Being too happy...

September 11, 2012 4:45pm CST
My friends have been telling me that I smile too much and that I need to talk more. I'm the kind of person that just likes to sit back and observe everything. I'm really quiet and my friends tease me about it. The problem is that I like being quiet. I like listening to other people and I like smiling :) I'm shy but I make a great listener. Is there something wrong with that? haha i wonder if i should start frowning all the time and see if that makes my friends feel better. So anybody have any advice? Is it bad to be happy? Or being quiet because I like to listen rather than talk?
6 responses
@TheScupp (102)
• Finland
12 Sep 12
I'm exactly like you! :) It's nice to know that I'm not only one who is quiet listener. I think it's good to be first quiet and listen because often those who says all things they think gets marked somehow. I'm pretty quiet often because I don't really speak about same things like my friends but I like to listen them. But there's nothing wrong with it. At least I don't see anything wrong there!
12 Sep 12
haha that's great to know there's someone that agrees with me :) i like to listen to my friends talk and sometimes i'm just quiet because i like to think. I don't mind talking but speaking my mind is intimidating sometimes that's why i don't like pushing myself into a conversation i'd rather wait for someone to talk to me so i can respond :) i would rather just observe things which of course my friends think is silly but it's okay. I guess i don't see anything wrong there either :)
@suhas52 (26)
• India
12 Sep 12
There is nothing bad in you. But you should also express your feelings and opinions. That will spread your internal happiness to others around you. The communication is two way process. So go on! Try to express yourself verbally.
12 Sep 12
You make a really good point :) I'm just really bad at communicating my feelings with others... I find it hard to use my voice sometimes. As a matter of fact, when i try talking normally, to myself I feel like I sound fine but to other people i'm really quiet and I usually have to repeat myself. Communicating is one of my weaknesses unfortunately.
@alicia812 (646)
• Australia
12 Sep 12
Hi csangela. I am exactly like you. However, smiling most of the times is something that I have just recently learned to do. that is because I am the serious type. Realizing that smiling makes other people happy, even a stranger, makes me happy as well. That was when I started to smile more. I am a very good listener too like you.
12 Sep 12
I love smiling :) i think it's great that when i smile at a stranger they usually smile back. When someone smiles at me I just automatically smile even if i don't know why. I think smiling really makes people's day and it's so simple to do. I love making people happy too... so i guess i'm just fine the way i am. :)
• India
14 Sep 12
Of course not. You should stick to what you do as far as you feel yourself correct. In fact it is great to be a listener. Whatever I could guess from your lost hasn't made me support your friends from any view of imagination. Many people like to be like the way you are. I am one of them. It reflects maturity. And then it is said that you are given two ears and one mouth so accordingly you should speak half of what you listen.
• United States
13 Sep 12
Being a good listener is a great skill that not many people posses. And I ensure you it will come in handy. Evidently your friends are not all like you. Being talkative isn't everyones strong suite. Without good listeners, who would those talkers have to talk to? And as for being happy, I didn't know there was such a thing as too happy? I would love to be able to smile all the time, and I would embrace it. Its a wonderful thing to be happy, and to not let the world tear you down, so don't let your friends either! Even though they're you're friends doesn't mean they will always relate to you. You have to be yourself, and be the way you want to be. Never give up your smile for anyone!
• United States
14 Sep 12
I don't think it's bad at all. I would think it would be a problem if you talked TOO much, (: i am the same way i just sit back and listen and sometimes i hear things i would rather not hear (:. i think more people need to be like you, because sometimes you may overhear something that needs to be told to authorities if someone says they are going to hurt themselves or even others. And don't worry about smiling too much spread your joy, smiling attracts people too you they see you're friendly i hope this helps keep on smiling (: