one promise..

@saphrina (31552)
South Africa
September 18, 2012 1:34am CST
One promise to love and respect you for life, unless you give me a reason to change my mind. Its hard for some to keep promises. How do you keep them? How much do you care about a promise?
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@primeaque86 (8105)
• Philippines
18 Sep 12
There are some factors why promises are not kept... I wont believe nothing behind... some factors are "lies"... another promise that broken also and it happens all the time.... another one is the absence of "hope" or the fading of "hope"... somehow we need to see the practical and real side of life, and the promise does not fit into... it's impossible to achieved...
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@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
18 Sep 12
If that's your opinion about a promise. I respect that .
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• Philippines
18 Sep 12
thanks a lot :)
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@loonys (418)
21 Sep 12
My B you can't trust a ten year old undies never to be taken off.
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@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
18 Sep 12
I think to most people it's hard to keep a promise. I still feel miserable about all the promise my dad made to me, other people made to me. If I make a promise I keep it. No matter if I am deadly ill, have to leave my kids alone or give my last penny. I lived like that for years. Only a few years ago I quite with it. It's useless if you are the only one who keeps promises. Also.. no matter if you keep them or not.. you always have to deal with people who never keep them, always are late, but also have a way relaxter life as I have. So I don't make promises anymore, put (have to) my own health at the first place and if I really did make a promise and can't make it I will say it in an as early stage as possible. Some promises I can't keep but most I will or will later. No matter to whom I made them (kids included). A promise is a promise.
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@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
18 Sep 12
that sad sweetie. I don't make promises anymore either. Better that way.
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@jaiho2009 (39158)
• Philippines
18 Sep 12
hello sweetheart I've discovered the mystery of promises. yes, promises- with an S. Cause of many people who broke their promises. In any possible way I DON'T and NEVER say a Promise. As I wrote, I've discovered the mystery of promises. Unfulfilled promises made by true and pure hearts with good intention are considered consummated. Maybe it never materialize but in the heart of that person, he/she never meant to break it. There are certain things that happen beyond our control,that no exact word is close enough to describe how it feels once it happened. Uh oh, I have had enough with promises sweetheart and the word promise is now added to my list of "ignored words".
@jaiho2009 (39158)
• Philippines
18 Sep 12
sids, let me extract one of my article http://expertscolumn.com/content/intent-heart Promises are made to be broken but for a heart that never knows the word lie a promise is divine word made to fulfill without dejection. An honest heart who made a promise never intends to break someone. His/her heart desires to fulfill a promise made, but for some reason he/she failed. It is the "intent of the heart" that matters when making a promise. The desire to fulfill is always there to honor thy promise and become real. As for a loving heart and full of understanding, whatever reason why a promise failed is not enough to distrust that someone. Because, he/she knows the “intent of the heart" of the person who made a promise. He/she knows and believes that a promise once made consummate the real intent of the heart. How great and kind a heart do have such faith to consider a promise consummated once it is said, yet undone! For those who believe that heart is the most deceitful of all deceivers How could you oppose to a loving heart that never gave up trusting a promise made to be broken? How could you deny love from a person who never accepts defeat when there is ray of hope?For many reasons in different seasons, love is great if you only knew the value of promise made.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
18 Sep 12
Unfulfilled promises made by true and pure hearts with good intention are considered consummated. I feel interested to know more pleassssse...
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
18 Sep 12
"It is the "intent of the heart" that matters when making a promise. The desire to fulfill is always there to honor thy promise and become real" Amazing! But if that is right then why do you say - I have had enough with promises sweetheart and the word promise is now added to my list of "ignored words".
@bounce58 (17392)
• Canada
24 Sep 12
I have been guilty of not keeping promises. So, I try not to make them. But you bet I try my hardest not to let other people down. Specially when it comes to people close to me. Although I fail a few times, it doesn't stop me from trying hard. Because when I do break promises, I too feel miserable.
@bounce58 (17392)
• Canada
4 Oct 12
People not explaining anything, and me on the receiving end of this: been there, done that.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
4 Oct 12
I'm sure you don't break your promises intentionally, sweetie. As long as you can explain why you broke it. But some believe they don't have to explain anything, they just don't realize how much damage they can cause. Now smile.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
21 Feb 13
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
18 Sep 12
Dear Saphrina If you asked me - promise me that you would be my friend for life... I would make the promise. If you asked me - promise me that you would be on all my discussions... I will not promise that because I know I will fail here. If someone is special to me - I consider if I can make a promise or not - this making of the promise depends on - if I can accomplish it I can think to commit otherwise not. For those who dont keep the promises they made to me... ah, I dont care as I have a very small brain and short term memory (for such things) - so most of the time even though I feel bad, it all gets normal in the next moment. ps: I am beginning to get worried about dear saphrina as I see that she has changed and something has changed her... where are the 4 liners and the emoticons gone!!!
