Do you still send call and text messages your exes?

break up - breaking up s hard to do
@flower21 (765)
Philippines
September 11, 2012 9:57pm CST
Yes, if they are still my friends and when we separate we made agreement to still made contact with each other. especially when we do not hurt each other too much by breaking up. We would act as normal even though their times the good memory still comes back. Otherwise, the break up is bad. I would not make any effort to make any communication to him. Do you still communicate with your ex?
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@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
12 Sep 12
Hi flower21, i treated my ex's as my friends but we do not have any chance to talk again after the break up because that's was best for us and there's nothing to talk about. We better to move on in our life and more focus on our present and future life. Also for me, better not to communicate with them anymore because i am very happy with my husband and he deserve my loyalty, love and honestly.
@flower21 (765)
• Philippines
14 Sep 12
yes that the correct attitude for every relationship that goes wrong. both need to end it and move on. such as find other better things to do than thinking repetitively why the break up happen when both could not settled the differences especially when both fall out of love. when both of you find as partner then life would not be the same again as both would be busy with there on family.
@challs12 (548)
• Malaysia
12 Sep 12
I don't think I would contact her if it is not because of a very important reason. I think it's not proper and doesn't serve any purpose to get connected after we decided to break up. Unless we coincidentally met, then I will not running away from looking and smile at her. But to have a chat I think it's not necessary.
@flower21 (765)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
yes, that true he may think you still chase him or her. this plan to contact any exes keep a person may be interpreted as a sign of despair and for the other part to think is a very desperate to make another move so just to seduce her in any possible ways whatever seen as effective. and a simple smile just a recognition of your exes as you mention since t is rude to snob her when you bump with each other. whatever happen in the past even a bad break up should not be taken by being rude when confronted.
@rsa101 (37932)
• Philippines
12 Sep 12
Well I guess it would be hard to have a very pleasant breakup. Most of the breakups do end up badly I believe. I think those few good ones are not so often that both parties would agree on breaking up. Stopping the communication lines would be best for one to move on and not confuse each other about the status they are in. It could also cause some misunderstanding if one of the parties is already committed with someone already.
@flower21 (765)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
very true in most cases are like that and they would going to hate each other in worst cases they even avoid bumping with each other in case they separate with still unsettled emotion. yes, cutting the communication with exes are the best solution to have a calms mind and avoid disguising each other with the hope to be reunited when there is no anymore reason such as both party love is gone.
• Philippines
12 Sep 12
If we were friends before we had a relationship, we would still be friends even after the relationship. If we were not close and not really friends before the relationshipm then there's no reason why we would still communicated with each other after the relationship. I'm still friends and I still communicate with my exes who were my friends from the start.
@flower21 (765)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
yes, that a right attitude, i would do the same things when we part in a good way with still understanding to still keep n touch with each other. maybe,bot close just like we had n the past. your understanding of friendship is nice and hopefully your exes would still manage to do the same things with you especially when your friends before you both become lovers.
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
12 Sep 12
I still have communication with them but I do try my best to limit it. I do not want my husband to be offended or might say something about it that will only cause problem in our marriage. I don't see anything wrong with communicating with a previous lover especially as long as you are very much aware of how you should both act and behave.
@flower21 (765)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
yes, that the proper way to handle exes. although, f husband s a sport type it is better to admit you still have to contact since this would really test f he trust you enough. while other couple might be easy on exes, the problem came when the wife or husband get jealous so any connection should stop or else their chance the couple would quarrel.
12 Sep 12
not anymore i lost contacts with him 11 years ago when we parted ways, the first year was hard because we were living in the same building and we almost see each other everyday, which is very hard. so I went back to the province to forget everything and move on.. :)
@flower21 (765)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
it s really sad to break up especially when you see each other. the worst when you still hope he would still court you or plan to change his mind to get together again. although, couple separate their still left love n them and inside their mind they still wish to get together when the only things that separate them were cause by other things not created by them. hopefully, you would get over and someone could replace hm in your heart. good luck in finding a new love.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
13 Oct 12
Well, I have been married now for almost 14 yrs. There are 2 guys I dated that I still keep in contact with from time to time, even got together with one of them, with my husband a couple of months ago when I was on vacation. I know a lot of people who try and stay friends. As long as it does not interfere with your next relationship or eventually marriage still being friends is usually ok.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
14 Sep 12
Today I don't call or exchange text messages with my exes. My husband is very jealous and he would find it extremely hard to accept any kind of contact between me and my exes. In the past one of my ex-boyfriends and I were friends after we broke up. We had both found new partners, but he wanted us to stay in touch as friends and he even suggested that we could meet and bring our new partners so that the 4 of us could be friends. That never happened, and our new partners didn't like the idea. Before I met my husband I had a long term relationship with another man. After our break-up we exchanged some messages and talked on the phone sometimes, but today we don't talk anymore.
• Portugal
13 Sep 12
me and one of my exes we are still friends. cause he was very sweet to me always. i feel happy talking to him. he is a good guy and we broke up not bcs his fault. but bcs something happened^^ anyway im still his friend and i think i will always be. he is part of my life. i think that only when i have a bf maybe then i cant talk as often as i talk with him now cause that can cause problems but our friendship will remain^^
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
12 Sep 12
Hi flower21, Nope I don't communicate with my ex anymore. I have tried my best not to communicate with him just to help myself moved on from all the hurt the relationship had caused me. I've heard about him and what he went through but I guess it is really too late now for him to fix everything. Coz if he really wanted too, he have done it before.
• India
13 Sep 12
Hi friend, i don't have any ex, but i agree with you, there is nothing wrong in communicating with ex and we can make a good friendship with them, if we both are interested in it.
• Philippines
12 Sep 12
Yes,most of my exes are my friends today though we don't talk really alot for we have our own lives right now. It's much better to see that you can still be friends with them. Withholding communication with them is like planting a grudge when it's much better to go on with life happily without any grudge. Usually for me, after a break-up, we don't have communication for months or a year but as time passes and we have learned to move on with ourselves, we get to talk how has been.
@Winike (65)
• Hungary
12 Sep 12
Worst idea ever , i regretted it and i will never do it again.
@babyeve (1048)
• Seychelles
27 Sep 12
I know it is a very bad practice to do so. I do it all the time and it always feel like we are still connected to each other sometimes although we just say that we are just friends. I guess some things are not easy to get over with and move on. Whenever I meet up with him I feel like jumping on him and giving him a big kiss. Anyway, everything happens for a reason. However, we broke up on good terms although he cheated and lie.
• India
12 Sep 12
You fall in love with a person , but later you part away, but that doesnt always mean that you should hate your ex. There can be reasons because of which you couldnt be good lovers. But maybe you can be very good friends. So I would say you have to always keep all your options open