widows being teased. But no corresponding laws for women who do not have kids, or unmarried, or divorced. They become vulnerable to teasing even by widows. We need strict laws. :)
• Russian Federation
6 Aug 12
hello, lkbooi. the sam to me. i can't find these people clever, strong, beautiful, and attractive. it is not funny to act like they do. and the sociaty should create a law about these people and take a penalty from them lol
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• United States
6 Aug 12
I am probably one of the people that you do not like ... well, not really me personally as I don't think that we have had any interaction on here, but I would probably fit into the category of people that you do not like. I do tend to joke and kid around a lot, but I don't do it to be mean or hurtful. In fact, I will make jokes about myself just as easily (if not more so) than jokes about other people ... I think that if we cannot laugh about our own silliness and imperfections, then we tend to take life too seriously, and that can lead to too much stress and negativity. Of course, that is just my opinion, and I know that there are many people that are a lot more serious than I am, although I can be serious when I need to be.
• Russian Federation
7 Aug 12
wow. so impressive. i think sometimes when i am in a good mood i can say about the person some things even if he/she hears them. i can do so too. :) and you are right that if we didn't joke it would lead to nothing but bad mood but but i respect the point of view that people should joke but not a lot.
• United States
7 Aug 12
Oh, I would not say anything about someone behind their back that I would not say to their face. In fact, I generally do not joke around about people unless they are right there or I know that they will see and/or hear it, because then it is not really joking but more like making fun of them, which is definitely not a good thing - I think there is a big difference between joking around and making fun of someone, and the latter is so not cool or funny, in my opinion.
• Russian Federation
8 Aug 12
yeah, the same to me. you are a good person i am sure. just there are lots of people that try to make fun of the others. they think that if they do so they will be better or look better. but it is not so.
@vandana7 (98823)
• India
5 Aug 12
I have been there and done that. Actually it depends upon what they mean as joke and you understand as joke. Anything personal that is a cause of concern or pain cant be a topic of joke. If they joke about it, then they are ridiculing not joking. As I see it...you have four choices.. a.. Try to ignore them. b. Find something that is painful to them and remember to hit it on their face when they do it to you, not otherwise..if u do at other times, you will look like a sour face. c. Bribe them with excessive gentleness and sweetness that they feel ashamed of doing it to you..and would look bad to others if they did it to you. (This one is the best if you can be angelic). d. Sit and cry and get depressed with self pity. Whatever u do, dont fight..it will only get worse..
@vandana7 (98823)
• India
5 Aug 12
Yes..d is the worst of the four options..I didnt write fighting as the fifth option because that can get a bad name for the rest of life..she fights, she is a jerk that kind of label. I didnt want to suggest that as option..but crying it over helps at times..in an evilish way..lol I mean..if somebody hurt me, and I instantaneously cried..others would become sympathetic towards me..and the one who joked would not know where to look..lol Human psychology..unless some reactions are displayed people dont realize that the other person is hurting..:( But never..not even once..accept any ridicule..because when u finally react ..they will ask..."what happened to her today..she was such a sport..now she's turned a jerk"..that is because u would have accepted ridicule the first time round. You are worth ur weight in diamond..every drop of ur blood so never take it lying down..play it shrewd..with shrewdones. ok? In all probability..they envy you..:)
• Russian Federation
7 Aug 12
wow so wonderful answer. you should be an author. lol a and b are the best variants to me. the letter d made me laugh. lol i will never do that. because i think that i am very possitive person (may be sometimes i am not but in general) that is why the letter d is notfor me. but it is a well-known. i have seeen a lot of situations in movies when people were very sorry. :) but then they became stronger and brought other down. to my point of view they became those haters that they thought they would never be. lol thanks for the response. i think that you know thatnpsychology very well. good luckto you ^^
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
4 Aug 12
I think that humor is a very inspiring trait for a person to have, When it is used in a lighthearted manner, it can turn a depressing mood around so easily. I am no at as moved by someone's joking when they they are being obnxious with their joke and it comes being anything but funny.
• Russian Federation
5 Aug 12
yeah, i like people that joke funny in easy way. it is a good manner but when they try top be popular, smart, then joke like they are kings that is annoying. first of all, i did not pay attention but then they began to angry me. they are so silly or not? i do not know.
@riyauro (6421)
• India
7 Aug 12
I like people who joke but I definitely don't like those who makes fun of others. If someone made fun of me then I will see them. Get rid of them, these type of people don't deserve you. smile
• Russian Federation
7 Aug 12
awww yeah, me too. i like to be around with people who make a good jokes. haha thank you for a good advice. i hope that there will be fewer and fewer these people in the world. :)
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
4 Aug 12
I love people who have good sense of humor; but there is always a place and time for everything and that includes joking around. If the situation calls for serious conversation or participation, that is not the time to pick on jokes. There's never a good approach about these people but to tell them upfront that at the moment, joking is the last thing that we need.
