How much do you believe that you are credible in giving advises?
By Metatronik
@Metatronik (6198)
Pasay, Philippines
September 12, 2012 8:21pm CST
Do you think when you give advises to other people especially to your friends, family and love ones it helps or works all the time?
How much do you think that you are credible enough in giving advises?
How much they accept your advises from you?
Is there any instances that because of their pride then they won't accept your advise especially if it will just contradict or not in favor to them?
Is there a time that you weren't able to give advises just because you think that you are not credible enough with that situation? What are the instances that it already happened?
Do you think giving advises is just easy?
Share with us your experience regarding this matter. Thank you. 
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10 responses
@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
I always play safe with things that i do. Hence, i don't give advice, if my opinion isn't sought of.
But when they ask for my advice , i advice based from what i experienced in life. And when i don't know so much about it, i wlll refuse to.
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@Metatronik (6198)
• Pasay, Philippines
17 Sep 12
It is really best if you give advise that is based from your experience in life so that they will picture what will happen. It might also as well change their mind on what to do.
I remember there was a teentalk forum that someone wants to make revenge. Since I've experienced doing that then I already gave her an advise that she should not do that then I've cited my examples which is my experience. Then when I also told her the result she was shocked of what I did that makes her decide or change her mind that she doesn't want to do that anymore because of what I did.
I can say my advise was effective. Unlike to the other who have posted like let the karma do it, she didn't easily change her decision.
I remember there was a teentalk forum that someone wants to make revenge. Since I've experienced doing that then I already gave her an advise that she should not do that then I've cited my examples which is my experience. Then when I also told her the result she was shocked of what I did that makes her decide or change her mind that she doesn't want to do that anymore because of what I did.
I can say my advise was effective. Unlike to the other who have posted like let the karma do it, she didn't easily change her decision.@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
That's very good , meta. At least, we were able to save them from experiencing the harrowing results of doing things that they may think is right, but in the long run , no. 
@jenny1015 (13359)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
When you give an advice to another person, it is showing them what you MIGHT do if you were caught up in the same situation but I am not always expecting them to follow my advice coz there may be other underlying circumstances too that I am not aware of.
I could have restrained myself on certain instances where in I have just decided to keep what I had in my mind and not say about it coz I might be wrong with I was thinking and I do not want to add more confusion to the problem at hand.
Giving advises is not that easy . I always see it as: you, who has a problem is in a big circle, around you is your whole life, people you love and all and all the problems that you have. You have direct contact with all of it. While me, as your friend, sees only what is in front of me. I am outside of that circle of yours. You feel different from what I feel. So no matter what your problem is, it is you who can only truly understand it and can be able to solve it.
@Metatronik (6198)
• Pasay, Philippines
15 Sep 12
I agree giving advises is not easy as people just had this guts of saying as if so easy to take it from them. Sometimes I don't feel sincerity but they just want projection and credit that they can talk to you like that.
@jenny1015 (13359)
• Philippines
16 Sep 12
Yes, I think that could be sometimes the reason or maybe there are people who just want to say something just for the sake of saying something when asked and not really care about what problems you have.
@Fulltank (2882)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
Yes, I sure can give advices to people around me. Advices such as family related matters, financial matters, growing up advices, how to raise a child, work related activities, etc. As long as the other person ask for it, then I'll be willing to give my advice. I think I am confident enough to render such advices based on my experience and logic.
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@mikyung (2232)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
That's why I give pieces of advise based on my previous experiences and others experiences. Though I often say, "you may consider this..." It's for the receiver to take or leave it. Also, I give advices when it is solicited. I sometimes give unsolicited ones but usually I'm not comfortable in giving. Though, I give opinions to current issues to my friends and relatives. Or to my friends that are being engage in love problem. I can open up and tell my humble opinion freely. Thanks
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@Metatronik (6198)
• Pasay, Philippines
17 Sep 12
That is right we should be humble and we must be civil and project that we are educated in giving advises. There is differences of giving advises and rebuttals. Sometimes when others are trying to give advises it just end up to argument that sometimes it will just lead the conversation to mess. There are others who are not totally sincere of giving advises. They just want to talk.
@deazil (4730)
• United States
13 Sep 12
One of my nieces asks me for advice a lot. She says I have very good advice and it works for her. She told me I am so wise.
I am not so wise, I have just been around longer than her and seen more of the way people are. It's called experience. If someone asks for advice I will give it if I think I can help. If I have no experience to base my advice on I will tell them that and tell them what I think I might do if it were me. I have had someone say to me (more than once) "I wish I had taken your advice". It's not always easy to give advice. But I know that no one has ever had a bad experience from taking my advice. I'm glad of that!