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
20 Sep 12
It never took dear saphrina to respond back so late... is my dear friend busy with work or is there anything else? Should I start getting worried? no. i should not think about the ill things here and only think the good ones... - so it is busy with work
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
22 Sep 12
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
26 Sep 12
I am beginning to get worried now
• Dhaka, Bangladesh
21 Feb 13
Hi, when we promise, we must try hard to keep our promise. If, for any reason we fail to keep our promise, then we should apologize it. Have a very nice day.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
22 Feb 13
Hi sweetie. Yes we must try our utmost best to keep a promise not making fools out of others who depend on a promise. Apologize just don't do it for me. Have fun.
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@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
23 Feb 13
Don't even try sweetie as i won't believe you will keep that promise. No offense.
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• Dhaka, Bangladesh
22 Feb 13
Hi sweetie, I have not yet promised with you. Hahahahahaha. Have a very nice day.
• United States
21 Sep 12
Somehow as young as 13 I Knew love and marriage would not mix for me . So I would choose love. back then I knew if I fell for a guy I would love only him. And here I am many , many years later and I was correct. I would promise to love my guy for the rest of our lives and beyond. Luckily he feels the same. That last sentence is the one thing I Never thought would happen. Since my anti marriage stance was so different , I thought that I would meet a guy , fall in love , he would ask me to marry him and I would say no. His love would die and mine would live on. But it didn't happen that way. He said I love you I said I love you But I will Never marry you and he said Ok.The promise to love each other is the most important pact we have. If he fell out of love then the relationship would end. It would Have to! so we keep the promise and it is easy. It is like breathing.
• United States
4 Oct 12
I got so lucky!
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
4 Oct 12
Hi sweetie. I know that feeling to well. Some of us can only love once, with all we have and all we can give whether we get married or not. Once that trust and respect is lost, one only have an empty heart with broken promises. Even when a relationship end with lies and broken promises it can be extremely difficult to accept. Good to know you are happy and that you understand each other.
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@dpk262006 (58718)
• Delhi, India
19 Sep 12
Hi Sap! Yes, sometimes it gets difficult to keep promises, but I try my level best to keep my promises. I do not feel like keeping anyone in dark, I may not be perfect but I do not want to be dishonest. Else, I do not make promise.
@dpk262006 (58718)
• Delhi, India
6 Oct 12
It is really disappointing if someone breaks a promise.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
4 Oct 12
Hi sweetie. I was kept in the dark and i can tell you, nothing can make one forget that feeling. Keep your promises or don't make empty one's. It's hurtful, sad and disgusting.
@sjvenden27 (1840)
• United States
12 Oct 12
When I make a promise it has to be something that either I know I can and will do or something that I know I can stay away from or not do.. I grew up with empty promises.. I didnt like the feeling at all.. I do not make promises that often and if I do I follow through with the whole promise... Unless there are extreme circumstances; even then I still try to keep my word.. My word is my bond.. At least that is how I feel.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
21 Feb 13
Hi sweetie. That is the way to do it. Extreme circumstances can be understandable when it comes to breaking a promise. But to think someone is stupid for not seeing when a promise will be broken is unforgiveable. Thanx and have fun.
@jennyze (7030)
• Indonesia
18 Sep 12
I try not to promise a lot cause for me it carries a heavy burden. I just have to keep my promise or I would loose respect on myself... Does it sound too ideal? On the other hand, I would expect people to keep what they promised me, or else I would loose respect on them...
@vandana7 (93776)
• India
18 Sep 12
Sometimes we believe we can. At other times, circumstances change. And yet other times, we realize we made a promise being carried away by our emotions at the time. There should be some gadget that should prove the last one. That we we would know when to trust others and when to trust our feelings. :)
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
4 Oct 12
It doesn't sound ideal sweetie. Human comes to mind. I don't have that respect anymore.
@jennyze (7030)
• Indonesia
19 Sep 12
Yes, and when that happens I would apologize sincerely and ask what should I do to ease it...
@Memnon (2170)
18 Sep 12
I try to stock by my promises, so I don't make ones that I think I may be unable to keep (simple things like I will do that by Friday). Many people don't like that, perhaps they thinkI am being evasive? But what point is there in making a promise if you at unsure that you can deliver?
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
4 Oct 12
It's not worth the effort to make promises if you are unsure sweetie. People need to respect that.
@Memnon (2170)
4 Oct 12
Too right. It is disappointing the number of people who use the word 'promise' lightly.
