What can I say I was given responsibility unlike you
By 911Ricki
@911Ricki (13588)
Canada
September 3, 2012 12:42pm CST
This girl I went to high school with added me to Facebook. I was nice enough to add her to my friends list.
Mind you I havent really talked to anyone I went to high school with. Usually this is why I ignore them all.
She sent me a message asking how I was , what Ive been up too. I just told her the bsaics, until she goes your not married, no kids. Suddenly the world is better than me, and I have no purpose in this world.
She had said she just got married, and I congrats. How they are planning in having kids, and she doesnt work but her husband does.
So clearly my purpose in life is to depend on a man, have a pile of kids, then die. What a purpose I say.
She goes well your attitude wont get you a man, you need to settle down, get married and have kids thats your life, not trying to do it on your own. Yet, she doesnt drive, depends on a man to pay everything (without him she has basically nothing not even a single piece of food), and no education.
I just ignored her, I dont care what she does, but I will never lower myself to those standards. If I want to support myself, and do my own thing who cares. Now shes sending message after message saying no wonder Im not married, and no kids I wont go anywhere in this world. I sent her back a message and told her clearly she jealous of me since Im not dependent on a man, I can pay my own way and have for years, I know responsility and deal with problems without someone else holding my hand doing so, and have an education and by her repeatedly sending me messages shes trying to make herself feel better.
I deleted her, and blocked her I dont have time to put up with this crap. I think I need to move out of this area, I swear people around here are crazy. Clearly, by the age of 24 I should be married, with 6 kids trailing behind me,not working, and being dependent on a man. Guess Ill be single for the rest of my life, since I will never get that low that all my life is, is a man and without hiim Im nothing give me a break.
6 responses
@GardenGerty (157661)
• United States
3 Sep 12
Seems like most of the people you know have traveled the same time warp to the fifties again. I was raised somewhat like that, that there was going to be a man come along to take care of me. However, my man was raised by a strong and competent woman and I made a lot of progress, because he traveled for his job. I read somewhere that in the late sixties and early seventies when women went to college they were directed into "Liberal Arts" majors, as they would not be losing much when they got married.
Being married is great, so is being independent. They are not mutually exclusive, believe me.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
5 Sep 12
I got married when I was twenty-four years old, but my daughter was born when I was twenty-two years old. I worked two jobs almost the entire time that I was pregnant with Kathryn. I stayed at home full time with her until she was four months old and then started working part time and going to school. By the time that she was nine months old, I was working full time again. I supported myself (yes, my future husband was working full time as well) until my son was born when Kathryn was almost four years old. At that point, it made more sense for me to stay at home with my children because I would have been paying almost as much for daycare as I would have been able to make working a job.
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
Oh, she can't tell you what to do. Maybe you're still enjoying being single. Don't mind her anymore. Deleting and blocking her is the best way not to come across with her in Facebook. We have different purposes in our lives. I can't still say my exact purpose in life. I have some but I guess I can't do them all but I'm trying my best. Just live your life and enjoy every moment of it. May you be blessed with good friends not bad ones. Happy mylotting.
@moneywinner (1864)
• Brazil
3 Sep 12
That sounds like a crazy girl! 
24 years old, for me, is too young to be married and already have babies. I'm 24 years too and the picture of be married with childrens sounds so distant for me. Of course one day I'll want that, but for me this is a time for we enjoy life. I have to say that she is completely on the minority part of the girls with 24's years, because I only have one friend that have a children and it was because she got a unwanted pregnancy when she was 17. All the others girls are working or in college..
Nowadays, we can't depend of a men anymore, we have all the opportunities to win our own money that for me sounds kind an absurd to see a girl wanting to be only a housewife that depends completely of her husband money.
24 years old, for me, is too young to be married and already have babies. I'm 24 years too and the picture of be married with childrens sounds so distant for me. Of course one day I'll want that, but for me this is a time for we enjoy life. I have to say that she is completely on the minority part of the girls with 24's years, because I only have one friend that have a children and it was because she got a unwanted pregnancy when she was 17. All the others girls are working or in college..
Nowadays, we can't depend of a men anymore, we have all the opportunities to win our own money that for me sounds kind an absurd to see a girl wanting to be only a housewife that depends completely of her husband money.
@Lingling89 (88)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
What a rude attitude! I guess she has some attitude problems and she hasn't achieved something that's why she's just making herself feel good. She is in denial that her life is good. She is really jealous of you because you still got your freedom, you earn well, and can do anything you want. I also those people who boast too much and think of themselves so high without looking first in the mirror. These people are just so insecure. You are still young and you have years ahead of you. Don't worry. Just enjoy life, you know. Haters gonna hate but it's you who's gonna decide with your choices in life. We may not know what may be ahead of you tomorrow, or the next week, or month, or years. Things happen at the right time and place. You are one, strong, and independent woman. :)
