I was just thinking......

@ladygator (3465)
United States
September 2, 2012 1:53pm CST
I was looking through my friends and deleting the ones that had a small number of discussions. How often do you check in your friends list and take people off? And how do you decide to remove them? I figure that if they have under 100 posts or just a little over it, then they are probably not an active member.
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@visavis (5934)
• Philippines
2 Sep 12
Is there any big problem to you if those friends of you are not really active for some reasons - what are your benefits if you can delete or off them.. I think not really good mode who knows that after you deleted them they become active so in the case might be they are angry or sad to you.. Let it be I think
@ladygator (3465)
• United States
2 Sep 12
I was thinking it doesnt matter because after 3 months they have to restart their whole account. And since 3 of them were under 20 they are off mylot. That way I can be sure to pay good attention to the ones I have a regular relationship with.
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@ladygator (3465)
• United States
2 Sep 12
Hatley, Thats more of what I am getting at, someone that has nothing in common with me. And have not posted once after several months. I didnt create this post as a negative but I guess thats how its coming out. But the people that I am talking about are ones that I accepted like a year ago an have had no interactions at all. If you dont post at all for three months in a row, at least thats what I had thought. I might be wrong. But I did go inactive at once point I am not sure how long I was off but I just didnt come here. I had to restart my account.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Sep 12
hi ladygator why after 3 months do they have to restart their whole account? I have been here going on five years and have my own account,the same one I started with.I have started not to add those who are in their teens as they do not have much in common with me. but i dislike just chopping off a lot of friends 'who may just be at work or had some problems but will be back as soon as they can,
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@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
2 Sep 12
I never check my friends. ever and never removed for me they are all my friends and once they've accepted the friendship because I ace it to remove inactive sorry but it's true. I'm not very active here and so I can not afford to remove someone from my list. nice day!
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@ladygator (3465)
• United States
2 Sep 12
You are much more active than many. You have almost 3000 posts! I only delete when it seems that they are not a member any more.
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
2 Sep 12
I think I need to do it again as it's been a long time....so I think right now I'll go check out the friends list and delete a couple...
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@ladygator (3465)
• United States
2 Sep 12
lol. I wont delete people that I share discussions with. There was only like 4 and some only have like 10 and its been like that for a really long time. I often wonder why they come and request and then never do anything here. Unless its not fun to them. I jus dont know.
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@prashu228 (37525)
• India
3 Sep 12
i never thought like that, every one, has their time, its not compulsory that we should com here every day , i come here when ever i get free time, this not the source of income for me, i never deleted anyone from my friends list till now, even if they reply or don't reply to my discussions
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@ladygator (3465)
• United States
3 Sep 12
I guess its just a way of cleaning up my list. Kinda like how you clean your house and organize things so that you know what you have and its just neat and tidy. I read today about how mylot will take your earnings after 90 days, so I guess its kinda like that its something just hanging out there. I also see it as being cautious about people that might have other reasons for requesting my friendship.
@prashu228 (37525)
• India
3 Sep 12
even though i joined here, 10 months back, i am active only from few months , may be from four or five months, before that i only joined the site but didn't see what the site is all about for five months, that too i joined here all by myself.
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@deazil (4723)
• United States
4 Sep 12
I have been considering this lately, but I haven't had friends for that long. I think I should wait quite a bit longer. But the friends I would consider deleting are those whose discussions I've responded to, they comment once or twice, then send a friend request, I accept and continue responding to their discussions, never to receive another comment from them. It makes me wonder if they only wanted to generate responses to their topics. One that I know of knows that she will be rewarded for commenting, and still seldom comments to me or anyone else. But the others, not sure. They start discussions then disappear. Why bother to friend me if you're not even interested in what I have to say? I try to put quality in my responses, I don't generally dash off a quick thought off the top of my head. This takes time. I would rather respond when I think I might at least get some small acknowledgement. Or, I could be wrong.
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@ladygator (3465)
• United States
9 Sep 12
This is the best response with the most logic behind it. I can see your point completely and the idea that they might be swiping other peoples comments to start their own is something that I had not thought of. But that like using the friends to spam are both a concern to me.
@deazil (4723)
• United States
9 Sep 12
Thank you very much ladygator, for the BR. A lot of the friends I have are more established, senior members. So no fear of being spammed there. But I just got a friend request from someone I don't even know, have never seen or responded to any of her discussions. Possibly she read a comment of mine and liked it but none of her discussions are anything I'm even remotely interested in. She's been a member for 6mos. I don't get it. And thanks for the comment!
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
3 Sep 12
having friends in here would be so important. they are our partner as we interchange ideas and conversations as we lay our thoughts of a certain matter and expanding its horizon or elaborating it to make it more understandable.for my own opinion, there would be no way why i should delete them because they do not have higher level of participation. i will just leave them like that maybe time will come that they want to be active in mylot. for that i am not giving any closure for them. well, all of it was being based on my own desire and likings. :0)
@ladygator (3465)
• United States
4 Sep 12
I think that you must be a very nice person. You seem that you are the type of person that always believes the best in everyone. You are right that people have a very important role in our lives.