@richnai2 (104)
• Thailand
19 Sep 12
Hi saphrina! How are you? The only time I will make a promise is when I know that I am able to keep it. This mainly goes to children because it is not a good thing to make idle promises to them, but even to adults, I will normally say "If I can I will..." so they know that yes, I will try my best but if I can not then I can not. Love is a funny one to make a promise. I promise I will love you as the person you represent yourself to me now. The person that you may really be I may not be able to love.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
4 Oct 12
Hi sweetie. I'm fine thanx and you? own views on promises. "If i can, i will " sounds fair to me. You can love me as i am the same online and offline. I won't ever pretend to be what i am not.
@richnai2 (104)
• Thailand
6 Oct 12
And nobody can ever ask more of a person than that! I am fine but very busy...I am trying to be more on myLot because I miss my friends like you!
@leahn011 (58)
• Philippines
19 Sep 12
A promise is like a scared word to gain trust to someone but it will only be broken of some reasons either good for you or intentionally broke it. For me, before making a promise I'll make sure that promise will be done but if I can see I can't make it I'm going to explain the reasons and if possible there's an evidence for him to believe me.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
4 Oct 12
Promises is sacred sweetie. No way around that. Trust goes hand in hand with promises. Break one and all is lost,
• Philippines
19 Sep 12
I mean sacred word ( sorry for the typo error)
@tyleremy (170)
• China
21 Feb 13
Hi,saphrina! Thanks for sharing you thought.Foe me, you just don't promise to her/him if you are not able to make one even if you want to win a boy/girl's heart so bad.If I promise to someone, then this thing comes to the first place to me,that's also why I don't easily make a promise to anyone.Another thing is I would never go out or make freinds with soemone who doesn't even care about promise.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
21 Feb 13
Hi sweetie. Thanx for popping in. Making a promise to someone takes a lot and mean the world to me. I don't make them lightly and i won't make one just to win someone over. That is just not done. I dont make friends as people really don't care about anybody but themselves. Have fun.
@dfollin (23431)
• United States
19 Sep 12
It seems to me that you are talking about marriage or a commitment to another person.If the other person keeps their promise as well then it is not difficult at all if you truly love that person. In my case,my husband and I made our promises before God and kept them.We had a great marriage,love and friendship.But,for whatever reason He had,God decided he needed him in heaven more after seven and a half years of our committment. Lifetime promises are not at hard if you truly believe and are truly committed to this person.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
4 Oct 12
Hi sweetie. Love, takes 2 to tango. One person cannot make a relationship work. Whether you truly love someone unconditionally and you don't get that love back the same way, why bother? I'm happy to hear you and your husband had that at least. He is waiting for you. I like your words, but at this moment it doesn't mean anything to me. "Lifetime promises are not at hard if you truly believe and are truly committed to this person."
@MsTickle (25182)
• Australia
25 Sep 12
I think some people don't realise what they are letting themselves in for when they make certain promises. They are shallow and agree to the promise without giving it much thought. Sad but true. Not all are like this but many are. The are weak and when temptation comes their way the promise is negligible, forgotten, not thought of and then broken. When the consequences of the broken promise come to light, the culprit needs to feel remorse and to want forgiveness. They need to show they have learned their lesson and to show contrition. Without these realisations, the person cannot be forgiven We all break promises at times and sometimes it is a serious breach. It happens because we are human. Some promises are linked to attitude and if we have the right attitude then a promise is easy to keep because we care deeply why we made the promise in the first place.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
4 Oct 12
Hi sweetie. I just couldn't have said it better. They don't feel any remorse as they will do it to someone else, over and over again. Wonder if they are human. Yes, we make mistakes, we break promises and we hurt those we love, but to feel indifferent about it, makes me start to hate. Not good for me at this point in time. Vodka?
@as2006 (5040)
• Israel
21 Sep 12
You know to promise is a very simple thing but to keep is harder.Once a word was with power.Today it's not such.I mean that if you promise something do everything you can to come true unless it's nothing and your promise is empty.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
4 Oct 12
Promises is empty sweetie. No meaning at all.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
19 Sep 12
Well, when i do promise, i always try my best to complete it...
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
4 Oct 12
At least you are honest by trying, sweetie.
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
I agree, it's hard for some to keep promises. I am fed up listening and believing in promises. Most of the time they intend to break it and broken promises make me in bad mood. I never promise as much as possible because I don't want to be called a liar if I don't make it. Once I make a promise, I will fulfill it. Promises are very important to me. The first time you break it, I will not believe in succeeding promises.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
4 Oct 12
Same here sweetie. I'm more than fed up. I don't make them, so i won't believe or hold my breath for those who make them to me.
@mikej143 (309)
• Philippines
19 Sep 12
Hi- For me a promise is a promise to make its just be our yes be yes and if not we were doing sin or a trust for that person just take note if your not sure of it don't make any promises.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
4 Oct 12
Hi sweetie. After 3 years i don't know anymore. Anyway, i won't believe anything or trust anymore, neither will i even believe any promise made.