my mother has a facebook!
By missjahn
@missjahn (4572)
Philippines
August 7, 2012 3:05am CST
my mother is already in her early 60's. in fact it will be her birthday this 14th day of the month. oh well, to start with, it is so hard for my mom to learn computer lessons even she attended ict seminars. and now that she is a retiree, i opened a facebook account for her to stay attach with her friends, relatives and even to her two sons who worked away to another place from us. my mother's profile in there is so pretty and she have many pictures uploaded in there too; seminars, vacations, socializing with friends, neighbours and etc. she receives friend requests from her teachers, students before, friends, relatives and alike.
but... it was not my mom who does the interaction in there. well, it's us her children did the responding of the messages she received, accepting friend requests, uploading pics and even chatting for she really have a problem on dealing with computers, how much more to find herself in a confusing site. we cannot teach her thoroughly because all of us including her were too busy in life to stick with her in day or so. it is okay, all of the activities in her facebook were reported to her and she will taught us what to do with it.
well, does your mother has a facebook and how good she is at it? iloveyou mama...
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17 responses
@ryanong (9664)
• Vietnam
7 Aug 12
It is very nice when your mom has a Facebook account then she can update information regularly and you guys can chat with her also.
My mom never uses a computer and she doesn't know about the internet, etc.. She is living in countryside and she is not familiar with high-tech devices or computers.

@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
oh yeah... right at that even we cannot understand why the retention of this kind of learning is so hard for them of their age bracket. but amazingly have you seen kids nowadays. gee, even if they are not taught to operate computers but they can find a way to learn for themselves and will be able to play games on line. they are so resourceful and have initiative to learn by their own.1 person likes this
@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
8 Aug 12
my mother used the device if we are around in the house for she cannot operate it alone herself. she will just tell us what to do and do as what she bids. it is so hard to tell my mom what to do because she is a slow learner in terms of this - haha... it is alright, we are just here if she wants to contact with her friends in facebook ;)
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@ravisivan (14082)
• India
28 Aug 12
missjahn
it is common for old people like me to have facebook. I have my personal facebook account and also another one for my blog. I post in 10 other facebook sites so that I can inform others about new blogs posted for recruitment in banks.
my aunty 75+ also has one and she has learnt to operate it.


@ravisivan (14082)
• India
29 Aug 12
missjahn:
thanks for your nice words. in fact i learnt about internet from aunty because she was knowing it --she was teaching in Salem for three years -- i know typing and that helped me learn about computer.
This is helping us to keep busy -- I prepare papers for competitive exams like bank PO, IT companies, SSC etc. then spend good time on mylot. Then take rest and watch some TV programs. play with grand son. that is all. i am very busy. no time to talk to aunty also. she is also busy - helping in kitchen-facebook, etc. so no fighting.

@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
29 Aug 12
who told you ravi that you are old already
- at least if you are, you are a successful person. so good that your auntie is still have her expertise in terms of netting. maybe because she is eager to learn of the matter, so that is why
thanks 

- at least if you are, you are a successful person. so good that your auntie is still have her expertise in terms of netting. maybe because she is eager to learn of the matter, so that is why
thanks 

