Away From Home And Family

August 7, 2012 12:25am CST
It has been a almost 5 years since I moved completely away from my home city, leaving all of my close family behind. And since then I have started a family of my own but it's still hard to be away from my family all the time. I visit them about once every few years and vice versa but it's not enough. I have my own family and my boyfriend's family but it is not the same. If I argue with my boyfriend who do I turn to, where can I go? Being in a different city makes it harder for me to find people who I trust. I am a stay at home mom so I don't go out as much either so I don't have any friends here either.I try not to think about it. Has anyone else ever gone through this? How do you cope?
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7 responses
• United States
7 Aug 12
I would suggest if you can't visit them to talk to them more often. There is so much technology these days that you can Skype. I'm sure that Skyping with your family will make you feel much better about being away from them. Try to plan trips to visit them more often. Maybe have a family Skyping session with your children and your parents, maybe make it a weekly or monthly thing.
7 Aug 12
I had also left my home few years ago i spent 4 years in Australia but living there was a different experience of my life but what i think that being there was not good though i was making lots of money . It was easy for me to start a family in Aus was having a perfect girlfriend and her family member were really nice to and they want us to marry but when i think about it i though that this is not my place this is not where i belong i can stay here many years but what about the people i have left behind and what about all that love and caring after living and spending 4 years of my life in Australia peacefully and perfectly i think that i should return my own country . Life in Australia was good actually it was amazing . and from where i see what have you done wrong is getting married in that country i think you should now go with the flow or should try to convince your Bf if you both could settled in your home town .
@kiran8 (15323)
• Mangalore, India
7 Aug 12
Hi MsPam, I have never been in such a situation where I have not been in touch with my close family.However, I feel that developing and maintaining relationships is a very important aspect of our life .It is never too late to slowly normalise your ties with your close family because at some stage of your life you are bound to regret not having done so...Your children too need to be close to your side of the family - all the best and happy mylotting
@kenshin2143 (1882)
• Philippines
7 Aug 12
I have never experienced such things because I can really adapt quickly to different people around me. I can easily initiate conversions even for people I just met and create friendships with them. You might want to try engaging yourself within a decent community where you can find genuine friends.
@toyota4k (1209)
• Philippines
7 Aug 12
I have been away from my family at least a year once when I was in my teens. When I fell homesick, I came literally running home. That was a three kilometer distance. lol. I really can't stay away from them for long because well, they;re a part of me.
@riyauro (6427)
• India
7 Aug 12
hi Mspam, I am in a different country now. I am in India and my parents in Fiji Islands. I have not seen my family from last 2 years and travelling is so expensive. I am here alone and non of my family has ever been to India. I have no one to share in my good and bad times. There even anyone from my country whom I can talk to. There was a girl from Fiji here but she is gone to other state with her husband and little daughter. So I know how you feel. thanks for sharing. have a wonderful day.
• Vietnam
7 Aug 12
I never has the situation like that. But If I were you I will visit my family a year, and my lover family next year or another time. That's so hard to live in a different place. But the best important is you have your lover alway next to you. So, let's be stronger! Do you get it?