I am not so wise, I have just been around longer than her and seen more of the way people are. It's called experience. If someone asks for advice I will give it if I think I can help. If I have no experience to base my advice on I will tell them that and tell them what I think I might do if it were me. I have had someone say to me (more than once) "I wish I had taken your advice". It's not always easy to give advice. But I know that no one has ever had a bad experience from taking my advice. I'm glad of that!
@Metatronik (6198)
• Pasay, Philippines
17 Sep 12
Wow that is totally great on your part. You see you earn respect and trust so it means you are really proven as credible person to give advises. Good thing you also know that it is not easy to give advises. You are going to analyze the situation first and think what can be the best for them. The problem with other people doesn't really think and analyze when they thought they are just giving advise but the truth is they are just giving rebuttals which will end up the conversation as mess because of the so called advise giving. They don't want to understand the statement first before giving advises. Others are complaining that people are stubborn because they don't want to listen. Yes it is true there are indeed stubborn. But then they should observed themselves too if they were able to give the real advise. Have they challenged themselves giving advises to the people who are pride or ego?
@eklind (96)
• United States
13 Sep 12
I listen to my instincts when it comes to giving advice. I don't give as much as I once did because it reached the point where my friends were depending on me to tell them what to do and I couldn't focus on my own life. Subsequently, I focus on challenging myself now and publishing my thoughts rather than giving advice. As for what motivates people to not listen to good advice, it may not be pride or trust. It's his/ her choice and the fallout is on him/her. Any responsibility the adviser may feel is typically a distraction. Shake it off and live life free!
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@Metatronik (6198)
• Pasay, Philippines
17 Sep 12
Well that is what you still call the credibility why other people are not listening to the good advise and more so even that is right. I remember my Aunt told me how she wish she could have listen to her mother. But then I still realized though unfortunately I wasn't able to tell her, that how could she listen to her mother which is my grandmother if she has full of hatred. Definitely it is hard to take an advise from a person you know who is angry and full of hatred.
@chiyosan (30186)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
I haven't really thought about this as much as many others may have. People come to me and tell me their problems, most of the time i do not give advise if they do not ask me for my opinions... i know they are just venting out or is just sharingwhatever they have in their minds or whatever they feel they need to say just to voice out their burdens. I often really feel when someone comes to us they just need a listening ear and not really needing what we have to say so i try to not give out what i have in mind unless i was asked.
I feel sometimes though when it comes to experiences, i have had my own but it is still different for all of us and there can never be same things as we have different views, opinions and experiences.
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@Metatronik (6198)
• Pasay, Philippines
17 Sep 12
That is good thing about being a listener. That is what other don't realize that there are times we just have to listen and not to try make advises. Because sometimes if you try to make advises when they were just venting out and not asking for it, instead that you were able to help the truth is it becomes crap and a reflection that a person you talk to is not the one should be trusted. They thought they are sensible but then it is becoming non sense. Otherwise the person who is talking would not be comfortable when venting out because it interrupts by the advise that is not totally an advise but crap statement. I've experienced that to my former friend and to my cousin that is why my treatment is different now unlike before.
@Porcospino (31365)
• Denmark
13 Sep 12
I am often the person that my friends ask for advice and I always try to give them the best advice that I can. I can tell them what I would have done if I were in their situation and I can tell them what I consider the best thing to do, but it is up my friends to decide if the advice is useful for them or not and they don't always follow my advice. If they ask me for advice about a topic where I have no knowledge and no experience, I tell them that I am unable to give them advice since I simply don't know enough about their situation or the different aspects of the decision that they have to make.
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@Metatronik (6198)
• Pasay, Philippines
17 Sep 12
That is right, it is better to be honest rather than pretending that you know what to do. There are times that they just want you to listen to them and they are not asking for advise. But then if they ask advise then you can always give the best that you can.
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
Its easy to give advices but sometimes its hard to follow since we have our own mind and heart to think of what we think is best for us, sometimes having other advice will only help as an option but we still tend to follow what we want to do.
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@Metatronik (6198)
• Pasay, Philippines
15 Sep 12
That is absolutely true. We are just listening to the advise from other people but then we still follow what we want. That is reality. In my case I just don't give advises just like that. Most of the time I am making sure that it will work to the person that I gave. If I know that person will listen and take it from me then I will give advise. But if that person is not a good listener at all it will be my choice if I want to keep quiet or make rebuttal if I am not on the mood.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
12 Nov 12
hi,
i could say that i am good to give an advises to my friends and to my family,and they followed my advises,but there are times that i can not give some advises because its not yet happen to me or i never yet encounter that kind of problem,i usually give advise depends upon on my experienced.