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@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
29 Aug 12
you are most welcome and more than worth it.
so no fighting... both of you are busy with each own business and different interest. gosh, is she the one who taught you how to operate computer? good for you, someone is showing you the way. like me, i received an award in school as i graduated it, and this award was encoder of the year. it is really nice when can achieve or learning a thing for it serves as our award for ourselves.
thanks sir for joining in this discussion one more time 
so no fighting... both of you are busy with each own business and different interest. gosh, is she the one who taught you how to operate computer? good for you, someone is showing you the way. like me, i received an award in school as i graduated it, and this award was encoder of the year. it is really nice when can achieve or learning a thing for it serves as our award for ourselves.
thanks sir for joining in this discussion one more time 
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@kaka135 (14994)
• Malaysia
12 Aug 12
I tried to teach my parents how to use computer a few years ago, but as I am not staying together with my parents, I just wrote down the instructions on how to turn on the computer, etc. As there are no one to guide them there or answer their questions instantly, hence they haven't learn how to use computer yet. I suppose they don't have the interest or need to use the computer. So, yeah, they do not have a facebook account.
I just registered an email account for my father recently, in order to let him receive his friends' emails. Same as you, I am the one who read his emails and show to him.
@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
12 Aug 12
it is okay to be like that than having nothing at all. since internet is a good thing for communication so i leave it like this that we her children give her the assistance she needed. she will just tell us, kindly message you auntie or see if your auntie is messaging us now. sort of thing like that. :) thanks
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@alottodo (3056)
• Australia
8 Aug 12
I Am so happy for your mum she is a brave lady good for her! I started to learn about computers in my late 50's today I Am 67 and doing quite well an open mind is the only way to learn new things I Am sure your mum is going to be a champion in no time!

@sishy7 (27166)
• Australia
7 Aug 12
I don't even have a Facebook account, let alone my mom...
Well, in my case it's not so much of not knowing enough about computer; but more likely because I do not have any interest at all in Facebook.
And my mom...; well, I think it is safe to say that she has no idea what Facebook is and that she has never operated any computer at all...

@sishy7 (27166)
• Australia
8 Aug 12
Sorry, I suppose I am not being too clear...
I meant to say: I can be almost certain (or 'safe to say') my mom does not know anything about Facebook or computer.
You see, I'm not in position to know that for sure; I can only assume with a great deal of confidence that I was right...

@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
9 Aug 12
Hi friend, good to hear that you created a fb account behalf of your mother and have fun and enjoyment with her friends using her account. My mother don't have computer knowledge and don't have fb account, my brother, sister and cousins having it and i keep in touch with them using fb

@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
29 Aug 12
That's great, hope your mother is learning a lot about facebook from you and became an expert here
@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
12 Aug 12
oh yes, because we want her to enjoy. we want to see her happy face when something happened on her facebook like getting news from the lives of her relatives and friends. we want to make albums for her too. it is nice to see her pictures and let her friends know of her whereabouts. even she cannot do it in her own, still we updated things to her. :)
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@Jshean20 (14347)
• Canada
7 Aug 12
My mother has had facebook for a couple of years now, at first she was stubborn about it because she didn't have confidence that she could learn it. We showed her a few things on the site, but she learned mostly on her own which is quite an accomplishment for someone who hasn't known how to turn on a computer for that long.
@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
your mother sounds like my mom during the days of your moms learning. but the different is that my mother do not know to do it on her own. that she depends on us in terms to this. she will enjoy facebook when we are around her, teaching her what to do. but she will asked nothing if she cannot open it because no one can coach her what to do. thanks :)
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@Fishmomma (11658)
• United States
7 Aug 12
My mothers birthday is on the 14th also. She is older than your mother and really doesn't have any interest in Facebook. I have Facebook and do play some of the games. Its easy to spend a lot of time on Facebook with photos and talking with friends.
@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
7 Aug 12
send my warmest birthday greetings to your mom. i too have and used to be very active in there. but as i joined here, my attention covers it all here. i still opened my fb but not to the extent spending my whole time in there. i want it here because it is fun, exciting and learning at the same time even misunderstanding cannot be avoided thanks
@Ladybugs (404)
• Philippines
7 Aug 12
Hello there. Just like your mother, my mom has her facebook too.My sister made it for her because she doesn't know how to use the computer well too. Maybe, if we would train her, she would also learn how to use the computer and how to open facebook but I think she doesn't like it yet. Before, when her account was still new, we were so happy we made one for her. That time,our uncle immediately sent a friend request and wrote something on her wall. Also, some of our cousins and aunts added her. She was also so happy that time. One of our cousins sent her a message but my sister was the one who typed our mother's reply. She also did the accepting of friend requests, uploading of pictures, and so on. This time,we are so busy too and we don't live with our mother. We couldn't open her account that much. Maybe, there are already a lot of friend requests that my sister isn't able to accept yet. It's okay, maybe next time, if we are all together again, we could open it again and tell our mother about the people who wanted to add her and the messages sent to her. I also love my mother so much. I think a lot of people would like to add her as a friend because she was a teacher before and she is really kind. :)
@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
8 Aug 12
hi there... we have things in common pertaining to the facebook account or our mothers. they like the idea to have contacts with their love ones, relatives, friends but the problem is they do not know how to use use it. well really, what refrain them to learn such even they are being taught step by step process, now they would be able to get it and thereafter forget it all. they do not have strong retention in terms of technology. well, i guess the thought that they cannot do it because it is so hard to learn this kind is one factor why they do not sit in a day and learn to explore. they are interested and like it but the problem is they do not have guts to do it. so and so
thanks for joining into this kind discussion ;)
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@jugsjugs (12967)
•
7 Aug 12
My mum also got her own laptop when she was in her 60s.I had to show her how to use it, as well as that, I book marked her favorite sites that she also liked going on.
Feeling that she can now master it all on her own is great, as now she do not have to call me or my husband to do all the things that she found hard to do.Now she is really good on it.
@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
12 Aug 12
your mom is truly awesome because i met plenty of their age level or much younger of 50 but had a hard time in learning how to use computers. i guess because they do not have a strong retention about the matter. too bad if like this, because nowadays, it seems that knowing the maze of doing computer works and operating it is already essential to lessen the burden of works, to get a cheaper communication rates; like what you said that your mother used to call you and your husband, and lastly; we can have works online - like what we are doing right now. it is good when the individual is willing to learn and to embrace new trends in life. :)


