notice the danger?

Romania
September 15, 2012 12:29pm CST
a few days ago a guy approached me on facebook. we chat and he asked me out saying he wanted to meet me in real life too. that wouldn;t be a problem. but there is one thing that really gets me worried: he's too...enthusiastic.I don't know how to describe it: he told me that he likes to kiss alot in the idea of us having a relationship ( and we haven't even met in real life still), he asked me if I'm dating other guys, that he would like alot to meet me because I'm extremly pretty ( and I don't consider myself like that)... one night when it was like 11 p.m he asked me if I wanted to go to a restaurant with him and he said that it wouldn't be a problem because he would come and pick me up with his car. I was afraid to do that. call me paranoid but I can't thrust a stranger and get in his car now I don't know what I should do...if I should date him or not. maybe if I went to a public place during the day nothing could happen
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courtknee525
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
15 Sep 12
If you're interested in meeting him, choose a place to meet that's very public and not near your house. Maybe meet up at a coffee shop or something. That way, you'd be in public and he also wouldn't see where you live and where you're coming from. But if you have a weird or bad feeling about him, then I wouldn't meet up with him. Listen to your gut feelings, they're almost always right.
alina
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
15 Sep 12
that's the problem my instinct tells me there is something wrong. I mean he seems nice but this entusiashm of his is extremly weird. as I said I don't consider myself pretty so I don't see why he would want so much to meet me. we haven't spoken that much to each other so I don't see what impressed him so much that he keeps sending me I love you and kiss you signs...it's just weird and I have no idea what to do. on one hand I want to meet him...on the other I don't know
courtknee525
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
15 Sep 12
Yeah, that does seem a bit weird for him to be saying..especially the i love yous. If you guys haven't talked that much then it seems a bit soon for him to be saying i love you. But, my boyfriend and I first met on facebook and we started texting each other before meeting in person at our high school. We hung out a few times and we were always together at school. He said he loved me before we even officially started dating lol. So maybe this guy thinks he already has strong feelings? I don't know, it seems a bit weird to me though. You can always meet him in a public place during the day if you're curious about meeting him. Stay safe!
alina
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
15 Sep 12
that's so nice. how long have you two been together? how it's just a bad feeling. I won't denny I'm a bit courious about seeing him in person. we spoke on facebook and messanger and we seem to like the same kind of thing. he seems like my kind of guy...but what is he is a serial killer:)))? I'm kidding. I guess too much CRIMINAL MINDS tv series messes with my mind and I see danger everywhere
Geomos
@Geomos (322)
• South Africa
26 Sep 12
Sorry I'm coming into this discussion so late. My advice is always go with your instinct (gut feeling) 'if it sounds too good to be true, it is'. If you have any doubt then don't do it. If you still feel like you want to take the risk then do it on your terms, for example meet him at a public place like a restaurant, maybe even with a friend. Don't let him pick you up at your house until you are absolutely confident that he is trustworthy. And by-the-way, don't be so hard on yourself by thinking you are not pretty.
Geomos
@Geomos (322)
• South Africa
1 Oct 12
Yes, a little too hard on yourself, you are a pretty woman. Good luck with the new relationship, I hope it works out for the good. Just remember to stay alert until you are sure you know him well enough.
alina
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
26 Sep 12
maybe I"m a little bit to hard on myself we met in the end and he seems a nice person. we're still speaking and we shall see what turns out of this. hope something good
smilywomen
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
16 Sep 12
Ohhh God dont meet him alone because online friends are not good. I watch the TV news 3 danger incident are happened through facebook social networking site and after meeting the user. You should avoid him if you not know him otherwise call him in public place dont in quiet place.
alina
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
16 Sep 12
of course I wouldn't take him to a private place. I couldn't thrust him so much in order to do that. I tought that I was the one having a problem by not thrusting people met on facebook. one of me friends went out with a guy like this and she didn't have any problem getting in his car. when I heard that I told her my opinion and she told me that I was exagerating
natliegleb
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
15 Sep 12
never ever try to meet strangers unless and until you are quite comfortable with him and know him very well front and back
alina
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
15 Sep 12
so you're saying that I shouldn't thrust him for now...that I should talk to him more untill I consider I know him better?
enelym001
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
15 Sep 12
You need to be careful about going out with a stranger. If you are going to meet him try to go with a number of friends. And not alone. He seems to be very interested in you and talks about kissing and relationship, so this is someone you shouldn't trust easily.
alina
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
15 Sep 12
so you find it weird too? I tought it was just in my head. but what would you do if you were in my shoes?
riempie9
@riempie9 (1021)
• South Africa
16 Sep 12
You are not paranoid and do NOT get in his car. Read up on the dangers of dating on the internet and one who would even give away his intentions on the net by wanting to kiss you should set off the alarm bells. If I were you I would cancel the current account you have with MyLot and start a new one under a different username. Don't fool around on the net with men you don't know and have not seen. What do you know about him? He could be anyone. Watch Criminal Network on cable or DSTV to see the number of young women who are desperate for a man and get raped and killed. I am serious about this. STOP all your correspondence with him.
alina
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
16 Sep 12
I"m sorry but I don't see why I should cancel my account on mylot first. second yes you're right I'm aware of the danger involved in it. this is why I didn't want to take the risk of meeting him at night or getting in his care. he might have good intentions but this excitement of his makes me wonder...
riempie9
@riempie9 (1021)
• South Africa
16 Sep 12
I can only point out the danger. You of course make the decisions on what is good and not good for you. Good luck.
Professor2010
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
1 Oct 12
I smell some thing fishy, better avoid him, well you can meet him, if you like in a crowd public place only, thnxs for sharing..
soraya452
@soraya452 (127)
•
15 Sep 12
You are smart to be concerned. You should never meet someone you don't know by yourself especially at night. Arrange to meet him during the day in a crowded public place, never go anywhere alone with him until you really have gotten to know this person. Take a friend with you, if he's a decent guy he shouldn't have a problem with it.