If you were given an opportunity to work abroad would you leave your family?
By blimb
@grkelly (1206)
Malta
September 16, 2012 4:40am CST
For me there is nothing more important than a family. They are the reason behind every little thing I do. So even if I were given a high paying job overseas I think it would not occur to me to leave. However I do come across people who manage to do this and are away from their relatives for extended periods. Cannot understand how they put money first.
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18 responses
@Shavkat (138671)
• Philippines
16 Sep 12
If there will be a good opportunity to work abroad, I will accept it. I don't blame other people to go overseas, it is matter of survival. Can you leave without money? I think it is a fact, sorry to say this. They leave for their own reasons, to provide pastures to his or her family.
@luxlyangels (1286)
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16 Sep 12
Just read this on my inbox now and I decided to say one or two things.
If I were given this opportunity, I would take it immediately, sometimes it best to leave your comfort zone, lots of beautiful things awaits those who take the bold step and leave their comfort zones. Its not about putting money first, sometimes your own happiness counts too, and trust me, lots of people are happy when they are far away from relatives.
@luxlyangels (1286)
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16 Sep 12
Okay that's different, for the nuclear family, that may be very difficult, but for the extended family, it wouldn't be difficult. This is my opinion though.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
18 Sep 12
My husband grew up in a military family and that did mean that he didn't have the opportunity to know his more extended family the way that I did. However, he says that he knows there really is something that is missing because of the fact that he didn't have the opportunity to live close to his family.
That said, I don't think that there is any way that I would ever be able to consider living far away from my family because of the fact that they are so very important to me.
@vandana7 (100007)
• India
16 Sep 12
I would. I mean, that kind of close bonding does not really exist between my only parent and me. I was mostly in hostels. Initially it hurt when we parted at the end of each year. But later on I became immune. When I used to stay at dad's place, I used to be ALONE. Dad often went on night duties and left me locked inside the home. Even otherwise, I spent most of my day time in the garden of the quarters that were given to dad. So yes, I dont feel alone anymore. I kind of enjoy it.
@riempie9 (1021)
• South Africa
16 Sep 12
Everyone is different Kelly. I left South Africa in the late sixties to live in Canada. I have been homesick all the time I was out of my country. To make my isolation worse, my husband's family did not like me and even though the whole family could speak English, they always spoke in Farsi and left me out. I regret and rue the day I left my own country for another. Can only tell you how it was for me; not what you should do. Good luck.
@chloe_19 (19)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
if given that opportunity i will surely grab that.. its not about the money issues its about providing our family the better future for them.. If i just stay in my own country and the cost of living is high and i might not able to put my child into a better school to provide them a good future i'd rather get this once in a life time opportunity to work abroad..
@youless (112424)
• Guangzhou, China
17 Sep 12
Having an abroad job seems to be great as it means a better income and challenge. However, I was not single any more. I am married and have a family. Now my child is little. I can't leave my family to accept an overseas job. As I will lose much more if I leave my family. To me, my family always goes first.
I love China
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
16 Sep 12
Actually for me it depends like what country and how much will be my salary, if its really a big offer and as long its in the country i want to work with then no problem with me and as long the job is good then why not, besides its for my daughter too, i rather want to save it for her future and for my future too when i get old so i will have a lot of funds when i retired, I cant stay with my family if we are lack of money to pay our other needs if the money we have is only enough to pay our daily or monthly bills and nothing for savings then whats the use of it. I don't want to see my daughter nor family suffered if i can do something about it. Though sometimes we need give out being selfish for our family future sake, it will gonna be like that forever besides i can still go back home anytime to be with them nor see them.
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
16 Sep 12
for sure,it all depends on the mood,if i am content,i would rather move abroad,or else i would stay with family for sure
@kheydia (882)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
We cannot judge those People who leave their family for work... They have their own reasons and they are responsible for them... But i m with you on putting family first before money, your pressence and your nurturing is the most important for your children specially when they are still young..
@timetravel (1425)
• United States
16 Sep 12
Some people - their children are older and don't need them around all the time. My kids are 27 and 19 - if I were offered the opportunity to go overseas to work for a few months I'd take it! If I had young children again, though - I would only accept if my family could also be accommodated. I don't see why they couldn't be - in the states, if your job requires relocation - they help with moving and relocating your whole family.
When I was in college, one of my professors lived in France for three years - he and his wife went when their oldest son was a toddler, and their youngest was born there. He went there to work for that time. The whole family was together. When they came back to the states, neither kid could speak English! Within a week, though - the oldest was forgetting some French....
@else22 (4317)
• India
17 Sep 12
No,I would not leave my family to join a job abroad.In fact,I am the only man to look after my family.My family has been struggling with problems and my son is not experienced to deal with these difficulties.Going abroad is no problem for me,but for this I would not like to leave my family.My family is my first responsibility and I would like to fulfill it first.
@toutze (42)
• Denmark
16 Sep 12
I wouldn´t leave my family either for a job. I´m a person who needs to be in familiar places to fuction right I get restless if I leave my home for too long and home is where the heart is and my heart is where my family is, so I to wonder how people can handle a situation where one is working abroad.
@soraya452 (127)
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16 Sep 12
Been there done that, never again. I had a great experience that I will never forget but I would never do it again. The pain is just not worth it. If your family really need to the money then give it some serious thought, if not then it shouldn't be a question.
@marguicha (221047)
• Chile
16 Sep 12
í tend to agree with you. But I have also seen cases where the only way a family can eat and have a shelter is if one of its members go to work abroad as there`s no work where they live. Such is the problem of many immigrants everywhere in the world.
@namiya (1718)
• Philippines
16 Sep 12
I had once and was almost tempted to until the last minute. A former boss who found an employment abroad recommended me and facilitated my possible hiring and I readily accepted it. It was upon receipt of the contract that i have to sign that I changed my mind. I am a single mother to my 3 kids where the youngest then is barely a year old and it dawned on me how will my children grow if no parents would be there to guide and look over them. My sister was willing to take charge still i felt guilty leaving them at such tender ages. Hence, i decided to just make do of my job then and i did not regret that decision.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
16 Sep 12
Yes if I will get this opportunity then I would leave my family not husband only MIL and FIL but only for some years because I want to earn more money in other countries and the return back to my country and start good business. For whole life we both husband and wife cant live without FIL and MIL.
@ShyBear88 (59329)
• Sterling, Virginia
16 Sep 12
Not everyone puts money first. there are jobs in the world that you can not say no to like if you work in the army you do what you are told to do. that means you eat when you are told to and stuff and that some times means leaving your family.