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@shynepapin101 (1879)
• United Arab Emirates
7 Aug 12
Well, this is something I have never heard before, mothers over 55 years of age having facebook account, quite interesting I must say. Though for most of them it is really not advisable except all children are so far apart and away from her then there is a need to have one but in the case that I can still see her at least once a week then I would just be working myself off on her profile and account, wanting everything to be perfect. This is something I wouldn't do because my facebook alone is time consuming and thus adding someone else's facebook to mine will drive me nuts.
If mothers could be IT conversant, it would be good but my mother despite being in her early 50s is not even interested in the internet although she likes such development but finds it hard to comprehend how the thing works, she ask, gets answers and slight tutoring but she still can't handle anything that has to do with internet by herself, even texting is sometimes difficult for her but she is gaining grounds on that one.
I don't see the point why your mother should have a facebook account when you have to manage it for her and help her relate with her friends on it, it is meaningless because social networking profiles are personal and it would be useless if we can't handle it ourselves.
@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
8 Aug 12
no, its not useless. i must disagree. even i am the one who manages her facebook all, she was still updated and when something is going on, i told her the news and will seat beside. she is the one who coached me what to do. so it is better to be like that than she have nothing. well, she have lots of friends that not my friend. try to figure the importance for having a facebook and from not having at all. still she will get informed and can receives messages and being relayed to her. well, it is our choice and we want it like that to make her happy because of the updates. i cannot find any problem about that.
thanks for sharing your opinion
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@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
7 Aug 12
my mother has a facebook account too. she uses it to communicate with her work friends and our relatives. I like it that my mom is up to date with the technology but then I must also be careful with what I post because mom might have a violent reaction to it 