@ladygator (3465)
• United States
9 Sep 12
Oh I am sure I wont regret it at all. I dont think that these people think twice about me. I would not delete the people that I share a friendship with here now. I have figured out by the recommendation of another member to go and visit the persons page to see if they are just starting out and are building their community.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
6 Sep 12
thanks to you. no not so nice at all. just tried to be one, for we are just passers in this life. at least if not making things perfectly, but striving harder how to straightened our shortcomings. but thanks for your confidence towards me... grateful about on what you say.. good luck, i hope you can figure out what your want to do upon this matter without regretting at the end. :)
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@GardenGerty (157699)
• United States
2 Sep 12
I remove people who post spam to me. I remove people when they keep posting something I know nothing about. When I go to my friend list and find the correct page for those friends, I usually look around and if I do not remember ever seeing anything from a particular user, I will delete them. So, when I go to deliberately delete someone, I usually take out ten or more others who are inactive, because I am there. I will not take the time otherwise to weed them out.
@ladygator (3465)
• United States
2 Sep 12
GardenGerty, Exactly!! You understand what I am saying. And for this specific reason I have become much more specific in who I friend. I love friends, but I love to communicate with them also!! Have a good evening.
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
2 Sep 12
I have never done that , I had people that seems to be active and who are also new because I also recently start using my account . I had this account so long and I have never used until this summer . I was just trying to register and notice my email is in used ... But since then I have been active as they come .
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@ladygator (3465)
• United States
2 Sep 12
You have such a cool name and a profile pic that I would not delete you if you were on my list. This is actually the first time ever that I have deleted anyone the whole time I have been on mylot.
• United States
3 Sep 12
I don't accept friend requests from any member with too low of a number. I also usually don't respond to posts by members who have a really low number. My general threshold is 500; if someone has reached that point, I figure that they are both active and not a spammer. I've never actually weeded my friends list. I probably should, though, since I know that not everyone on my list is still an active member here on the site. It's just that I never get around to it, because I like to spend my time on myLot responding to discussions. Then, I get distracted by other things outside of the site and... well, weeding just does not happen, and even getting around to approving new friend requests can take a while for me.
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@ladygator (3465)
• United States
5 Sep 12
I see with this post that you understand what I am saying completely! I am even the same about accepting requests. Sometimes I wait just to see if the person has been doing anything or is just selecting people at random. Which like yourself makes me wonder of their motives.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
3 Sep 12
I have done it every few months. What is annoying to me is that I have received frfiendship requests from people who have not even answered one of my posts. So I still accept them and then they still do not respond to me but expect me to answer their posts. Why ask to be a friend when you really have no intention of being one? You are quite right in assuming that a small number of people are no longer actove. I usually go to their profile before deleting to see if they are active or not.
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@ladygator (3465)
• United States
4 Sep 12
I completely agree with you! It doesnt make sence for someone to want to be your friend if they dont want to give that back. If its a constant ignoring then they cant blame it on time. Especially if they want you to post back to them.
@MandaLee (3758)
• United States
2 Sep 12
Hi, I don't delete anyone from my friends list. However, if the person is not active, I might think about deleting them. To delete a friend, just put a checkmark in the box that says, "Delete." I hope that helps.
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@ladygator (3465)
• United States
2 Sep 12
Good Evening MandaLee, Yes, thats how I did it. And I also made sure that notifications were on for the ones that are regulars in my discussions and the ones that I respond to. These are not people that its been like a week, but several months to almost a year or more. So keeping them on there really doesnt make any difference as far as I can see. I worry about fishing of my profile and like another said trying to send me spam.
@marguicha (215992)
• Chile
2 Sep 12
I do that too, but rather centering in those friends that have not logged in in the past 6 months. I accept some people who have less than 100 posts, but check specially on their profile to see if they have posted here and also what kind of discussions have they made or answered.
@ladygator (3465)
• United States
2 Sep 12
Good Evening marguicha, This makes perfect sense. One thing that I have been doing is waiting to friend them if the discussion is low and if after a month or more no more discussions are made then I wont approve. I do this mainly on the ones that I have not had any discussion with and the name is unfamiliar. If I have shared a discussion I will approve right away.
• India
3 Sep 12
Hi friend, good to know that you are organizing your friends list, i will check out my friends list once in a while and delete the inactive person, if some persons send me spamming messages and unwanted links, i will remove them instantly from my list
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@ladygator (3465)
• United States
4 Sep 12
Yes, thats my reasoning. I am pretty sure that they could really care less about me removing them. The spamming thing really gets me mad.
3 Sep 12
thanks for this for this information because i have just join
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@ladygator (3465)
• United States
3 Sep 12
Your welcome. I am sure that I will be sharing discussions with you then. I look forward to seeing posts from you.
@sophonia (10)
3 Sep 12
i too some time delect friends on m y friends list but not here on toher site
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