A Revolation!!
By celticeagle
@celticeagle (189957)
Boise, Idaho
September 25, 2012 4:15pm CST
In our weekly family therapy session last Thursday our therapist came upon a thought that was a real revolation. (Funny how others can see things sometimes that those in a given situation can't.) For those of you that don't know my familie's background my daughter is bi-polar and has some developemental problems that make it difficult for her to follow through, track and remember things. And my grandson has ODD which can be very hair raising at time.
I have committed to staying with her and him and helping her raise him. I was telling the therapist about the bus incident(discussion link: http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2703284.aspx) and her eyes suddenly got big and she was excited to empart to us that she had this revolation. When Cami is down and in her depressed phase I take up the slack and get on a more level sleeping pattern and am more into what is going on and more helpful to her. When I am down she is usually spry, sometimes going into a short manic phase, and doesn't need the help or input quite as much and is even rather distant. So we compliment eachother! Like some ole married couple.
I wonder if you can see a similar situation in those you live with?
I have committed to staying with her and him and helping her raise him. I was telling the therapist about the bus incident(discussion link: http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2703284.aspx) and her eyes suddenly got big and she was excited to empart to us that she had this revolation. When Cami is down and in her depressed phase I take up the slack and get on a more level sleeping pattern and am more into what is going on and more helpful to her. When I am down she is usually spry, sometimes going into a short manic phase, and doesn't need the help or input quite as much and is even rather distant. So we compliment eachother! Like some ole married couple. I wonder if you can see a similar situation in those you live with?1 person likes this
5 responses
@sjvenden27 (1840)
• United States
8 Oct 12
When you live with someone and interact everyday its like you are a married couple this is correct!! Each person has strenghts and weaknesses, when you have a house full there are twice as many strenghts.. So it doesnt suprise me that in your therapy session you to were described as an old marriaged couple... Each person can pick up the slack of each others weaknesses.. I think that is why they call it a household versus some of the other terms... A typical household these days are made up of two families with the way the econmy is... hopefully that will change... but for now, its better to share the cost of living with a second family versus living alone and struggling...
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@celticeagle (189957)
• Boise, Idaho
9 Oct 12
Yes, living with someone and makes ends meet is best. Then live on your own when you are able to afford it.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
27 Sep 12
yes that happens with a lot of people I see it with friends, and when I was counselling. This is good that you made that revelation, or your therapist did.
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Sep 12
hi celticEagle that is a revelation indeed. I and my husband while we had a lot in common also complimented each other. He was outgoing, trusting everyone,I was shy, and retreating, not'
trusting every one and also not really liking my shy retreating
self, and he taught me to like myself,that I was somebody 
and unique so he helped me and I helped him to be more cautious of smooth talking door to door sales people and to not trust everyone he did not know,.so we did sort of compliment each other.
and unique so he helped me and I helped him to be more cautious of smooth talking door to door sales people and to not trust everyone he did not know,.so we did sort of compliment each other.
@STOUTjodee (3670)
• United States
25 Sep 12
Oh, I can relate to you hatley. My husband compliments me too also. He's very outgoing and talks to a lot of people that he doesn't know. I, on the other hand don't really talk to strangers, so being with him has made me to open up more to strangers, as in starting a conversation with someone. I compliment him on saving money. Before we remarried again he was a single truck driver, every time he got hungry he would have a t-bone steak and spend money but not save it. I've taught him how to safe money.
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@celticeagle (189957)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Sep 12
I am like you ,STOUT, and don't talk to strangers. Am rather shy. My ex taught me alot about myself and how not to be so shy.
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
26 Sep 12
oh stout and Hatley you are the same as i had with my hubby. he was more outgoing and made friends and would help someone even when i would tell him they were just takeing advantage. 
but he taught me to be more confident and have faith in myself. its why he was the best thing ever happened to me.
but he was like your hubby stout, he didnt know how to save money and i taught him how when on the other hand he caused me to get used to having things and i obviously forgot how to save
now that the kids live with me i cant seem to save a penny.
but he taught me to be more confident and have faith in myself. its why he was the best thing ever happened to me. but he was like your hubby stout, he didnt know how to save money and i taught him how when on the other hand he caused me to get used to having things and i obviously forgot how to save now that the kids live with me i cant seem to save a penny.1 person likes this
@cynthiann (18612)
• Jamaica
26 Sep 12
Yes, my hisband and I complimented each other. We were always laughing together and we both had this quirky sense of humour. He taught me and his children much about just getting on with life when bad things happened - for example when we were almost destitute after a hurricane had wiped out the crops. I still miss him so much. I am glad though that you and your daughter compliment each other
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@celticeagle (189957)
• Boise, Idaho
26 Sep 12
That sure sounds nice. I bet it was a great life for you and your family. Sorry to hear he is not with you any longer.
