Who will pay the bills?

Bills - electric bills,gas bills
South Korea
August 20, 2012 3:45am CST
Hello mylotters friend, i dont know what to do. my husband come home, and he give me a bills, he ask me to pay the bills,i ask him about the bills.he said to me that his mothers house is his property, and now that my mother inlaw passed away he will be the one to pay the bills. my point is, why he will pay the bills? we never stay there his brother must pay the bills cause he stay there with his children how come we will pay the bills..and that make me mad at my husband..do you think we have to pay the bills? i need your opinion mylot friends.
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14 responses
• Philippines
21 Aug 12
I could understand why your husband might offer to pay for the house. Perhaps because his brother isn't as capable of paying and because it might be bigger trouble if they lose the house and have no where to go. But paying for the entire property on his own seems unfair to your and believe it or not, it is also unfair for his brother. Why? His brother already has a family, and so do you. His brother knows what it is like to raise a family, and that means if he has trouble keeping within the budget, his family is not the only one who's experiencing that but other families as well. Paying for the property will allow him to become a freeloader, and not exert effort on his part. He should at least pay part of the house, no matter how hard. It is his responsibility. If he didn't have a brother to help him, he would probably lose the house altogether. Since this is both you and your husband's money, you should also get a say in the decision. It may be his brother that you're helping, but you are also part of the family, a very big integral part of the family. Your decision counts too, and if you're going to help pay for this house, at least just pay for part of it, not everything.
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@alkemyst (26)
• Canada
21 Aug 12
You're all family, and he might just be looking out for his brother. But if his brother can afford to pay, he should be responsible. If he's not, then your husband should give him a deadline to move and then he can sell of your mother in law's place.
@webzap (885)
• Philippines
21 Aug 12
No no no no no no . . . you nor your husband are not supposed to pay that bills not unless it is just a one-time help to defray some expenses incurred while your in-law was in a wake. For goodness sake, I won't do that myself.
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@Bhebelen14 (5202)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
Hi marketing07, i think his brother need to pay the bills since he and his family living in your mother in law house and they are the one consuming all the electric, water and other things. Your husband is very kind in taking care of his brother bills but he also need to consider that he already married, has a family and has an own bills too. Better to let his brother to take care his own bills so thst he will learned how to manage money.
• South Korea
20 Aug 12
yes, thats true ..thats my point but my husband is too good to his brother and thats im always telling him..thank you
• Philippines
21 Aug 12
Thank you so much for the best response.
@alicia812 (648)
• Australia
21 Aug 12
Hi there. Since it is his brother's family who lives in that house and use all the household utilities, your husband's brother should pay the bills. However, to avoid fights with your husband, just talk to him in a calm manner. Perhaps he had a previous talk with your brother-in-law wherein your husband offered help.
• South Korea
21 Aug 12
yes,ive already told my husband about it,he promise me that he wont do that again..
@Angelpink (4022)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
Don't pay those bills , tell them but say it in a very , cool manner, anything can be talk. Speak to them in a very gently way.
• South Korea
21 Aug 12
yes, your right..thanks
@SomeCowgirl (32256)
• United States
20 Aug 12
Honestly is your brother in law still young and is his family struggling? Maybe your husband wants to help your brother in law out. Maybe he promised his mother that he would help his brother out. I don't think it's fair that you and your husband have to pay the bills, but that's my opinion on only the little bit I have read. I don't know the whole story. If you are concerned maybe you could ask your husband why you and he have to pay the bills for a house tht your brother in law and his family now reside?
• South Korea
20 Aug 12
hi, my brother inlaw is an older brother of my husband...i dont mined if my husband will help his brother, but his brother will get used to it.and he will always depend to my husband while he's enjoying his life.
@Raine38 (9201)
• United States
20 Aug 12
First of all, who's name is the property under. Second, whoever lives there, uses the utilities and basically resides there and have full use of the property are deemed to be the ones who enjoyed the privileges of said property. And as such, they also have the responsibility for it, including the payment of bills and maintaining the property, which in this case is his brother.
• South Korea
20 Aug 12
yea thats right..thanks
• India
20 Aug 12
Really it is not your duty to pay it but any how you have to do it because you husband had asked you to do it. I think it is better to pay this for the last and final time to avoid the conflicts arising for this issue and make him to understand why himself is paying the bill.
• South Korea
20 Aug 12
yes, your right my friend thank you
@krupesh (2608)
• India
20 Aug 12
A BIG NO...its your hubby's brother who should pay the bills...but dont fight with your hubby right now...if this is the only time he is going to pay then leave the matter here itself
• South Korea
20 Aug 12
thank you..
@asliah (11144)
• Philippines
29 Dec 12
hi, at home the most who pay the bills are the parents but when their child grow enough and have the ability to pay then they will have now participation at home,when i was a kid my mother always pay bills but when i grow up and have work,i am now pay our electric bill.
• Canada
28 Aug 12
I agree with you. The burden of payment should rest on the people who live there.
@Blondie2222 (23778)
• United States
20 Aug 12
I believe it should be your brothers responsibility to pay the bills because he's the one that lives there not you or your husband. I can understand if he needs help to pay them, but he should man up and pay the bill and take care of the house. Don't argue with your husband about it just talk to him nicely and talk to your brother and ask him why he is not paying the bills when he lives there, it should be his share in duties. Good luck
@mermaidivy (15404)
• United States
20 Aug 12
I am very glad that my husband is a responsible man, he always pays the bills and make sure everything is right. I don't blame you that you get mad at your husband... I remember something like this had happened to my parents and my mother wasn't thrilled about it for a bit and it turned into fights sometimes which is sad because of the money... However, we have a saying in our country is no money no talk so... it is the way life is unfortunately...