Eldest in the family must give way and understand the younger ones -always!

hi jai, I thought if you are the youngest you will be the one who will try to understand, give ways and do most of the errands miss yah

I am the 2nd! What you said is almost true. I got my elder brother, had to stop his studies for we the youngers and joined with my dad for the earnings. Still he studied as much helping dad. We had a jwlellery showroom and dad used to carry much of gold at night after closing the shop. As a company for him, he accompanied at the age of 14 and didn't complete his studies as desired. And even now he used to tell it with a lot of pain in his mind. Also, he tried all his best efforts to give all of us my 2 sisters and 1 younger brother also. And he had given a lot of courage to all of us for studies and all other things. My elder brother took a lot of responsibility also as being the eldest among all of us.

I'm not the youngest neither the eldest. When the youngest are still below 18, they sure need to follow their eldest siblings. When they reach a certain age, they have the freedom to decide for themselves. Being the eldest or the youngest doesn't matter anymore. Happy myLotting.

good day jaiho2009, same as you are, i am the eldest among the four siblings. as i have one brother and two more sisters. with reference to your main topic, my view for that is, it depends. if all of the siblings are already of age, then, i guess, it not always the eldest who should give way and understand. hence, it is a give and take relationship. as the youngest must also learn how to understand and give way to his/her older siblings. well, just like what is happening here in my end, since i am the eldest, my mom and the rest of my household want me to give a full understanding to my brother which is second from me. but, i refuse to since for me he is old enough to understand the situation. and, he has his own family now, so must act responsively in every bits of his life. as a result, we end up in arguments and fighting, which is not going any good at all.

It is not that way and neither it is any rule. It is all how things are managed in your family. I was never asked to compromise because I was the eldest. I did because I wanted to do those compromises. Neither I have ever been followed by anyone in my family - not because I wasnt able but because the others were abler. My younger brothers and sisters never had to compromise or feel anything big about me. It was the simplicity that we were taught about. The love and care we were taught about and also the sharing. Whenever anything good came into the house (like a toy or a cake or even a choco) we all shared it in equal parts or if we did feel that someone liked the choco more, s/he would be given double the share. So the whole idea is crap. It is how you feel and are brought up. I dont deny that in many Indian and other families, the first male or the eldest has some special previleges, but our family had none and I am proud of it.

I am the eldest in the family too. I have two siblings and I do admit that sometimes I am more childish than my siblings. I don't mind if they don't obey me all the time as I understand that every person has the right to choose what to do. What I demand from my siblings though is utmost RESPECT. With that I'm already so happy.

hi jaiho when we start to carve these sayings like the eldest has to alwaysdo do and so for t he y oungest and the youngest must' always abide by what the eldest sa ys ev en when its darned'illogical. iT WOULD be better to understand each child and then guide accordingly as a parent."Sometimes the youngest are more correct than the oldest. by being rigid parents and the oldest miss opportunities to let each person in the family grow at their own speed.I was the oldest of us two but my younger sister was mentally retarded, spoiled and bab ied and if she tore something up that belonged to me it was forgiven and I was scolded for being unkind. "So I learned that I did not really matter mu ch in the scheme of our family so it was easy to strike out on my ownand I had sort of been alone anyway. i was always kind to my younger sister bu t I felt at times that she should have been reprimanded for deliberately being destructive of things that did not belong to her. B ut as she when grown proved to be destructive of my own family I finally wrote her off. It was her or my husband and my husband was not at fault.I think each child in the family should be guided by the type of child they are not by the oldest has to always care for the youngest I know having worked in a h o spital all my life that many retarded youngsters still are taught right and wrong and are disciplined for their wrong doings.

hi jaiho, i am the eldest among the siblings for my parents, we are four but i never overpower them in any thing,but actually my father and mother caring my family ,so did not face burden with them or any hesitation with them in any way, and i even i does not take the response of the family also, my next brother is looking and controlling the family,due to that he brilliant and income generator after my father,have a nice day.