@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
7 Aug 12
- if both of you have fb accounts, well, you try to behave and be careful what to post in there or else, your mom will react to it. it is either you will like or dislike it. my mom has no talent to this kind of technology and no amour to perform harder to learn further. she is contented with her cellphone where she contacted her friends, families and such. 
@anusha2128 (886)
• India
8 Aug 12
my mother does not have facebook account also she did not have any knowledge regarding computer.But my father had knowledge regarding this.by seeing this discussion i got a idea of making a facebook account for my father and teach him some guidelines regarding this .thanks for starting this discussion my friend.
@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
12 Aug 12
wow, i love the idea that somehow i contributed that you will going to make a fb account to your mother. at least i serve for an unexpected purpose. i may inspired you to go and teach her, maybe she will like it and incline herself to your tutorials of using facebook. you know, most of the people joined this site for communication purposes. im sure, if she will know great things what would be the purpose of facebook, she will keep coming for more. thanks ")
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@skyandgrassplot (1497)
• China
7 Aug 12
I think your mother is quite fashion,lol.honestly,I even do not have time and mood to decorate my facebook,I mean,there are almost nothing in my facebook.I think facebook is a good thing for your mother cause as a retiree,something she will feel lonely but if she have facebook she can be more close to friends and relatives so she will get more fun,and I think may be you should teach your mother some computer skills so let her really enjoy the fun from facebook.
@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
8 Aug 12
she has a facebook alright, but we are are the one who opened for here. she will dictate us what to do and we will just bid to what she said. but giving here tips or advices what to do if necessary. so the facebook of my mom works like that. thanks
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@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
7 Aug 12
Our mom has her account too and like you, we also upload pictures for her, answer chats or private messages, etc. We are apart now so we don't check her account. She should be there before we open it. It's good to have Facebook so that we can still communicate with our loved ones working abroad or in far places, meet our old friends or our long-lost friends, etc. Happy myLotting!
@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
it is nice when each of our mothers would know how to use facebook. it can help us alot. from one thing to another. it is used for communicating too since most of the people logged to fb that is why we can communicate with our far away friends and relatives. thanks to fb and to you for participating in here :)
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@riyauro (6421)
• India
7 Aug 12
Well my mum is a kindergarten teacher and she has taken special computer classes to know the basic knowledge because of me since I am far away from her. But since we don't have computer at home in FIJI, mum is not that well versed. She needs practice. Now that she is in the city with my brother to baby sit his kid, she can get the grip.
I have my Dad's sister whose 3 children are in Australia and what they did is showed her how to use the basics and they they made a skype and the loud speaker. So she will get up and on the computer first, then she does her house work. If the son or daughter is online, she can here and she talks to them. She is in her 60s like you mum. It is nice to see them learning. thanks for sharing. have a wonderful day ahead. 

@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
good for your mom riyau... she tried hard to learn for not of their age can digest better learning about computers and everything attached to it. i know my mother can, but it will takes time to teach here such thing. maybe a hundred times before she can all familiarize the needed commands like before as she had her first 3g cellphone, she spent almost 30usd for prepaid loads before she got herself in knowing what to do in using it.
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@Raine38 (12387)
• United States
7 Aug 12
My mom is a fifty-something year old school teacher and like your mom, she has just learned all about computers and internet lately. At first we tried to introduce excel spreadsheets to her to aid in her grade computations like a breeze. She was so happy that something she does for days can now be done in a few hours. But the thing is, she's having a hard time remembering all those formula. She we devised a system for her that she will just fill in the proper cells without keying the numerous formula for each cell. Anyway, late last year, we decided to sign her up a Facebook account right after their class reunion to keep in touch with her friends who now live from all over the world. So far she's enjoying it but of course we have to patiently teach her the necessary privacy protection stuff.
@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
8 Aug 12
computer has a great purpose nowadays. it made our work easier, quicker and finer. but really, as this technology arises and so as the learning competencies of the teacher slows down and they became uncompetitive. why? they do not know how to use the gadget even they undergone workshops, trainings or seminars. it is because they found hardships in absorbing all even the basic commands being necessary in operating the computers. and most of them have age like of my mom - haha... but to name a few, there are teachers who knows and easy to be taught. but look at the kids of nowadays, even they are not being taught promptly, they will just seat in the front of the computer and exploring themselves and can learn quickly.
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oh yes, at least she tried her best to learn. but being forgetful all the time. she is our mother and we love her that is why whatever she is asking from us pertaining into this matter, were making it alright for her. 