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• Russian Federation
4 Aug 12
yes, this is it. they try to joke in a serious place where we should study, find something new and so on. and they make laugh at others instead of it. itonly shows that they do not know how to respect people how to hear them, without it they will never be successful. :)
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6 Aug 12
i hate them. they are nothing just a bunch of losers
• Russian Federation
6 Aug 12
hahha yes. it is just an envyness. :)
7 Aug 12
hello. Victoria ^^ As you told me I signed up. :) ohh yeaaaah. lol i am shocked that you have this problem. lol they are just people that ebvy you. don't hear them. the best way is to ignore them. speak with best friends , with us i suppose. :) btw how is ur life? hope u r doing fine. :)
• Russian Federation
7 Aug 12
oh my god!!!! my sis!!!!!! so glad to see you here. :) awww that is amazing. :) yeah. of course, i will always speak to you, and hang out with you. haters will go aways soon. you increased my mood now. *smiling and dancing* my life is cooler but a little boring. :) how is urs? :)
• Russian Federation
7 Aug 12
wow bryan moved lol it was so hard for him... "love, love, love. what is it useful for? absolutely nothin'." - Effy? thank you for the confidence in me. you are so sweet. i hope it is so. but i think they are not haters they are worse. they try to be friends with me and then hit. they are so fake. faker than a barbie lol
7 Aug 12
xD sis ur so funny. yeah, they are just haters nothng more. just haters. i hate people who hate everyone. smh.. i think they do not know them either. selena, justin, miley, demi, they are all have haters but they deal with it. and you can. u r strong i am sure. p.s. my life is better now. my boyfriend moved to my house.
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
5 Aug 12
I see no harm in pulling one's leg once in a while ... i might even counter attack them with my witty humor when they seem to have crossed their limits though.There hasn't been an instance when i wanted to avoid someone for the reason we discussing about.Why don't you counter attack them just for a change which should shut them up.Great day!
• Russian Federation
7 Aug 12
haha i think i will try it. i am not that type of the p[erson that can attack. i am very shy. tis is my min problem. i do not know how i can dare to come to person and say evil things. :D really
@ellebj (784)
• Philippines
5 Aug 12
I love to be with those kind of people since it makes me laugh.. Though sometimes, I don't like it when it is offensive..
• Russian Federation
6 Aug 12
the sam eto me. i do not like it when it hurts. i begin not to like these people because they do so and i would not like to be a friend of them... really..
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
5 Aug 12
I don't like too much of jokes. I like fun, but people who make fun of others is not a good habit and I don't like such people or even I don't do it with others too. The best way to get rid of such people is 'ignore' them and that is what we can do. Or else, just don't pay much attention to it. If they found that we are much bothered or annoyed it, they will get more boosted, instead if we ignore and give least importance, they will divulge slowly from it, assuming that we are not enjoying them.
• Russian Federation
7 Aug 12
yeha, you are fully right. i amsure thatit is the best way to get rid of them. and sure... not to find it very important. i am sure that there are lots of things that are very important to me. now. :) and everything will be all right. :)
@toyota4k (1208)
• Philippines
5 Aug 12
I like people who not only try to joke but who makes jokes for cheering one up. A funny joke is always welcomed and i laugh out loud the the joke deserves so. Remember, laughter is the best medicine.
• Russian Federation
6 Aug 12
aww yes, i like these jokes that are not harmful or rude. it makes time go fast and to feel the atmosphere with fun. :) i iuke it too. and don't think that i am a boring person that do not like at all. i like doing it. and always do. but with people who deserve it. ;) not with strangers that think that their jokes are funny. :)
@chum24 (569)
• Philippines
5 Aug 12
i like it sometimes but if their joke is not good to hear in my ears my gosh i really hate it and i don't to talk to them sometimes, i usually joke in a right time whom i only have with confidence. if you think you are hurt you must tell them so that they stop.
• Russian Federation
7 Aug 12
i like it too when the joke is not painful but when it is i can not stand it. i try to b do so with them in the other way (wise way) i choose a good place, time, situation. and strike. :) especially when they need help it is my favourite. :) me too, i do not talk to them either, i do not even lok at them, like there is not that person here, beside me. :) i like to do it. )
@sania06 (15)
• India
5 Aug 12
no i don't like those people who always make jokes.I truly don't know how to get rid of them.
• Russian Federation
6 Aug 12
the only way is to ignore them. but in movies it is a sarcasm and they find something that everyone does not know and then try to blackmail. i think it is not a good idea. :)