My youngest son. I didn't make my sisters as role models. My sisters would often seek advice from me.

I am the eldest, I am also the youngest. :) So I dont have any role to play. :) I think our brains do not grow in preordained pattern. Just because I am older, it is not necessary that I will be able to understand things better. I might develop that understanding a few years down the lane, based on some personal experience or watching or reading. Doesnt help if I have taken a wrong decision before, does it? Especially if the younger sibling had bad experience and learnt about such things before me. So there should be no ego about I am older, I know better. You are younger, you stay put. We each learn from our experiences along the way, and become double mature may be. :)

All of the kids are naturally born with an attitude that puts them in the center. That is being an egocentric . If someone is born thoughtful and not egocentric , this is wrong. The small children need to take care only about themselves because they can't afford to also care about the others , they need to grow up , get more food , learn about what is being a part of the society , it takes time to understand we live among many people with the same needs like we got. That's why children are egocentric , they need to learn to know better. As an elder , you have the right responsibility to show them that if one is not egocentric , the love comes back to him seven fold , everyone will appreciate him and he will be happy to see he is not the center but he is a part of the community , he can help. You can make a good example to your little brothers or even everyone that is younger around you.

Hi, I am the youngest in my family with 2 brothers & a sister. I always got pampered and more freedom to do things my way. May be that is due to being a smart kid. No dear, that is due to the age difference between me and my elders. I have always respected their decision taken for me whenever I approached them with my problems. And I am happy they did include my suggestions and never sidelined my emotions/views as well. I never felt that being a little one had ever bothered me. In fact the elders have encouraged me to be more independent than them.

Now these days very difficult to understand the sibilings they dont want to heard us. They feel that is good what they are doing but actual we know that is not good. Mostly effects of TV. But to maintain all these this is necessary to seat with them and communicate with them and understand what they want to say and then put our points.

Jai, i am elder to my brother and younger to my sister. Most of the time the elders are in need to face all the responsibilities, parents also believe their elder son/daughter a lot compared with the younger ones, surely elder person have a lot of responsibilities about family.

my dear... it doesn't always happen that way. i'm the seventh of 8 siblings but i think and act more responsibly than our eldest. my eldest sister is and always has been the most dependent of us all. some of us had to grow up quickly beyond our years. i think regardless of age and order of birth... it is more about the person's emotional and psychological maturity and being a responsible individual.

I'm the oldest of seven children. I also weigh the most so sometimes my siblings get mad at me for introducing myself to their friends as their 'big sister' Lol I hadn't thought of it being a reference to my weight till they pointed it out. All my life I always thought of myself as the 'big sister' so I'm more careful now when I meet their friends. But, I don't talk to most of my siblings. One has passed away and many of the others only want me to be the older sister when it is advantagous to them. I can't play that game.

Just like you i am the eldest too, amongst my 4 sisters. And because i am the eldest, i am always careful in giving my advices to them, specially when one or two have grudges with each other. I weigh things carefully, praying that my advices will be for the betterment of each one.

I am the youngest in my adoptive family and from my bio family I am number 12 of 14. I think your place in family has some effect on life but even though I am the youngest in my adoptive family all of my brothers were having kids of their own when my parents got me so in a way I grew up a only child with much older siblings.

I am the youngest in my family, but I've been living with a 6 and 3 year old for about a year now and it does seem a rule that the older child give way to the younger child. I understand in a way because a younger child does need more attention and can't necessarily do for himself what the older child can.

I am not the youngest nor the eldest but i am the third to the last sibling. It just so sad that our tradition is like this , eldest siblings got more power than us younger one. I am strongly not favor to this because as far as i am concern , all siblings must be in equal footing. Not because you came out first , then you are more powerful than younger ones , this is so unfair ! Al must have equal rights and opportunities at home and parents must not be the leader of such unfairness , because it is been practice that eldest sibling is the favorite of the parents. This is very humiliating to other siblings , this can cause conflict and trauma to other sibling.